The Jordan Harbinger Show

Alex Banayan (@alexbanayan) is the author of The Third Door: The Wild Quest to Uncover How the World's Most Successful People Launched Their Careers, which chronicles his seven-year quest tracking down icons from Bill Gates to Lady Gaga to uncover how they broke through and launched their careers. What We Discuss with Alex Banayan: What Bill Gates, Lady Gaga, Steven Spielberg, Maya Angelou, Steve Wozniak, and Jane Goodall all have in common. The role of luck in success (it's probably not what you think). Why mentors are important (and the mistakes people make when trying to find one). How you can reach out to potential mentors even if you don't have a connection in common to make the introduction. How Alex hacked The Price Is Right to fund this book venture and his speaking career. And much more... Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course!  Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps!

Nir Eyal (@nireyal) helps teams design more engaging products as demonstrated in his book Hooked: How to Build Habit-Forming Products, and shows us how we can break away from the distraction of this engagement if it's not serving us. What We Discuss with Nir Eyal: The never-ending struggle between traction and distraction. How variable rewards are used to keep you glued to social media like B.F. Skinner's lab pigeons. How to ensure you're moving closer to your goals even if your daily activities include what might, on the surface, seem like tangents. Triggers that cause you to lose your way and how to program your environment to avoid and mitigate these triggers. Why you're not really addicted to technology -- and why it's dangerous to say you are. And much more... Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course!  Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter ha

Jordan (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason (@jpdef) are back to banter every week and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday on The Jordan Harbinger Show! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now, let's dive in! On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: How do you stop yourself from freezing up when it's time for a difficult conversation -- or sugar-coating the point you're trying to make beyond recognition? How can you change the atmosphere from just hanging out with a friend to a date? You're improving yourself while your friends are content to get high and play video games all day. Can you help them up, or will they just drag you down? Do your friends really want to be friends with you? Should you accept the life-changing dream job offer even though it's just seasonal, or stick with the job you hate until you can finish college? If you've been self-em

Fab Morvan (@fabmorvan) is an inspiringly positive singer and songwriter who, as half of disgraced pop duo Milli Vanilli, understands better than most what it takes to rise above the aftermath of a career-shattering scandal. Also, he hasn't aged in 30 years and might be a legit vampire. What We Discuss with Fab Morvan: How the young and talented duo behind Milli Vanilli got suckered into fronting for other vocalists when they were fully capable of singing their own songs. What it's like to endure and recover from a career-shattering scandal with the world watching. Fab's practical secrets to positivity. Why hasn't Fab aged in the past 30 years? What legacy does Fab hope to leave behind? And much more... Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course!  Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally! Full show notes and resour

Ryan Holiday (@ryanholiday) is a media strategist, an entrepreneur, and an author who wrote eight books and ghost wrote another six by the time he was 30. His most recent offering is Conspiracy: Peter Thiel, Hulk Hogan, Gawker, and the Anatomy of Intrigue. What We Discuss with Ryan Holiday: How Ryan figured out what he really wanted to do with his life. Ryan's two-step process to solve for that. Realistic alternatives to college. How to make life decisions more strategically than most. What goes into writing a Ryan Holiday book from scratch. And much more... Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course!  Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally! Full show notes and resources can be found here.

Jordan (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason (@jpdef) are joined by Kim Seltzer (@seltzerkimberly) for this round of Feedback Friday! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now, let's dive in! On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Can eating disorder habits manifest in seemingly unrelated ways -- like how you feel about money? Is it possible to suffer from financial anorexia? How do you go about institutionalizing a legitimately psychotic family member? Can exes really be platonic friends? Is your imposter syndrome socially sabotaging your ability to mingle with the people you really want to be mingling with at gatherings? Do you have difficulty determining what is reasonable and what is not when it comes to your significant other's behavior? Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com! Connect wit

Coach George Raveling (@GeorgeRaveling) is a pioneer in transcending the intersections of sports, culture, race, and business. He is also the author of War On The Boards: A Rebounding Manual. What We Discuss with George Raveling: George's process for planning every day with intentionality and strategy. Why, even at age 80, George reinvents himself every five years. The best place to start with disruption. What sets apart great athletes and other high performers from the rest of the crowd. George's three fundamental responsibilities: to coach attitude, behavior, and performance. And much more... Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course!  Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally! Full show notes and resources can be found here.

