Solo Women Travel Tribe Podcast With Xena Jones

This week on the podcast I am sharing how I found love as a solo traveller. I'm sharing how I had a shift in thoughts from "I don't need no man to make me happy" to "It would nice to share life with someone" and how that new thinking drove me to take action and make it happen... I share my experience of being T-E-R-R-I-F-I-E-D to actually meet a guy in person for a date and I talk about the time I literally ran away from my date!

Right now there are a lot of things happening in the world outside of our control… With all this happening it’s easy to get focused on the negative. We want to stay up to date with what’s happening and be informed But sometimes we forget that we also need to balance out the negativity we are hearing with a healthy dose of positivity too. I encourage you today to seek out some positivity, remind yourself of the good in the world. As one friend said to me yesterday “everything just feels so up in the air and I don’t like it” … I get it. I created this episode in the hopes to help ease some of the suffering you may be experiencing. Sending so much love out to you all.

I have been travelling solo since I was 18 and now at age 33 I have lots of lessons to share... Feeling anxiety, worry, self-doubt and fear is all totally normal and it doesn't mean something is wrong. Remember to focus on the best case scenario. Train your brain to focus on the positive, because what you focus on grows. From mindset to safety and everything in between... I have learned alot over the years and I enjoyed recording this episode for y'all xx

We often think once someone becomes 'successful' that their self-doubt disappears... And this isn't true. I believe that when we decide to grow and evolve and to go after more, we are always going to have self-doubt. It is part of the process. Many people choose to stay in 'comfort' right where they are because of their unwillingness to feel the self-doubt that comes up... Self-doubt is a part of being human... It is a natural reaction to growth.

Think of a decision you need to make. Why haven’t you made it yet? ... Because you are afraid of making the wrong decision. And here’s the thing, decisions don't actually matter too much. It is how we think and feel about them that determines our experience... And our thoughts and feelings are complete within our control.

Feeling better is available to you always. It starts in you brain. It starts with what you are thinking. Our thoughts determine our feelings... We often think that once we attain something, THEN, we will feel better. But this isn't true. You have the ability to change the way you feel & feel better...

What is something that you are afraid to do or try...? Now think of something that you are SUPER confident at doing, something you are always willing to do. In todays episode I am sharing my own story with two of these things and how to borrow your own confidence.

We are ALL experiencing the 50/50 of life behind these scenes. 50% of the time we feel positive emotion, all is great and then the other half the time we are experiencing negative emotion. We are all human, regardless of how our lives look on social media. Take a moment to consider that without the bad we wouldn't truely know and appreciate the good...

I decided it was time to tell you how I got to where I am today... As the founder fo all things SWTT and a full time Life Coach. I am sharing my journey from self-loathing and hatred through to self-acceptance and love and how my whole world begun to change. This is a very personal and raw story of where I was and what it has taken to get to where I am today...

We just wrapped up our SWTT Vietnam trip and it was absolutely magical. So much so that I have dedicated an entire podcast episode to talking about Vietnam, the courageous and brave ladies who came on our trip and the lessons I have taken away... This trip was full of lots of firsts and so many amazing memories. If you haven't yet visited Vietnam, I highly recommend adding it to your list!

Whilst in Bali recently I experienced two earthquakes. After the initial fear disappeared I was left feeling super anxious. In this episode I am walking you through exactly what I did to process and let go of my anxiety. Anxiety is a feeling created from our thoughts. Once you establish what you are thinking you can see why you are feeling anxious...

I am going to teach you the main coaching tool I use with myself and my clients. This is a very powerful tool to use. This training is broken down into 6 parts: 1. Why coach yourself 2. Examples of when to use this model 3. Model explination - detailed break down 4. How to use the model to solve ANY problem you have 5. Examples and demonstrations of it in action 6. A thank you offer for y'all at the end...

Questions give your brain deliberate focus. And our brains both need and like deliberate focus. I recently got very mad at a post I saw on social media and I used self-coaching and powerful questions to turn this situation into something positive... The first and most important question you can ask yourself is what am I thinking? Bringing awareness to your thoughts is always the first step. These thoughts ARE the reason you feel the way you do.

How often do you find yourself saying “I don’t know”? These words do not serve you. They keep you stuck and create confusion. What if you did know the answer…? What might it be? What could it be? What if you just stopped thinking and saying "I don't know"? Imagine the ideas, wisdom and creativity that may come forward!

It’s not better over here. It’s just different... I have had a few people say to me lately “I wish I could do what you do and quit my 9-5 job” The reason you so badly want to create change in your life, whether its leaving your 9-5 job or taking a trip somewhere, whatever it is is, it’s because you want to FEEL differently. And you think that by doing “that thing” you will then feel better, happier. Changing your environment doesn’t make you happy or give you a better life. Happiness is created in your mind - it comes from what you think. In order to create a better life and feel happy - you’ve got to learn to look at your mind…

Where is fear holding you back in your life? Fear does not mean stop or run (no, you are not going to die!). You create your own fear within your mind and then let it stop you from taking the action you want. When fear is stopping you from doing the thing you really want to do - then it is not useful to you. And it is your job to manage your own mind and take action anyway. Feeling fear is a normal part of the human experience. However, it is not a valid excuse to hold yourself back...

When feeling negative emotions it's normal to want to comfort ourselves. When we are uncomfortable we seek out comfort and pleasure to make it all feel better. However our usual choices for comfort (food, alcohol, Netflix, shopping etc) are actually just a form of false pleasure. They often end up adding guilt and shame to the mix... The feeling you are avoiding and trying to comfort yourself from can't actually hurt you. It is just a vibration in your body. So how can you feel real comfort and not false pleasure? Click play and find out!

Have you listened to the way you talk to yourself lately? Did you like what you heard…? Let’s be honest… you usually wouldn’t speak to someone else the way you speak to yourself. What might change if you were kind to yourself? What might change if you allowed yourself to be enough? Who might you become without all the negative self-talk?? If you are kind & say positive things to yourself you will achieve more than you ever believed was possible - you would blow your own dam mind. In this episode we are talking about how to limit the self-judgement, increase your self-worth & feel great!

I recently took a solo vacation (a me-cation) and I spent a lot of time thinking… Here are some of the lessons I am sharing: - Focusing on what you don’t want, don’t like or don’t have only grows - what you focus on good or bad always grows - What if everything was ok exactly as it is - Self worth is not determined by anything outside of us. Our self worth is simply made by a choice - Travel doesn’t make you happy or bring you joy. The way you think about it, the thoughts you have give you this - Wanting and wishing for it to be easy isn’t serving us

Have you ever considered hiring a life coach? Do you know what life coaching is and how it can help you? This bonus episode is designed to give you some insight into the value of a coach and the work that I do with my clients. Your Brain is like an unsupervised child. It’s your job to give it some direction and tell it where to focus. Thought work offers you a way to feel better.