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Melissa Dahl (@melissadahl) is a senior editor covering health and psychology for New York's The Cut. In 2014, she co-founded New York magazine's popular social science site Science of Us. Her first book, Cringeworthy: A Theory of Awkwardness, is out now. What We Discuss with Melissa Dahl: Awkwardness does not have to make us feel alone -- in fact, the things that make us cringe can serve to remind us of how connected we all truly are. Our concept of ourselves is often constructed externally -- by how we think other people view us. How awkwardness can help us have tough conversations about race, politics, and gender. How we can stop stop reliving embarrassing memories. How to remap and reframe feelings of awkwardness or embarrassment and use them to our advantage. And much more... Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course!  Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including

Jordan (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason (@jpdef) are back to banter every week and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday on The Jordan Harbinger Show! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now, let's dive in! On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Having trouble listening to this podcast on Android or iOS? We recommend CastBox or PodcastOne. Tips for someone with little to no self-control who procrastinates and is easily distracted. Is it strange to take the last name of someone you're dating -- even if you're not in a hurry to get married? What's our secret to reading so many books over the course of a week -- and do we recommend it for most people? Tips for learning about a subject or topic in which you don't have a lot of experience. Mean Girls and Heathers exist in college, too. How should you deal with these bantamweight bullies? What's the be

Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) joins us for this deep dive into why we all compare ourselves with other people, the pros and cons that arise from this, and what we can do to filter out the unhealthy comparisons we inevitably make. What We Discuss with Gabriel Mizrahi: Why we all compare ourselves to others and what purpose this comparison serves. Why we tend to compare ourselves to people who are similar to us (often to the detriment of our relationships). The two types of comparisons we make between ourselves and others. Strategies to stop the unhealthy types of comparisons we make and how we can make ourselves better in the process. Do we really need to compare ourselves to other people in order to be happy? And much more... Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course!  Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally! Fu

Benjamin Hardy (@BenjaminPHardy) has been the number one writer on Medium since 2015, is nearing the completion of his PhD in organizational psychology, and is the author of Willpower Doesn't Work: Discover the Hidden Keys to Success. "If you have to use willpower, it's because you actually haven't made a choice yet." -Benjamin Hardy What We Discuss with Benjamin Hardy: Your personality doesn't shape your behavior; your behavior shapes your personality. If you can't create and control your environment, your environment creates and controls you. What automaticity is and how it frees you up to be mindful of what matters. The four sources of willpower and why willpower doesn't work. Your identity is not fixed: how changing your behavior changes how you evaluate yourself -- and who you are. And much more... Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course!  Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence he

Jordan (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason (@jpdef) are back to banter every week and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday on The Jordan Harbinger Show! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now, let's dive in! On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: When your best friend had a romantic interest in you, you needed time to work on yourself. Now that you have those feelings for her, she's interested in someone else. What to do? You keep dating people who tell you you're someone they would want to marry but not date. What is that supposed to mean? Due to one unfortunate decision, you're broke and your best friend is a millionaire. How do you stop yourself from poisoning a long-term friendship with toxic jealousy or reverse the depressive spiral it's slowly throwing you into? How can you focus on cultivating a more confident vocal tone when conversing in

Denise Shull (@DeniseKShull) is a performance architect, ReThink Group founder, and author of Market Mind Games: A Radical Psychology of Investing, Trading and Risk, considered the Rosetta Stone of trading psychology. "The worst decision you make is always from acting out some feeling you usually don't know you have." -Denise Shull What We Discuss with Denise Shull: Why understanding what we feel and why we feel it is a source of power for creating change and spurring transformation. Why the avoidance mechanisms high performers often use to escape the influence of emotion on actions is counterproductive. How feeling negative emotions can help us decode hidden information inside those emotions to help us perform at our best. What we can do to recognize what we're feeling -- especially if we've regulated ourselves to feel nothing in the face of difficult decisions. How a thesaurus can be used to keep us from making mistaken decisions. And much more... Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking

Gretchen Rubin (@gretchenrubin) is a former lawyer turned podcaster and best-selling author. Her latest book is The Four Tendencies: The Indispensable Personality Profiles That Reveal How to Make Your Life Better (and Other People's Lives Better, Too). What We Discuss with Gretchen Rubin: We tend toward one of four archetypes based on how we respond to expectations: Upholders, Questioners, Obligers, and Rebels. Understanding these tendencies improves the ways we motivate and influence ourselves and others. We explore each tendency and how we can optimize our mental models and self-talk to get ourselves on the right track. We learn how to spot these tendencies in others and ensure we're using the right types of incentives and communication to get the best from those around us. Take the quiz 600,000 others have taken to better understand how these frameworks can galvanize significant and lasting change. And much more... Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini

