Empowered Couples

Masculine and Feminine energy exists within all of us, and is critical to feeling “in sync” with your partner (rather than resistant). The masculine energy is: action-oriented, discerning, directive, logical. And feminine energy is: feelings-oriented, receptive, intuitive If you experience resistance, tension, or even a lack of “attraction,” it could be because one or both of you is out of balance in your masculine/feminine energies. This episode is going to give you an interesting take on your communication and relationship. Get ready for a powerful reflection!   Resources in this episode: NEW FREE WebClass: The 5 Steps to Repair After an Argument in Just Minutes HERE Mars and Venus in the Bedroom by John Gray HERE Sacred Relationships book HERE

A NEW, SURPRISE (and FREE) Resource announced on this episode!  The way you two repair after a conflict will either lead to emotional baggage or emotional healing and bonding. The thing is, it can be hard to set aside the ego and focus on repair, especially when you also feel hurt about some things said and done during the argument. This episode focuses on the MOST critical step to repair (of the 5 total), which also tends to be the hardest.  But by focusing on this step we share, you WILL resolve things faster, and move towards emotional healing. Tune in for this critical step to take.   Relationship Resources: YOU GET EARLY ACCESS to our brand new (and free) WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (instead of hours, days, weeks). GO HERE TO SIGN-UP AND WATCH.

Every interaction is either a deposit or withdrawal from your partner’s “love account”. Meaning, every little remark you make or thing you say either deposits love and connection or it takes some away. The thing is, less “love deposits” are made for couples who are together a while or find themselves in busy seasons of life.  Most couples will go through seasons like these where they need to be making more deposits but they are actually making more withdrawals unconsciously. This isn’t just a relational “nice idea” because the level of your love accounts determines how on edge, reactive, and snappy you are to each other. The hardest thing about having a low account is that you are much less willing to do the thing you need, to fill it back up…   Resources For Your Relationship: Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)   *It would be an amazing baby gift if you would leave a review for the book. As content creators, that is a h

There has always been a focus on the future that we each want to create. As a couple this can be in the form of setting goals or establishing your vision statement. This is a great thing because you can’t get anywhere if you don’t know where you want to go. But sometimes this can leave you feeling disappointed that you are “not there yet” or be discouraged when you feel you are not making as much progress as you would like.  In this solo episode with Aaron you will hear how there is a gap that gets created from this thinking, which can cause you to feel more disappointed about the relationship, when really you just need to change a particular focus. You will hear how you can close the gap between where you want to be and where you are now, so that you are not left feeling discouraged about your current relationship or your partner. You will easily gain appreciation and gratitude by making this one small shift.   Episode Resources & Links: Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free b

The Danish people have ranked as the “happiest people on earth” for 40 years in a row starting in the 70’s, only to be rivaled by Norwegian and Finish people over the last several years. And their happiness isn’t dependent on things like: the weather or low taxes (it’s actually pretty cold and dark there, and they have relatively higher taxes)....so they must be doing something else right to be so happy. So in today’s episode we cover 3 of the traits that they focus on to be the happiest people. Many of the traits we KNOW are critical to having a happy marriage. Of course just being a happier individual will lead to a happier relationship, but you will be able to know exactly what traits to improve in your relationship, so that your own happiness is intentional and not just based on better life circumstances.   Episode Resources & Links: If you’re a parent, attend the WebClass taught by parenting expert, Amy McCready, on November 10th. Details and registration HERE. Read the book we referred to in the po

Episode Resources & Links: FREE Parenting WebClass with Amy McCready on November 10th HERE Hypnobabies Program for Natural Birth HERE Pelvic Floor Birth Program (One Strong Mama) HERE The Conscious Parent book by Dr Shefali HERE Video on baby communication sounds HERE Elimination Communication (Go Diaper Free) HERE   There are many ways to parent a child and even the way of "let's just figure it out as we go". We wanted to take this episode to share with you about our prep for becoming parents this coming December.  As we are so into communication and emotional intelligence between couples, you shouldn't be surprised that we are learning about how to do that with our own daughter.  Of course reading and listening is not the same as the "as lived experience", there are a number of philosophies and parenting guidelines that we are committed to implementing so that we can be truly conscious parents. Being conscious parents will allow us the best opportunity to raise a conscious child.  By no means are we

