Live From Love

In this podcast I share with you 5 new thoughts that I’ve personally been working on with my life coach and in my own self-coaching that have really helped me in my marriage.  I think they could help you to, or at least get your wheels turning about what new thoughts would help you!     Show Summary   So today I wanted to talk to you about 5 new thoughts that helped me in my marriage.   I’ve mentioned this before on this podcast, but my husband Kevin and I have been married for just over 6 years.  This is a second marriage for both of us. And while marriage is never EASY, some marriages are definitely easier than others, and that is how I feel about my marriage to Kevin.  We of course have our struggles, but I absolutely adore him.  I am so in love with that man.   But even with how absolutely amazing he is and how I feel about him, sometimes I struggle with my own thoughts about myself and our marriage.  So when I began getting coached by my own Life Coach, Jody Moore, that is one of the first thin

In this podcast I talk about what patience is, what it means to be patient, how we can develop patience, and how important patience is in our marriage.    Show Summary   So this year in our Stake (which if you are not LDS, a Stake is a geographical boundary comprised of several congregations) we are focusing on a different attribute of Christ each month, and this month that attribute is patience.  So on Sunday, we had a couple of talks on patience and it really got me things about what patience is, what it means to be patient,  how we can develop patience, and how important patience is in our marriage and in our families.   I was thinking back to when I was a young mom and I was really patient with my babies and my toddlers.  I didn’t get angry at them when they couldn’t do something for themselves or they didn’t do something right when I asked them or if they did it wrong because they were still learning.  They didn’t KNOW things yet.  So it wouldn’t have been ok for me to get upset at them or mad at

So when you think about your past, are there things you don’t like about it?  Are there maybe some good parts that you have forgotten or ignored?  Let me show you how you can change your past….or at least how you think about it!       Show Summary   When I begin working with my clients I ask them to name 10 things that have happened in their life.  I ask them to do this because it gives me an idea of what they are focused on.  Sometimes they give me a list of big moments, sometimes its chronological, sometimes its all positive, sometimes it all negative.  Sometimes its a mix.  Sometimes its just the facts and sometimes there’s a lot of feelings involved.  But its really about HOW they see their life.  It’s HOW they THINK about their life.   If I were to ask you about your past, you’ll tell me a story.  You’ll tell me about how YOU think about your past.  But what most people don’t really understand is that because its in the past the ONLY thing that effects you today is how you THINK about it.  The o

Are you one of those people who gets offended by what other people say?  If someone says something about you, does it hurt you?  Let me teach you why other people’s opinions are none of your business…because they aren’t actually about YOU.  It’s really about them!  And when you figure that out, it is amazingly freeing!   Show Summary   In October of last year I was introduced to a concept that changed my life.  My life coach told me that other people’s opinions were none of my business.  There was MY business, God’s Business, and other’s business.  I could control my own thoughts and behaviors, but I couldn’t control anything else, and really, it was none of my business.  And I was like….WHAT????  As a person who really tried to control as much as I possibly could, this news was life changing.  I mean…it seems like it would be common sense, but how often do we try to control and manipulate the behaviors, thoughts, and opinions of others?  But realizing how true it actually was, was incredibly freeing!  I

Whether you are dealing with a spouse, boss, or neighbor, you often have challenging relationships.  In this podcast I’ll share how you can make them work for you no matter what the circumstance!

Do you or someone you love suffer from anxiety attacks? So does someone in my family.  Here is how I help them get through it, and it can help you too!

In this podcast I get super vulnerable and share with you my own personal journey to mental health.  I hope you’ll listen and then come leave me some feedback! Show Summary   So I wanted to talk to you today about my journey to mental health and how I found Life Coaching.   Transparency. Not wanting to just show the good. Vulnerability creating connection. No shame.    I’ve probably always had some issues, but it really began soon after I first got married the first time.   Married life wasn’t what I expected.  He wasn’t what I expected.  He changed A LOT after we got married and I pretty much struggled from the beginning.   By the time we had been married for 5 years and had two kids, I started fasting, praying, and going to the temple about divorcing him.  My answer then and for the next 7-1/2 years, was “Now is not the time, you have more work to do” and while I was determined to be faithful and follow the direction of the spirit, it definitely affected my mental health.   A few years later,

