The Child Whisperer Show With Carol Tuttle

Children have 4 main motivations to not tell the truth. Kids of all ages (and all 4 Energy Types) might say things that aren't true. If you call your child a liar, they're only more likely to lie. So what do you do? In this episode, Carol and Anne share the four main motivations that children have to bend, stretch, or invent the truth. This episode will help you understand your child and give you the words you need to talk about truth. This week’s Parenting Practice If your child has not been telling the truth, consider how you have been referring to this experience. Rather than reacting with dismay or punishment, approach them with curiosity about their real motive. What's going on? Get to the bottom of that first. Then help them get what they need, true to Type, so that they feel safe and empowered to tell the truth.  Learn more from Carol each week! Visit thechildwhisperer.com and receive Carol and Anne's weekly Parenting Practice right to your inbox.

Every parent has their limit. How do you handle yours? It's a given that you'll feel annoyed at your child at some point. But the way you react when you're annoyed can have long-lasting effects on your children—and not always for the better. In this episode, Carol and Anne share useful ways to deal with your annoyance without shaming your child. Their insight will help you manage annoyance, from everyday bothers to deeper triggers you need to heal. This week’s Parenting Practice The next time you feel annoyed, ask yourself: What do I need to take care of? Am I hungry? Am I tired? Am I not taking care of myself? Do I need a break? What's the immediate solution right now? Do I need to set a boundary? If you notice that deeper issues keep coming up, visit The Carol Tuttle Healing Center and start healing your unresolved emotional patterns, so you can really show up for your kids.  Learn more from Carol each week! Visit thechildwhisperer.com and receive Carol and Anne's weekly Parenting Practice right to y

Good communication makes everything easier.  Between 18 months and 3 years, your child is pushing for new independence. But they don't always know how to say what they want—which can lead to frustration, for both of you. In this episode, Carol and Anne share the communication tendencies of all 4 Types of children. Their examples will help you make simple changes, so that you and your little one can communicate more easily. This week’s Parenting Practice Use your words. Notice times that you can communicate more clearly and invite your children to use words. Use the tips from this episode to give them the words they need. While this week's practice is specifically directed toward toddlers who are learning to talk, you can also support your older children by communicating positively in the best way for their Type.  Learn more from Carol each week! Visit thechildwhisperer.com and receive Carol and Anne's weekly Parenting Practice right to your inbox. 

Have you received an email or a phone call from the school? No parent wants to hear that their child is the problem student. But what if you receive the message that your child is causing problems in class?   In this episode, Anne shares her personal experience with receiving messages from her Type 3 daughter's teacher. Her story and Carol's insights can help you navigate challenging conversations and easily find resolution for everyone involved. This week’s Parenting Practice Identify an unfavorable scenario that's causing stress. Put your attention on a more positive outcome that you want to experience. What does it feel like? Really believe that it is available to you. And then, match your language with the outcome you're picturing. Do some of the techniques Anne mentions in this episode to visualize in more detail. Learn more from Carol each week! Visit thechildwhisperer.com and receive Carol and Anne's weekly Parenting Practice right to your inbox. 

Is your relationship with your child stuck or full of conflict? With some children, you have an easy, effortless bond. But sometimes, the relationship is rockier. What do you do when you and your child are at odds? In this episode, Carol and Anne share insight to consider when you have continual upsets or lack connection with a child. Whatever the issue, there's a good chance it goes back to the energetic patterning of their birth. Listen in for stories about how this issue plays out—and what to do to resolve it. This week’s Parenting Practice Think back to your child's birth. If you have multiple children, start with one child that you're having issues with or feeling a lack of connection. Listen to this episode to hear how the original event of birth can set up patterns of conflict later. If residue from that event is affecting your relationship, use the techniques in this episode to create a closer connection with your child. Learn more from Carol each week! Visit thechildwhisperer.com and receive Car

Do you have a parenting problem you can't seem to fix? It's tempting to try to fix your child's frustrating behavior. But consider the possibility that certain issues don't start with your child—they start with you. Which is good news! That means you can do something about them. In today's episode, Carol and Anne share the general challenge each Type of parent has, and how that can affect your child. As you try their tips, you'll see your child's behavior start to self-correct. This week’s Parenting Practice Notice a challenge in your family and ask yourself, "What is this telling me about ME?" Use it as a mirror. What correction is being shown to you that needs to take place in your own being and your own self-care that will shift your family into more balance? What do you need to choose to create more balance in you so there's more balance in your family? Learn more from Carol each week! Visit thechildwhisperer.com and receive Carol and Anne's weekly Parenting Practice right to your inbox. 