Jordan (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason (@jpdef) are back to banter every week and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday on The Jordan Harbinger Show! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now, let's dive in! On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: You and your childhood friend's relationship has endured many trials. Will it survive the month he's spending on your couch quoting South Park catch phrases? Where's the line where loving what you do for a living crosses over into obsession? How do you make sure your voice doesn't get drowned out in a group conversation? Vocal demonstration: the cork technique. How do you move past the old boss defaming you among colleagues in your small industry's network? What's the best way to handle a friendship with someone who's become hostile and difficult to be around since receiving bad news? How can you get bett

Tali Sharot (@affectivebrain) is an associate professor of cognitive neuroscience, the founder and director of the Affective Brain Lab at University College London, and author of The Influential Mind: What the Brain Reveals About Our Power to Change Others. What We Discuss with Tali Sharot: When hope is a better motivator than fear -- and vice versa. Facts and figures don't tend to change minds already aligned to a certain opinion -- in fact, they can have a backfire effect that further entrenches people in their beliefs. The four factors that determine whether or not we're likely to change our beliefs. What happens when new evidence doesn't fit our beliefs, but it fits what we want to believe. When trying to persuade, it's better to seed a new belief than to contradict the old one. And much more... Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course!  Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps!

Jocko Willink (@jockowillink) is a retired Navy SEAL commander, podcaster, co-author of New York Times Best Seller Extreme Ownership: How U.S. Navy SEALs Lead and Win, and author of Discipline Equals Freedom: Field Manual. His upcoming Marc's Mission: Way of the Warrior Kid (A Novel) will be out soon. What We Discuss with Jocko Willink: Effective leadership values and strategies are the same across all fields and industries -- whether you're a Navy SEAL, an office manager, or a startup entrepreneur. The difference between motivation and discipline. The intersection between leadership and humility. How to create a practice of discipline that will be there when we need it. A good leader isn't necessarily the most skilled person in the room, but he or she knows how to bring out the best in everyone to create a solid team. And much more... Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course!  Like this show? Please leave us a re

Jordan (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason (@jpdef) are back to banter every week and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday on The Jordan Harbinger Show! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now, let’s dive in! On This Week’s Feedback Friday, We Discuss: How do you distinguish between someone complaining or actually seeking feedback and help for their situation? What advice would we give a 20-year-old? Don’t short yourself: overcoming height insecurity isn’t such a tall order. They like your qualifications on paper but balk at your age when you show up to the interview. What should you do next? How does a young IT or cybersecurity professional get his or her foot in the door nowadays? Recommendation of the Week: Derren Brown: The Push Quick shoutouts to lots of fans Jordan met at SMMW #18! Have any questions, comments, or stories you’d like to share with

Joey Coleman (@thejoeycoleman) is a customer experience designer, an award-winning speaker, creator of First 100 Days methodology, and author of the upcoming Never Lose a Customer Again: Turn Any Sale into Lifelong Loyalty in 100 Days. "We're not paying attention to maintaining the relationships that we claim are important to us." -Joey Coleman What We Discussed with Joey Coleman: Why everyone has customers -- even if we don't own a business. Why the first hundred days of a customer life cycle are the most important -- and if you can get the experience right within this time frame, you've got a customer for life. The eight phases of a customer journey and how they apply to business and personal relationships. The experience mindset -- why it's important and how we can develop it. Why Joey's only gotten three tickets in spite of being pulled over by the police 81 times. And much more... Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com

Dan Heath is a Senior Fellow at Duke University's CASE center and co-author of Decisive, Switch, Made to Stick, and most recently The Power of Moments: Why Certain Experiences Have Extraordinary Impact. What We Discuss with Dan Heath: Why we remember certain defining moments over others across the countless experiences of a lifetime. How we can use the defining moment formula to create such moments for ourselves and others. The opportunity most companies miss when hiring a new employee and how one organization goes over the top to get it right. Action leads to insight more often than insight leads to action. Why time seems to go faster as we age. And much more... Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course!  Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Full show notes and resources can be found here.