Linda Carroll (@Lovecycleslinda) is a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship sage, and author of Love Cycles: The Five Essential Stages of Lasting Love. What We Discuss with Linda Carroll: What to do when good chemistry goes bad. Why falling in love with "forbidden" people feels so exciting -- even when we know it's wrong. What to do when we find ourselves Facebook-stalking old flames and fantasizing about rekindling relationships probably best left in the past. What happens to an otherwise good relationship under constant attack by misfiring fight or flight chemicals (and how to get back on target). How to get over the end of a devastating relationship and on with your life. And much more... Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course!  Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally! Full show notes and res

Jordan (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason (@jpdef) are back to banter every week and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday on The Jordan Harbinger Show! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now, let's dive in! On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: What's so wrong with a lawyer driving an Accord? Should you be firm or friendly when you're a landlord and you're pretty certain your tenant just lied to you about paying the rent? Is protocol for who picks up the check different between Maui and the mainland? 24 and thinking of living abroad? You'll never have less responsibility than you do now. How do you start making connections from scratch in a new field? When you own your own business, how do you give yourself a raise without making your clients feel like you're trying to pull a fast one? What's the surefire right way to refer to women? Recommendat

Annie Duke (@AnnieDuke) is a World Series poker champion, Ante Up for Africa co-founder, public speaker, and author of Thinking in Bets: Making Smarter Decisions When You Don't Have All the Facts. What We Discuss with Annie Duke: Thinking in Bets isn't really about poker -- and neither is this episode. Two things that determine the quality of our lives: the quality of our decisions and luck; we'll learn to understand the difference between the two. Common mistakes we make when evaluating decisions, namely something called resulting -- which all of us do -- which leads to worse decision quality over time. How we can become better belief calibrators, and why this helps us mitigate bias in our thinking and in our decision-making process. How Annie and other world champion poker players have formed decision-making pods with one another to help them get better at decision quality and strategy, and how you can do the same. And much more... Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship

Ryan Michler (@orderofman) is a husband, father, Iraq combat veteran, founder of Order of Man, and author of Sovereignty: The Battle for the Hearts and Minds of Men. What We Discuss with Ryan Michler: How the dismissal of masculinity as a positive force in popular society has led to an alarming shortage of strong, ambitious, and self-sufficient men. The 13 virtues crucial for men to reclaim their own sovereignty -- and what this means. How men can create a battle plan to level up skill sets within these virtues. Why acknowledging the enemy inside as the source of all troubles rather than blaming external enemies is ultimately empowering. How to formulate an after action review to analyze the effectiveness of every encounter, project, or conversation and grow from the experience. And much more... Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course!  Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Con

Jordan (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason (@jpdef) are back to banter every week and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday on The Jordan Harbinger Show! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now, let's dive in! On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: If you're catching up with the week behind us, make sure to give our conversations with David Burkus and Duana Welch a listen! Struggling with patience? Here's our advice for coping with the here and now in its own sweet time. How can you leave a positive, lasting impression to kick off a positive and friendly relationship with a new connection to your professional network? What can you do for a long distance friend in serious need of potentially life-saving help? Should you intervene in an unhealthy co-dependence between two friends? If so, how? Is traveling the world alone only for drifters and hobos? I

Duana Welch (@duanawelch) is known for applying social science to people’s real-life relationship issues at her Love Science blog and in her book Love Factually: 10 Proven Steps from I Wish to I Do. What We Discuss with Duana Welch: How jealousy differs from envy. The evolutionary purpose of jealousy and why it affects even the typically cooler-headed among us. How we can leverage jealousy like a human smoke detector. What makes both men and women jealous, and how we can use that jealousy to move relationships forward rather than tearing them apart. Jealousy red flags and warning signs -- and rational strategies to employ when we encounter them. And much more... Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course!  Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally! Full show notes and resources can be found here.