What is mental health? How do get to be mentally healthy and how do we maintain it? In this podcast I will share with you: 4 Things Mentally Healthy People Do 10 areas that contribute to mental health 7 Ways to Maintain your Mental Health You don’t want to miss this one!    Show Notes:   Girl Wash Your Face by Rachel Hollis of The Chic Site 3 in 30 Podcast Dr. Leah Weiss   This post contains affiliate links.   Show Summary   Today I want to talk to you about mental health.  I think it is something we are really lacking in today’s world and something that is so important.  Most people think that mental health is just a lack of mental illness.  A lack of depression or anxiety.  I also think some people think they are mentally healthy because they don’t have a diagnosed mental illness like bipolar or schizophrenia.  But what I want to offer you today is that mental health is not just a lack of mental illness, but it is a state of awareness and well-being.  It determines how we handle stress,

Losing someone can be one of the hardest experiences we have as humans.  In today’s podcast I share with you 8 ways you can support others through grief.   Show Summary   Today I want to about grief.  An amazing man who recently moved out of my ward and neighborhood passed away on Saturday and a lot of my thoughts have been centered around him, his wife, their family, and then reflecting back to other times when people I know have grieved and when I have as well.   I’ve experienced a lot of grief in my life, and it’s never something that is easy, but the way we think about the person, the situation, and the death, makes a big difference in how we experience grief.   For example - I’ve mentioned before that my Grandma passed away a few months ago.  She was in her mid 80’s, she had lived a long full life.  She had suffered from dementia the last few years and had had two broken hips in the last 6 months.  And while I love her deeply, and I was still so sad that she was gone and I wouldn’t  be able to ta

Are you living your life out of fear? Fear of the unknown? Fear of being hurt? Fear of failure? Fear of judgement? Fear of your emotions?  Fear keeps us stuck and from living our best life.  In this podcast we will examine all the ways emotional fear changes how we show up in the world, how it keeps us trapped, and how we can face our fears and live our best life!   Show Summary   Thoughts are like clothes, you have to try them on and see if they resonate with you.  You don’t have to agree with everything I say.  You can take what you want and leave the rest and that is totally fine.  I know that a lot of my view come from an LDS perspective and if that isn’t ok, with that is totally fine.  I think MOST things can be translated to any religion or spirituality, but if they don’t for you, that is totally fine!  I get that I’m not for everyone, and I’m ok with that!   Now, if there is something I talk about that you have questions about or want to know how you can apply it to your own life, please sign up

Have you spent your whole life avoiding negative emotions?  Do you stuff them down or resist them at all costs?  Chances are you were never taught how to identify and process emotions.  On today’s podcast I will teach you in 5 steps how to identify and process your emotions so that you can live the life you were meant to!     Show Summary   So today we are talking about identifying and processing emotions.  What is an emotion?  When we think thoughts, our brains send a chemical reaction to our body which is what we know as emotions.  Sometimes our emotions can seem overwhelming and we can’t handle them.  We are actually conditioned from very early on in our life to resist emotions that are painful.  As mother’s we teach our children not be angry, or sad.  We do everything in our power to help our children not experience anything painful.  But what we should be teaching them (and what I wish someone had taught me) was HOW to deal with them.  Not resist them.  Not push them deep down and pretend they are n

We all know that we SHOULD forgive, but sometimes we don't know how.  When it's something big and the pain is too great, how do we move past it and forgive?   Show Summary   Today I would like to talk to you about forgiveness. And not just that you SHOULD forgive, but how you actually do that.   Forgiveness is key to having a happy marriage.  Our spouses are far from perfect, and as their spouse we get a front row seat too all of their bad habits and behaviors.  Things that we may once have found endearing can grate on our nerves if we let it.  But lets remember…we LOVE them.  We do.  So we can forgive them of those little annoying daily things that happen over and over and over and over….   But what about when its a big thing?  How do we forgive when trust has been broken.  When promises are made and broken time and time again.  When we have been betrayed.     This is what is hard.  Right?   When someone does something that you're feeling hurt by, it can be painful, but it is nothing more than a

How to build confidence in yourself so that you can be happier and show up better in your marriage and other relationships.   Show Summary   Hello everyone, so today I want to talk about confidence and how having confidence can really help you in your marriage and it can really help you in any relationship.  Confidence is a really important part of your mental and emotional health.  And building confidence is not something you can just do once and be done with.   It’s something that requires constant maintenance and is an important skill to learn.  It’s also something that people also don’t understand how to get better at. So that’s what we are going to talk about today.   So first lets talk about why we don’t have confidence.     Now in the LDS church, we believe that we are literal sons and daughters of a loving Heavenly Father.  We are DIVINE.  We all have infinite worth.  And that’s a really beautiful concept.  But why do we not believe it?   So there is a disconnect between this divinity and h

Life Coach Amanda Louder discusses 5 important steps you should take before you decide to get a divorce.