Jordan (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason (@jpdef) are back to banter every week and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday on The Jordan Harbinger Show! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now, let's dive in! On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Sending a question for Feedback Friday? Remember: No cuts, no butts, no coconuts! How do you best take care of business today when you're squatting from a suitcase at Mom's while awaiting a possible job offer from a friend's company? You're a parent and you've just caught your child in a lie. What do you do? What's our advice for dealing with conversational narcissists? How do you add value for people in your network when you don't feel like you're bringing anything to the table? What's the way forward when a juvenile criminal record and a dysfunctional family keep you from achieving your dreams now that

Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) joins us for this deep dive into three surprising ways to cope with suffering that we've learned during our recent period of massive change, stress, and uncertainty. "All experience hath shewn that mankind are more disposed to suffer, while evils are sufferable, than to right themselves by abolishing the forms to which they are accustomed." -The Declaration of Independence What We Discuss in This Deep Dive: The difference between suffering and pain. The three thoughts that make up the architecture of suffering. The phenomenon of meta-suffering. How much of the suffering we endure is actually under our control? The beliefs and mindsets we can adopt to manage suffering more effectively. And much more... Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course!  Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps. Consider leaving your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!

Ed Latimore (@EdLatimore) is a heavyweight boxer, physics major, chess nerd, survivor of Pittsburgh's public housing projects, and author of Not Caring What Other People Think Is A Superpower. "I'm so happy that I learned to like books instead of social approval." -Ed Latimore What We Discuss with Ed Latimore: What Ed Latimore learned from growing up in one of the worst environments in America. Why it's never too late to make big changes in your life -- and how to kick off the process if you're feeling resistant to making those changes. How Ed rebuilt his life from the ground up after one of his biggest defeats. Fear is a more powerful motivator than the desire to change. Why would someone who pulled Cs and Ds in high school math choose to double major in math and physics on a second try at college? And much more... Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course!  Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even on

Jordan (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason (@jpdef) are back to banter every week and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday on The Jordan Harbinger Show! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now, let's dive in! On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Having multiple dreams to pursue can feel like a Choose Your Own Adventure book. Do you have to settle on one page's outcome, or can you cut and paste your way to happiness? Do you really want to travel for a month with a spiteful, knife-wielding grump who begrudges the good fortune of his peers and is loath to follow the sacred A-Team pledge to "never leave a man behind" when hiking in the wilderness? How does Jordan read so much in order to prep for podcast guests? How does an immigrant struggling to understand American culture make meaningful connections in a small town? Would living in a bigger city m

Max Lugavere (@maxlugavere) is a science journalist focusing on brain health, performance, and longevity. His New York Times Best Seller Genius Foods: Become Smarter, Happier, and More Productive While Protecting Your Brain for Life is out now. "In the modern supermarket, dietary diversity is a terrible thing!" -Max Lugavere What We Discuss with Max Lugavere: Alzheimer's disease isn't just something that afflicts the elderly -- what can young people do today to ward it off? What does modern science have to say about the USDA's historical recommended daily allowance of grains? Problems like depression and brain fog can often be traced directly to our diet and lifestyle. How to arm ourselves for optimal brain function so we can wake up feeling awesome every day. How food companies spend big bucks on research and development designed to addict us to and overconsume their products. And much more... Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharb

Simon Sinek (@simonsinek) is the author of Find Your Why: A Practical Guide for Discovering Purpose for You and Your Team and Start with Why: How Great Leaders Inspire Everyone to Take Action. "We are worth more than the work that we do; the work that we do is supposed to reflect who we are and what our worth is." -Simon Sinek What We Discuss with Simon Sinek: Why high performers get depressed the more they achieve. Even if you love what you do for a living, it's only a part of why you do it. The role of trust and how to develop a culture of trust in your life at work and at home. Can we incentivize performance or behavior? Goldman's Dilemma and how many of us play a real-life version of this shocking thought exercise. And much more... Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Full show notes and resources can be found here.

Jordan (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason (@jpdef) are back to banter every week and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday on The Jordan Harbinger Show! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now, let's dive in! On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: New beginnings! New excitement! New puppies! New levels of sleep deprivation! Here's a trick to convey contemplation rather than grumpitude if you've got one of those resting faces. How do you turn from a Fibbing Freddy into a Trustworthy Terry? How do we prepare for a show? (If you're interested in the longer story, tell us!) Do you like this show? Please tell your friends about it -- we're starting from scratch and need your help! Why should a woman who has more in common with her boyfriend and his friends be forced to hang out with the girlfriend group at social occasions? Sometimes people who are