David Burkus (@davidburkus) is a sought after speaker, business school professor, regular contributor to Harvard Business Review, and author of Friend of a Friend...: Understanding the Hidden Networks That Can Transform Your Life and Your Career. What We Discuss with David Burkus: How we can grow our networks based on the science of human behavior, not rote networking advice. How to take advantage of our existing network's weak and dormant ties. What it means to be a structural hole-filling broker of ultimate value to our entire network. How to become a superconnector. Using the illusion of the majority to our advantage. And much more... Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course!  Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally! Full show notes and resources can be found here.

Jordan (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason (@jpdef) are back to banter every week and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday on The Jordan Harbinger Show! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now, let's dive in! On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Is there a way to encourage a significant other to work on him or herself without coming off as critical or patronizing? What if your friends are right and you really are an asshole? How should (and shouldn't) you open a cold conversation with a stranger on LinkedIn? How do you persistently remind a potential mentor you exist without being annoying? Why don't we have more women guests on the show? (Short answer: we'd like to! Please refer them our way!) Should being transgender change the way you network and develop social connections in the workplace? What's the best way to travel and explore the world a

Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) rejoins us to deep dive into why the fresh eyes of an amateur often spot what the professionals miss, and how we can get some of that so-called beginner's luck to rub off on us no matter how experienced we happen to be. What We Discuss with Gabriel Mizrahi: The experience paradox: while experience helps us solve problems with precision and focus, it also blinds us to alternative -- sometimes better -- solutions. Experts rely on technique and convention; amateurs are guided by insight and intuition. What Einstein understood about the importance of maintaining an amateur's mindset when tackling problems no expert had yet solved. Why making it through the amateur stage is crucial for growth -- or even beginning -- any endeavor. (If you knew then what you know now, you might not have even gone through the trouble of starting!) How we can take advantage of our expertise without losing the beginner's amateur insight. And much more... Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free net

Will Storr (@wstorr) is an award-winning investigative journalist and author of Selfie: How We Became So Self-Obsessed and What It's Doing to Us. What We Discuss with Will Storr: What is the neoliberal self? Are we born with innate self-obsession, or is it picked up along the way? What happens when our fictionalized sense of self clashes with reality? Why do we overprivilege and credit select individuals for the accomplishments of many while blaming ourselves for not living up to their impossible examples? The dangers of perfectionistic thinking. And much more... Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course!  Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally! Full show notes and resources can be found here.

Jordan (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason (@jpdef) are back to banter every week and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday on The Jordan Harbinger Show! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now, let's dive in! On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Our episode with Vanessa Van Edwards should have video by the time you hear this. Sorry for the delay! Andrew Warner is hiring a second in command to run Mixergy, his Silicon Valley-based podcast business. Are you someone who can't stop thinking of podcast marketing ideas? Think you'd be good at recruiting top guests? To apply, go to AndrewWarner.com/hiring The roommate switch? It can't be done. How might an obliger (Gretchen Rubin, episode 18) self-motivate to learn a new language? How do you take notes like a pro -- and put them to good use afterward? Remember: anything "free" comes with a price. What c

Bob Burg (@BobBurg) is the co-author of The Go-Giver Influencer: A Little Story About a Most Persuasive Idea, a parable about the power of genuine influence in business and beyond. What We Discuss with Bob Burg: Disagreement -- especially online -- is more common than persuasion or advancing the conversation. What can we do to change this? How "listening with the back of the neck" helps us find common understanding with others. The seatbelt principle of emotions and how we can work on our ability to react in ways that result in more productive disagreements. Setting the right frames and responding to negative ones. How to say "no" in a way that doesn't end up getting us in trouble later down the line. And much more... Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course!  Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally! Full show n

Vanessa Van Edwards (@vvanedwards) is the lead investigator at human behavior research lab Science of People and author of Captivate: The Science of Succeeding with People. What We Discuss with Vanessa Van Edwards: How to make a graceful exit with social cues. How to nicely interrupt someone with social cues. How to introduce someone whose name you don't remember. How to show someone you are (or are not) attracted to them with social cues. How to show someone you don't believe them with social cues. And much more... Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course!  Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally! Full show notes and resources can be found here.