How often does worry affect your parenting? Your toddler throws a tantrum in public. Your child wants to wear an outfit that looks insane. Your grade-schooler refuses to do their homework. In those scenarios, how much do you worry what other people think? In this episode, Carol and Anne share tips to help you let go of worry and prioritize what's most important—your relationship with your child. This week’s Parenting Practice Consider your most recent parenting decisions. Which ones do you make to prevent people thinking or saying something negative? Consider your priority. Do you care what other think of your parenting, or your child's welfare? Do those priorities prompt you to change any behavior? Learn more from Carol each week! Visit thechildwhisperer.com and receive Carol and Anne's weekly Parenting Practice right to your inbox. 

How do you help your child be their best self? Your child has many natural gifts. But if they get out of balance, those gifts can become challenges. How you coach your child makes all a difference. In this episode, Carol and Anne help you see how to talk to your child about their gifts. You'll hear insight to coach your child through their unique challenges, so that they become stronger and more balanced in the end.  This week’s Parenting Practice Take some time this week to coach your child, to acknowledge how well they are using their gifts, and give them feedback on how they can continue to develop their gifts. Instead of disciplining and correcting them, coach them in becoming more aware of who they are and how to use their natural tendencies to benefit themselves and others. Learn more from Carol each week! Visit thechildwhisperer.com and receive Carol and Anne's weekly Parenting Practice right to your inbox. 

One of your children is not like the others... They're loud and busy and active all the time—and you're just not. Unless you're intentional in meeting their needs, you can start to feel worn out, and they can start to feel like the black sheep. In this episode, Carol and Anne help you create space for a higher-energy, extroverted child in a family of lower energy. With some simple tips and activities, you can make sure all of you have room to thrive. This week’s Parenting Practice If you are a lower-movement family, assess how well are you supporting your higher-movement child or children who are the exception to the family movement. Use the ideas in the episode so your child can get what they need and enjoy being part of your family. Learn more from Carol each week! Visit thechildwhisperer.com and receive Carol and Anne's weekly Parenting Practice right to your inbox. 

Your family is unique—and each child can thrive in it. Your family is loud and active, with a lot of energy moving through the house. But does one of your children not quite fit that mold? In this episode, Carol and Anne help you create space for a lower-energy, introverted child in a family of big energy. With some simple tips and conversations, you can make sure all of you have room to thrive. This week’s Parenting Practice Take note of the Energy Types of your family members. What is your balance of high and low energy? Try the tips in this episode to help each child in your family feel included, supported, and very much a part of the family unit. Learn more from Carol each week! Visit thechildwhisperer.com and receive Carol and Anne's weekly Parenting Practice right to your inbox. 

"Gentle." "Be soft." Do you get tired of repeating it? Toddlers need coaching when interacting with babies. And most of the things parents try may actually just wear everyone out. In this episode, Carol and Anne share tips to help all 4 Types of children interact with babies. You'll find out why telling some kids to "be soft" will just backfire—and what you can say instead for better success. This week’s Parenting Practice Open your copy of The Child Whisperer book. Go to the end of the chapter for your child's Type. Read the phrases for children 18 months to 3 years old. How well you are creating space for your child's natural movement and curiosity? Make changes that call to you. Your toddler may naturally find more balance in how they interact with baby. Learn more from Carol each week! Visit thechildwhisperer.com and receive Carol and Anne's weekly Parenting Practice right to your inbox. 

Has your child ever gotten stuck in the past? Maybe they're still upset about something you did. Or they can't seem to let go of a past event or embarrassment. Whatever it is, you know they'd be better off by processing it and letting it go—but they won't. In this episode, Carol and Anne share tips to help children process the past. A few simple words from you can improve your relationship, whether your child is 7 or 27.  This week’s Parenting Practice This week, validate your child's feelings, whether they're 2 or 32 years old. Restate what you heard, or ask them to share more. It may be tempting to add your opinion, correction, or advice—but just stop at validation. See what resolves itself as your children know their feelings are heard. Learn more from Carol each week! Visit thechildwhisperer.com and receive Carol and Anne's weekly Parenting Practice right to your inbox. 

When their behavior is out of control and you don't know what to do... Some of their behaviors get your attention in a big way. But so often, just trying to change behavior doesn't work. If your child bothers others, acts out in public, or disrupts their class, they're also giving you clues about what they need to stop behaving that way. In this episode, Carol and Anne help you you can get to the real root of the issue and restore calm again. This week’s Parenting Practice Consider a concerning behavior you want to influence. Assume it's a clue. Pray that you'll pick up on the messages your children are giving to discover the deeper issue. Pray that you'll be led to the resources to help resolve the issue. Listen to this episode for insight and support. Learn more from Carol each week! Visit thechildwhisperer.com and receive Carol and Anne's weekly Parenting Practice right to your inbox. 

