Sex Ed Before Bed

1 in 5 university-enrolled women will experience attempted or completed rape. Rape is one of the most underreported crimes - 10% are reported.  A world without rape. A world where sexual violence is rare. This is the goal of Sara's work on Flip the Script, a new Canadian sexual assault prevention program for young cis and trans women to assess, acknowledge and act. This episode is a must-listen for every parent and every young woman.  We talked about how the program works and the positive impact it has had so far. We talked about how young women want to have these conversations about setting boundaries, understanding coercion and pondering what pleasure looks like for them.  We also talked about radical self-love and for women, trusting our gut!  Resources We Chatted About  Globe and Mail Article  Draw The Line  Loveisrespect.org Sexual Assault Centres Near You  Follow Sara's Work Insta @girls.resist Twitter @girls_resist About Flip the Script Sexual Assault Resistance Education (SARE) Centre

With great attraction comes great sex, forever, right? Not so much.  Jessica Maxwell studies relationships and sex for a living. With Canadian roots, she's now an assistant professor at the University of Auckland. I learned things from her that I started applying to my own life as soon as the conversation ended. Topics of discussion Sexual fixed mindset vs. growth mindset What factors play into long-term relationship satisfaction?  How often are people having sex? Who else is thinking about how often people are having sex? A neat quiz to tell your partner what you want in bed (or out of it) The Orgasm Gap  What's the best way to meet someone we're compatible with?  How scientific are dating apps?  Double standards & myths  Fun Stuff Sex preferences quiz | Mojo Upgrade  Learn More  Jessica's website List of researchers Jessica mentioned along with media coverage of their work:  Terri Fisher | LA Times | Who lies more about sex, men or women?  Sam Joel | The Cut | It's All Too Easy to Ig

In 2019, I traveled to South Africa and Namibia. While visiting Cape Town, I went on a Township Tour with Lele Mbinda and visited his hometown of Langa just outside Cape Town. Lele opened my eyes to not only how people live day to day in Langa, but also how sex is viewed by adults and youth. Heads up that this episode includes a discussion about rape.  We talked about the following topics as they pertain to Langa Township:  the intersection of poverty, class, race, intergenerational differences and culture in how residents talk or rather, do not talk about sex the many obstacles to speaking openly about sex and asking questions dating for young people  the impact of menstruation on young women lack of awareness regarding harassment and rape suggestions for how to move forward and create more open dialogue  local perspectives on LGBTQ folk  STEM programming for youth The iThuba Project Learn More  The iThuba Project   Lele's Website   Episode Sources https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Langa,_Cape_Town

Jessica Ruano is the director of The Ghomeshi Effect, a dance-theatre performance about sexual violence and the legal system in Canada.  This interview stayed with me long after I stopped recording. With the proliferation of #metoo narratives in the media, this conversation is a much-needed dissection of sexual violence from several vantage points. Jessica doesn't give quick and easy answers, instead, she approaches this murky issue meticulously, using stories and research to punctuate her points.  Together, we grappled with these questions and more:  What kinds of people commit sexual violence? Are there good people and bad people?  Is it possible to reconcile our perception of a "good" person with something horrible they've done? Is it possible for someone who has raped someone else to atone for it and/or be forgiven?  How much do we want to exclude people who have committed such acts and with what goal in mind? Can or should a guilty person be brought back into a community?  Does ostracizing the g