If you are a parent (or soon to be) you must attend the FREE Webinar with our guest Amy McCready on November 10th at OnlineCouplesWorkshops.com/parenting because she’s takes all the topics today even deeper to the specific how-tos!  As you can already tell we have a guest on this episode and it's none other than nationally renoun parenting expert Amy McCready!  Amy is the founder of Positive Parenting Solutions, parenting contributor on the TODAY show, best-selling author, and creator of The 7-Step Parenting Success System that has helped over 100,000 parents of toddlers to teens bring peace into their homes.  During this episode you will hear: What to do if you disagree on your parenting philosophy like authoritative vs her method of Positive Parenting Solutions  What to do if triggered by your kids and preventing an argument with partner and How to make sure your partnership AND your parenting thrives at the same time.  Don't forget to register for the follow-up FREE Webclass that Amy is doing for our com

Every one of us humans has needs that need to be fulfilled to have a good life. Part of this search to fulfill these needs is what leads you to get into a relationship in the first place. You might think about survival type needs to begin with like food and shelter, but these are emotional needs that all of us seek to have fulfilled.  Since these 6 needs are emotionally based it can be easy to not pay attention to them which leads to it being easy to let them decline. Though it isn’t immediately obvious, the lack of these needs is what leads us to all our actions. When they are low in a relationship, it can lead to taking small innocent actions that lead to bigger issues of trust and disconnection.  In this episode you will hear the 6 human needs that were made famous by a Tony Robbins TED talk, but you will hear examples of how this places out in your relationship. We give you two actions to take to figure out your top two needs and the way to make sure you are always on top of where your partner’s level of

Be honest: have you and/or your partner been nit-picking, critiquing or questioning each other more lately? Being real, we have noticed this in our own relationship over the last couple of weeks and it’s something we’re bringing awareness to shifting between us.  We noticed that these additional (and mostly unnecessary) remarks to each other were leaving us feeling unaccepted by each other. Not only that, but also a bit depleted and more on edge around each other at home. Maybe you’ve felt this too? In this episode we cover: The bigger “danger” of the build up of nit-picking and questioning each other 2 critical mindset shifts to make within yourself so you’re not doing this to your partner too much 3 simple, but powerful questions to ask yourself in the moment before you make the remark   Resources For Your Relationship: Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training) We talked about knowing what is important in the moment, and o

How many of your past arguments and conflicts actually get fully repaired? Do you feel that from every emotional impact, your partner has fully understood you, that they acknowledge the role they played in you feeling that way, and you believe things will be put in place to make the necessary change for it to not happen again?  These are just some of the points that need to happen to fully repair from a conflict in your relationship. Just saying I’m sorry to move on often doesn’t cut it. In this episode we will share about a shocking and surprising life event that happened this week and how it shows us that we do not have life to waste being unresolved about conflicts in our marriage. You will feel the same level of urgency to not waste your life being disconnected or resentful toward your partner and have key ways to improve your “apology” so that you truly repair from any challenge and emotional impact in your life!   Resources For Your Relationship: Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200

Register for the LAST FREE WebClass in 2021 happening October 5th. It will cover strategies for preventing conflict, de-escalating triggers, and repairing after conflict. Save your seats here. There are some misconceptions about resolving conflicts in a relationship. What doesn’t actually resolve anything is trying to jump right to a solution, or distracting yourself long enough where the high level of emotion has subsided. This will only build into resentment or at a minimum, start to seed disconnection and discontent within the relationship.   In today’s podcast episode you’ll hear: The 3 questions to ask yourself to actually start the repair process and not have lingering emotions get stored up for you to react to later.   Resources For Your Relationship: Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)   About Us: We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship qu

Register for the LAST FREE WebClass in 2021 happening October 5th. It will cover strategies for preventing conflict, de-escalating triggers, and repairing after conflict. Save your seats here. You cannot blame your behavior in the “mid-conflict” stage on your partner! Nope, you must take ownership of your patterns if you’re going to have any chance of changing them. But that’s why we call them patterns….because patterns can be changed and you aren’t stuck a certain way!  In today’s podcast episode you’ll hear: The importance of humbling yourself and taking ownership of your default patterns during conflict What happens to your brain when emotion kicks in Steps to break these destructive patterns in the mid-conflict stage   Resources For Your Relationship: Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)   About Us: We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship ques

Trust can be broken or weakened by both the big things and the build up of many smaller broken promises. Trust is such a foundational aspect of a relationship that without it, it’s harder to have respect, love, and passion for your partner.  In this episode we go deeper into rebuilding trust, whether you are the partner that doesn’t trust, or if you realize that you are the one that has contributed to the decline of trust. We were asked to take this topic deeper from a listener of the podcast that emailed us, because she was experiencing unreliability on the side of her partner. (We so appreciate you for requesting topics to cover!) Today you will hear about the small things that lead a partner to not “count on” the other, what the real source is of broken promises, and 3 steps to take to rebuild trust as a team.   Resources For Your Relationship: If you’re in or near Arizona, attend The Couples Workshop on September 26th, 2021.   If outside AZ, you can sign-up for a 2-on-2 Relationship Breakthrough Session h