Your natural tendencies can be your greatest gifts in parenting. As a Type 4 mom, you have a gift for creating structure and always striving for perfection. But when those tendencies get out of balance, your children can suffer in ways you may not realize. In this episode, Carol and Anne help Type 4 parents to clarify their priorities and create structure that will support the whole family—including mom. This week’s Parenting Practice Choose only one of the three mistakes that Carol and Anne share in this episode. Where do you see yourself needing to make some changes? As a Type 4 mom, you want to do the best job you can. Use this information to make improvements that will support you and your family. Learn more from Carol each week! Visit thechildwhisperer.com and receive Carol and Anne's weekly Parenting Practice right to your inbox. 

Your challenge this week will make your family happier. As a Type 3 mom, you're a powerhouse who can get a lot done. But if your big energy gets out of balance, you can cause your children more stress than you realize.  In this episode, Carol and Anne give Type 3 moms simple tips to get things done while still making sure your children have what they need. This week’s Parenting Practice Choose one (just one!) of the three mistakes that Carol and Anne share in this episode. Which one of these tendencies is not serving you or your family best? Take it as your challenge to bring that tendency back into balance—both for your sake and your family's. Learn more from Carol each week! Visit thechildwhisperer.com and receive Carol and Anne's weekly Parenting Practice right to your inbox. 

Every Type 2 mom could use some emotional support. If you're a Type 2 mom, you naturally express a gentle sensitivity and attention to detail. You offer so many gifts to your family. But if your tendencies get out of balance, parenting can become frazzling for you—and frustrating for your children.  In this episode, Carol and Anne shine a light on 3 subtle corrections that can make parenting a calmer, more comfortable experience for you. This week’s Parenting Practice Choose one of the three tendencies that Carol and Anne share in this episode. Which one stands out to you? Make a plan to move forward, using your tendency as a gift, rather than a challenge. Consciously use your nature as an asset in your parenting, rather than creating frustration. Learn more from Carol each week! Visit thechildwhisperer.com and receive Carol and Anne's weekly Parenting Practice right to your inbox. 

Yes, you're doing the best you know how. But sometimes, your natural tendencies can get the better of you. As a Type 1 mom, you have a gift for spontaneity, adaptability, and ideas. But if those tendencies get out of balance, they can damage your relationship with your children and make parenting less fun. In this episode, Carol and Anne help Type 1 moms stop losing themselves—and get their sparkle back.  This week’s Parenting Practice Choose one of the three mistakes that Carol and Anne share in this episode. Use it as an opportunity to make a change that improves your parenting and allows you to live true to yourself as a Type 1 mom. Pick only one! You are a bright light! Make sure your children experience the benefits who you are. Learn more from Carol each week! Visit thechildwhisperer.com and receive Carol and Anne's weekly Parenting Practice right to your inbox. 

Even if nothing you say reassures your child, there's still something you can do. When a child's fears get out of hand, it can feel exhausting—for both parents and child. Fortunately, it's not your job to reassure a child until they feel better. Some simple solutions can help your child feel capable, too. Carol and Anne share insights to break the fight-or-flight response and empower your child to get back to feeling safe again. This week’s Parenting Practice Practice the tips from this week's episode by getting out a copy of The Child Whisperer book. Go to your child's Type section, find the developmental stage section for 3-6 years, and read the phrases your child needs to hear. Write them down and use them daily.  Learn more from Carol each week! Visit thechildwhisperer.com and receive Carol and Anne's weekly Parenting Practice right to your inbox. 

Yes, parenting is challenging—but are you making it worse? It's so easy to do that you don't even realize you're doing it: saying words that actually set you up for failure and frustration. In this episode, Carol and Anne share the phrases that make parenting a bigger challenge than it already is. If you want parenting to be simpler and more fulfilling, listen to this episode. It's just that easy. This week’s Parenting Practice This week, notice your language. Are you speaking in a way that makes your child the problem? Set these intentions: "I'm aware of what I'm saying. I'm catching myself when I set myself up to make my parenting experience harder than it needs to be. I am changing my language to be honest with myself without adding drama or creating more struggle."  Learn more from Carol each week! Visit thechildwhisperer.com and receive Carol and Anne's weekly Parenting Practice right to your inbox.  

 Do you worry about your child's screen time? Would your kids would play games or watch shows forever if you let them? Do they get upset when it's time to turn it off? It has you worried, doesn't it. In this episode, Carol and Anne share that the key is not limiting screen time out of fear, but finding the right balance from an empowered place. Listen in to hear how to balance screen time just right for your family. This week’s Parenting Practice This week, take an inventory of your child's screen time—and your own. Have a family counsel to make decisions together about what you want your experience with screen time to be. Then create the changes that you're inspired to make and stick with it. Learn more from Carol each week! Visit thechildwhisperer.com and receive Carol and Anne's weekly Parenting Practice right to your inbox.