Solo Women Travel Tribe Podcast With Xena Jones

The #1 reason we compare ourselves to others is because we aren’t feeling good enough. Firstly comparison is normal, we all do it & we have evolved from caveman days to compare ourselves to others & once upon a time it was required for survival. However in todays day & age 90% of the time we use compassion against ourselves & beat ourselves up. In this episode we are exploring triggers that lead us to compare & how to use our compassion in a positive sense.

The more I embrace who I am without trying to change myself the more my confidence grows. The more I embrace who I am the more success I create in my personal life & in my business. I see am seeing this over & over again with myself & with my clients. The more we try to edit or dull ourselves and the more we try to change who we are at our core the more we rejected ourselves & thus further drain our confidence... I invite you to listen to this episode to hear about how this shows up in our lives and the amazing transformation that comes when we begin to fully own & love who we are.

Having your own back is a key ingredient in being confident and creating the life you want to be living. It’s like the cocoa powder in a chocolate cake - you can’t make it without it. Having your own back means loving & supporting you, believing in you, trusting you, backing you. In this episode we are exploring HOW to build belief in yourself & have your own back. And when you are ready to explore hiring me as your Life Coach book in for a free consult here: https://solowomentraveltribe.as.me/ Your future self will thank you for it.

In this episode we are breaking down the 4 steps required to set & achieve your goals. I share with you the most important component when it comes to goal setting AND I am giving you a motivational pep talk to leave you inspired, ready and excited to make this year your best year yet! Let's go my friend!

The words 'I should' implies that we are bad or wrong. Should creates feelings of shame & guilt. Anything that follows the words 'I should...' never feels good. We are effectively should-ing on ourselves. In this episode we are exploring the bigger picture... Why should you...? Because so & so said you should ? Because society implies you should ? Because you will feel better if you do ? When we replace our I shoulds with if I wanted to I could... we are met with a very different reality... Why haven't you ? I don’t know how or where to start. I don’t really want to. I'm scared or afraid of failing. You don't want to miss this episode!! . And this is the work I do with my clients I help you feel better about yourself & your life. I show you exactly how to feel happy & how to be more confident. And it all starts with getting on a free 1 hour call with me. A call that is guaranteed to help you feel better & give you clarity. Regardless of wether you decide to hire me as your coach This call will help you ri

Why are we waiting? Waiting till Monday or next year to make changes, set goals, go after what we want? When what we really want is to feel better. The reason we want to do anything is because of how we think we will feel. So why put that off? Why wait?

As women we have been raised in society to think that we must always strive for perfection and all too often I see this holding us back in the real world. Where men are willing to jump all in without the answers, as women we often hold back and wait till we are ready... In this episode I am giving you plenty of examples of how this may be showing up in your own life and 2 tools you can use today to start letting go of perfection and embracing your courageousness today! . Book your free 1 hour consult call here: https://solowomentraveltribe.as.me/ you will be glad you did.

What do you wish was different in your life? What do you think needs to change or who needs to change in order for you to feel happy? In todays episode we are talking about the ONE & ONLY thing that needs to change for you to feel better. Other people don't need to change in order for us to feel better.  Because other people are not responsible for how we feel.  Our jobs, relationships, income levels, weight don't need to change in order for us to feel better...

We have all thought this in some form or another: I am not good enough. It feels terrible. So my question to you is when will you be good enough? How will you know when you have 'made it'? And who determines that you are good enough? What if it simply is that you just get to decide and then practice believing: I am enough...

Criticism is the biggest killer of our confidence. We say mean things to ourselves in an attempt to be better & do better next time... but this never works. In this episode I am introducing to the tools you need to begin cutting the criticism and offering yourself the love & support you deserve. How we talk to ourselves will determine how we feel about ourselves. How do you want to talk to yourself? How do you want to treat yourself? What kinds of things do you want to say to yourself?

Discomfort is the currency of your dreams. Seek discomfort for personal growth and question where you are not allowing yourself to feel uncomfortable. Feeling our feelings is optional. It's much easier to avoid & resist but our willingness to feel is crucial in living the life we want to live...

Not following through on what you say you are going to do... Know what you need to do and you just aren't doing it... Avoiding & resisting that next step that will move you closer to where you want to be? You are not alone - in fact you are human. Your brain is wired this way! In this episode we are exploring self sabotage and how to create the emotional fuel you need to stop holding back, stop putting things off and stop sabotaging yourself and your goals. If you want to hangout with me on instagram come find me at: https://www.instagram.com/xena.jones.coach/ And if you are ready to explore coaching can help you change your life then book in your free call with me here: https://solowomentraveltribe.as.me/

Feeling guilt, shame or judgement and saying a bunch of mean things to yourself... It's like we are punching ourselves in the face, except it's a mental beating. We know we are doing it, we know it feels crappy and yet we can't seem to stop doing it... In this episode I am sharing 3 simple and actionable steps that will help you to stop beating yourself up and feeling like a toddler who is being yelled, screamed and cursed at for spilling the milk. P.S - Want to be more confident? Join my new Facebook community here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/bemoreconfident P.P.S - Book your 1 hour no-strings attached consult call and together we will discover what it is you desire and the map you need to get you there:https://solowomentraveltribe.as.me/

What if there is NO right or wrong way to do ANYTHING - what if there are no rules? If I don’t get a degree or qualification then I’m doing it wrong If I don’t settle down, buy a house, get a good job then I am doing it wrong If I don’t do it like this or that then I am doing it wrong. Today we are talking about the rules, the expectations and pressures we have placed on us by society, by our parents, our families, our colleagues, our educations systems, our religions...

I help my clients develop rock solid self-belief in themselves. Today, I'll do same for you... You are f**king brilliant. You are 100% whole, worthy, enough and complete. You have nothing to prove. The more you love yourself the better your life will be period. In this episode I am giving you a homework task! Start your own file of fantastic sh*t and show yourself just how brilliant you really are.

Celebrating episode 100 with best life lessons!! What we think determines how we feel and how we feel determines what we do... so in this episode I am sharing with you a collection of thoughts that have powerfully transomed my life. I am talking about life changing profound things I have learned, the teachers have taught me and the life changing impacts these things have created... DON'T MISS THIS GOODNESS!

Getting your sh*t together is not required in order to achieve your goals & create the life you dream of... In fact you won't have all your sh*t together in order achieve success. Success if built upon failures, upon a.messy pile of sh*t. In this episode I am sharing with you 3 powerful thoughts to adopt on the road to achieving your goals. I'm sharing stories & examples that show the messiness, the sh*t is what makes us human, real, relatable & it's what builds connections with others.

What are you waiting to feel ready to do? Did you know that 95% of the time we never actually 'feel' ready... Think about it - when was the last time you felt ready to do something outside your comfort zone, something you haven't done before? In this episode I am introducing you to the concept of willingness and to the idea that being ready is actually having the thought "I am willing to..." I am willing to do it unsure, I am willing to go first, I am willing to figure this out.

Feeling motivated is comfortable. It’s nice. It's how we want to feel in order to go do the thing BUT it isn’t necessary. We earn our motivation by embracing the discomfort. In this episode I am introducing you to a powerful tool to address the reasons you aren't motivate now and how to get yourself moving in the right direction.

096: Embracing Discomfort by Solo Women Travel Tribe Podcast with Xena