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We know there are times that you feel discouraged in your relationship, and honestly sometimes it’s just about an event in your individual life that isn’t going the way you would like. There might even be times that you just feel a general sense of discouragement when you wake up. This feeling isn’t from anything specific, but some carry over from the previous days or weeks. Either way all you need in times like these is a little extra motivation to kick start your day to jar you loose from the slump of discouragement that you feel. This episode is the short and sweet motivational moment you need to get back to being the best person and partner you can be!   Resources For Your Relationship: Watch our FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). Pick a time to watch it here. Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

There’s something you wish your partner would do for/with you. Or there’s something you want to receive or experience in your partnership. But you might have thought to yourself, “if I tell them that I want _____, it won’t be as romantic because they didn’t think of it themselves.” This episode is about rethinking what is really ROMANTIC, and how to set your partner up for success to fulfill your wants and needs….whether it’s a small or big gesture within the partnership.   Relationship Resources: Schedule a 2-on-2 Relationship Breakthrough Session with us and overcome any challenge you’re facing as a couple. Go Here and Sign-up. Connect with us on Instagram HERE.

A special opportunity for podcast listeners only at this time! Within the episode you will hear about the 4 Month - Couples Experience Group Workshops and Coaching Program. After you listen, if you are interested to be a part of the live expereince with us and want more detials, message us in 1 of these 3 ways: Email: connect@newpowercouples.com Text: 602-321-5652 IG: @Meet_TheFreemans   In This Episode is a POWERFUL followup to the last episode on arguments: There is a key underlying cycle that happens in every relationship. It is one of the main patterns that cause conflicts and keep them going without you realizing it!  This principle is written about in a book called Love and Respect by Emerson Eggerichs. It’s a very insightful, simple and powerful principle. Personally we listened to the first 3 chapters (on 1.5 speed) and felt we had gotten the point and urgency enough to put it into practice and share with you about it. Without realizing this cycle you will feel as if you are in a trap and can't get ou

Register for the FREE Communication WebClass TONIGHT April 12th If you are in Arizona, or close to, registrations for the in person Couples Workshop in Arizona on May 12th, 2022 is now open!    About the Episode: You’ve had this thought in the middle of an argument right, “what are we really arguing about right now?” This is a very common feeling about being lost or unclear about what is being fought about or what started it. If you think about it, when you find yourself in a place like this, is it likely you can easily find your way out if you don’t even know what got you here? Likely not!  But this is not just you, arguments have different layers and if you are unclear, like even about what your desired outcome is, how can you expect to be anything but confused and ineffective?!  That’s why in today’s episode you are going to hear our takeaways from the book “Thank you for arguing” and how we even used it to understand more about an argument we had (yes it’s true we have arguments ourselves!). As you will h

NEW COMMUNICATION WEBCLASS on April 12th 2022: Don't miss this live weblcass to end frustrating patterns and better understand each other. https://onlinecouplesworkshops.com/   Is the following communication pattern at all familiar to you? Partner A- attempts to share a feeling or need. Partner B- wasn’t prepared and then gets defensive. Partner A- gets triggered by the response and feels invalidated. Partner B- starts shutting down and disengaging. Partner A- gets reactive and brings up the past or blames. Partner B- retreats and withdraws their attention, energy and love for a day or even a few. Imagine if you could finally break this pattern! That is what this episode is all about and you will see a key way to interrupt this pattern to go from disconnection and frustration to connection and understanding.    Resources For Your Relationship: Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

You know those moments when you're frustrated or disappointed in your partnership? Have you thought about what the ROOT cause of the frustration is? Don’t worry, most people we talk to haven’t identified it, which is why we’re covering it on today’s episode. This principle will be ESPECIALLY helpful if you tend to run into the same thing over and over again or you feel like “we’ll never see eye to eye on this.” By the end of this episode, you will know exactly what to reflect on personally AND discuss to help eliminate most upsets.  Also, schedule a Relationship Breakthrough Session with us. We take you through our powerful expectation process and you will know how to handle things differently together. Read the details and book one of the 5 spots HERE.   Resources For Your Relationship: Watch our FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). Pick a time to watch it here. Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 o

All relationships go through seasons of adjustments when "bigger" life events happen. The goal isn’t to avoid big life events or challenges, or even try to just make it through it. These seasons are the opportunities to grow the most in your relationship. To do that however you will have to be more flexible, proactive in your communication, and have more grace for each other so that you stay together and not have the event create separation.    Our big life event has been having our baby, who is now 3 months old! Many of you are of course interested in our specific parenting updates around what is working well for us, what challenges we have faced, and how we have gotten even closer together. In this episode you will hear just that, but also the tools that we use ourselves so that you too can maintain your connection no matter what life season you find yourself in.   Resources For Your Relationship: You can also sign-up for a 2-on-2 Relationship Breakthrough Session here   Parenting Resources From Episode: D