When men spend time with other men, it boosts their testosterone (super important), and when women spend time with other women, it boosts their estrogen (super important). Biologically and emotionally, you and your partner NEED time with friends outside of the relationship. If you don’t, it can have a real impact on your happiness as individuals and how you show up for each other. However, it’s not time with just any type of friends...it’s got to be friends that raise your energy and remind you to be the best version of yourself. Listen to today’s episode for more on this important topic and what types of friends to prioritize as individuals and as a couple.   Resources For Your Relationship: Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)   About Us: We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the epi

Are there any topics left in your relationship that you feel you can’t talk about? Perhaps you no longer attempt certain topics or expressing your emotion on certain things because your partner's reaction makes you feel "emotionally unsafe." Being in a truly healthy and empowered relationship means that you should always feel safe to talk about any topic. Of course saying “talk about any topic” really means “talk about any emotion you are having”.  In this episode you will hear: The critical mistake you yourself are making that has you feel unsafe The goal of being able to share your true emotions with each other 4 ways to create emotional safety   Resources For Your Relationship: Couples in the Arizona area: save your seats for the Sept 26th in person Couples Workshop. Last months' workshop sold out and this will be the last of 2021! Couples outisde of Arizona: get $30 OFF The Couples Workshop: Home Edition to enhance your communication skills together no matter where you live!    About Us: We’re The Fre

Do you want to be a GREAT partner? It can be easy to show up less than our best as the months and years pass, so today’s episode is a great reminder that will motivate you to be the best partner you can be! We dive into 3 traits that are underrated and truly make such a difference for your partnership.    Resources For Your Relationship: If you’re in or near Arizona, attend The Couples Workshop on September 26th, 2021.  If you’ve haven’t read it yet, grab your copy of The Argument Hangover.   About Us: We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

Are you in one of these 3 places: feel less fulfilled in your marriage, you are thinking that the relationship should end, or you are active in keeping your fulfillment high by preventing anything from lowering it?  Whichever place you find yourself this episode is about exploring the main reasons we see couples struggle that lead to lower levels of satisfaction and fulfillment in their relationships. This is a new style episode where we each write down our own lists from what we have seen in couple’s relationship assessments, our personal coaching, and the live workshops we have done.  In this episode you will hear each of us share our list of top reasons why relationships fall into these seasons, and we won’t know what the other had on their list. After listening to this episode you will be able to bring each of these reasons into your awareness and have a simple action to take to prevent that reason from continuing. All so that you can raise and maintain your fulfillment in your relationship, no matter the

On a importance scale from 1-10, how important is sharing household chores and responsibilities? On the spectrum of things you can be focusing on in your life and relationship, how often are you getting frustrated or do you bicker with your partner over this simple area?  Now any place in your relationship that you have a recurring upset and causes you to be disconnected from your partner, is an important area to change.  After the Couples Workshop this week, we realized that this is an area that we never bicker over or even have to think about. In this episode you will hear from Jocelyn a simple process that we use so that you can feel balance and freedom and never have to have conversations about the household being something that causes an upset!   Resources For Your Relationship: Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)   About Us: We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Sen

When your partner says something that’s harder to hear, do you find yourself unconsciously reacting or consciously responding? You see, a solid partnership is where both people are safe to open up about things, even if it’s hard to hear sometimes. So if you’re committed to being the best partner you can be, then you want to master the difference between reacting and responding.  In this episode, you’ll hear: The exact difference between reacting and responding The deeper source of why you react to your partner when you don’t love what they’re saying 6 examples of better ways to respond to your partner, so the conversation stay constructive rather than destructive   Relationship Resources: Schedule a Couple’s Session with us HERE. You will finally overcome that recurring challenge in your relationship, so you can experience more joy and less frustration. Read our newest book, The Argument Hangover   About Us: We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us yo

When was the last time you reviewed what you’re committed to in your relationship? Was it on your wedding day when exchanging vows? There is a big difference between what you said you were committed to in the past versus what you are committed to now, even right in this moment.  In this motivational episode you will get a love gut punch to be honest about what you are actually committed to, as a reflection in your actions toward your partner.   Resources For Your Relationship: Order our book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)   About Us: We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.