We posted this question on IG and got a TON of interesting comments. A bit of a range in answers from “NOPE, definitely not” to “Shouldn’t we focus on sacrificial love and put others before ourselves”? So we’re going to address some of the nuances of the comments and some specific points to really answer this question. We admit that like a few comments, it’s not just a yes or no answer. So in this episode we will cover what needs to be in place and how can needs/wants get communicated to not run into having to sacrifice but find what is best for the relationship.   Resources For Your Relationship: Sign-up for the 2-on-2 Relationship Breakthrough Session here   Watch our FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). Pick a time to watch it here. Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

Not too many people have the most ideal relationship that they would like. Even if your relationship is going well, you are on the same page about the direction of life, you have the jobs and life that you enjoy and you manage things well together... there is still a place you would like to be even a little better. It might seem like this has been a sticking place for a longer period of time and it seems like it is difficult to really make that change. The reason is that this is a subconscious pattern driving the same actions and reactions within you.  In this episode you will hear how to initially access this subconscious pattern and then identify where (in your past with your parents) this is coming from.    Resources For Your Relationship: The nature of this subconscious pattern makes it difficult to identify and change on your own. So if you would like support in this area you can also sign-up for a 2-on-2 Relationship Breakthrough Session here   Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of

Intimacy is a huge part of a relationship and if you have been listening here for a little while, you know we are big on both emotional intimacy through communication as well as physical intimacy. For many partners too, if emotional intimacy is missing it’s hard to want to be physically intimate let alone be able to explore and expand this area. We are always learning and open to expand any of our own limits and boundaries in our own relationship From society you probably think of sex mostly as penetration, or from the purely sexual dynamic. But that’s often rushed without the consideration of the other styles of intimacy. When the energetics aren’t there often the sex isn’t that satisfying. There is a subtle and critical interplay with the energy between a couple that can quickly deflate an intimate interaction.  In this episdoe you will hear the profound lessons we learned as we went through the practice together during an intimacy/power dynamic sub/dom class on our trip to Hawaii.    Resources For Your Rel

FREE Course Giveaway - Order our book, The Argument Hangover, then write a review on Amazon to be entered into a drawing for a course of your choice!  Men and women can experience different types of challenges within the same relationship. The difficult thing about that is when it gets expressed to your partner, it can be easily dismissed as being irrational. This is only because the other partner doesn't see things the same way. But this doesn't make it any less impactful.  So the goal of this episode is to bring awareness to the specific challenges that women feel, so that it can be more easily expressed and understood by their partners. In this episode you will hear 3 challenges that women are experiencing in mariages right now!    Resources For Your Relationship: Watch our FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). Pick a time to watch it here.   About Us: We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable r

FREE Course Giveaway - Order our book, The Argument Hangover, then write a review on Amazon to be entered into a drawing for a course of your choice!  Men and women can experience different types of challenges within the same relationship. The difficult thing about that is when it gets expressed to your partner, it can be easily dismissed as being irrational. This is only because the other partner doesn't see things the same way. But this doesn't make it any less impactful.  So the goal of this episode is to bring awareness to the specific challenges that men feel, so that it can be more easily expressed and understood by their partners. In this episode you will hear 3 challenges that men are experiencing in mariages right now!    Resources For Your Relationship: Watch our FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). Pick a time to watch it here.   About Us: We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relat

Join the 5 Day Couples Challenge that starts Feb 7th, 2022. Connect with other couples as we go through daily training of the 5 C's for a strong relationship and even get a FREE book!   Ever wonder WHY your partner does things the way they do? Or maybe why they WON’T do something a certain way (like the way you asked them to)? The latter is more likely to happen which is then what leads to saying something like “I would like you to stop _____ “ or “why can’t you just _____”. In either case you are looking for a change in behavior. When it doesn’t happen, you just get more frustrated.  Todays’ episode will reveal the deeper way to understand their psychology and what drives their choices and actions. Plus, it’ll help you understand yourself more as well and why you even do the things you do (or don’t do)! Think of todays’ episode as the only way you can ever really change a pattern you feel stuck with.   Resources For Your Relationship: Watch our FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument

Being rejected by another person is a pretty defeating feeling to have. All of us have experienced that at one point in our lives whether it was dating someone, rejected for a job you wanted, or even by someone that used to be a friend.  You probably don’t think about it too much once you are married because well…you are married to that person and they are not going anywhere! Rejection usually comes with a forced physical separation, that’s why in your relationship, the feeling of being rejected can be even more painful. Underneath you can feel rejected in your ideas, how you communicate, even in your habits. This feeling can be why you don’t bring up certain topics to your partner or even why you feel tension lingering between you and them. In this episode you will hear the steps you can take if feeling rejected is a fear that has been creating emotional distance from your partner.    Resources For Your Relationship: Watch our FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect

It's a part of all relationships, at one point you have said (to yourself or aloud) "how do I get my partner to _____"? There is something that your partner does that makes you feel well... not the most stellar! Because you feel a certain way you want them to change something.  We are all about growth and change, that's what being in a relationship is all about. However there are better ways to "influence" your partner to make changes, that won't put them on the defensive or have them shut you out.  In this episode you will get 2 steps to take that will help you create influence with your partner so that you both see the change that you desire in the relationship.   Resources For Your Relationship: Watch our FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). Pick a time to watch it here. Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)   About Us: We’re The Fre

Watch our NEW FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). You can pick a time to watch it here.   The idea of having good habits is so simple and it probably feels like it’s overly talked about. Every person on social media that jumps in to be an influencer or coach is going to talk about your “habits”. We all have some good habits, and some bad ones… but we would say maybe there are not “bad” just habits that do not serve you any more. There will be many times in your relationship that you will find this to be true as well. There are some habits (whether in communication, roles, financial, or even task management) that do not serve your relationship any longer.  At the end of the day habits are very powerful because the majority of the actions you take in a day, even the thoughts that you think or the emotions that you feel… are just habits. We have found that there are many “habits” we have put in place that are vital to the he

Watch our NEW FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). You can pick a time to watch it here. So you’re having a seemingly simple conversation with your partner or a perfectly normal day, and then BAM things escalate into an unexpected conflict. It’s frustrating when that happens! Many times that happens because of the way one of you initiates the conversation, and then the way the other person listens. So today’s episode gives you 2 simple ways (that literally take you 5 seconds) to prevent these simple conversations from becoming an unnecessary conflict.   Episode Resources & Links: Tiny Habits by BJ Fogg HERE

The “forgetting curve” principle shows that your partner is likely to forget 50% within an hour, 70% within 24 hours, and 90% within a week. So if this is true, why on earth would we expect our partner to remember something we express ONE time: like a want/need?! Since human memory can’t be relied on and your partner likely has a lot on their mind/plate, then we need to partner with them by effectively providing gentle, loving reminders. But what about nagging?! Someone asked this on our Instagram post. In this episode we distinguish between “nagging” your partner and healthy “assertiveness.” Assertiveness is empowering, and a skill we all can get better at in a relationship. To better use this skill in your conflict repair: Watch the FREE WebClass on The 5 Step Process to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes, Instead of Hours, Days or Weeks. Register and watch here.

Baby Freeman is HERE! If you’re seeing this episode it means our baby girl was born :) But we recorded these episodes to make sure you have resources while we’re snuggling her. The opposite of “Permission Based Communication” is “Permission-Less Communication”....which is more likely to lead to defensiveness, backlash, or an unintended argument.  The thing is, it’s not respectful to just bring up a topic whenever YOU want to talk about it. Why? Because it’s not respecting and honoring your partner’s boundaries or taking into account if they’re really and open and prepared for it. And this applies to moments when you want to: ask them to do something, express feelings you have about a certain issue, give them feedback, etc.  Implementing “Permission-Based Communication” will help you two have more constructive conversations, so you’ll love this episode!    Also, make sure you watch the FREE WebClass we recorded for you all: The 5 Step Process to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes, Inste

End the year by having this meaningful conversation together as a couple about your life and relationship goals. Life goes by pretty quickly, so it’s important to pause each year and make sure you’re on track with what’s important to you both.  Plus, you will feel a new sense of partnership and inspiration when you have one or more goals that you’re pursuing together. Tune in to this episode to hear: How it benefits your partnership to have goals you pursue together Step-by-step how to have this conversation about your goals and priorities 3 meaningful questions to ask each other   Resources Mentioned: Watch our NEW FREE WebClass on--> The 5 Steps to Repair After An Argument So You Reconnect in Just Minutes, Instead of Hours, Days, or Weeks Book called Limitless by Jim Qwik   About Us: We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us