Empowered Couples

“Inner-Work”: looking within to see where you can grow and evolve (ie. what needs to be healed from your past, which patterns need to be unlearned, and realizing that you recreate experiences when you didn’t get the lesson). Doing this “inner work” is absolutely imperative to cultivate your desired partnership. Most importantly you, and ideally your partner, must be willing to do this inner-work in some shape or form. Why? Because otherwise you will recreate patterns that do not serve your current relationship.  This inner-work doesn’t have to be overwhelming and we promise it can be an empowering experience! It is actually how you can become the very best version of yourself and express your inherent gifts as a human being. That’s why you’ll love this episode! You will hear: What happens if you don’t embrace the “inner work” needed for your relationship 5 areas within yourself to do the inner-work 3 helpful tools to consider as part of your journey individually and as a couple   Resources For Your Relation

You can eliminate many moments of frustration and feeling like you’re on different pages with two simple questions. You will ask one of these questions in the morning to start the day with ease and synergy--and it will be especially helpful if you have kids, busy careers, and lots of moving parts to your schedule. The second question is great for the evening to make sure you’re on the same page and so both of you get your needs met and feel like you can recharge your batteries in a mutually fulfilling way. Go ahead and tune in for these 2 simple (but super helpful) questions!   Resources For Your Relationship: Schedule a 2-on-2 Relationship Breakthrough Session with us here.  Make sure you’ve read our book, The Argument Hangover.   About Us: We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

Of course you ‘love’ your partner, but what level of love and connection do you feel right now? You might “know that you love them,” but right now, you can feel disconnected and experience a mediocre or even low level of love.  You do not want to assume that love will automatically be there in a long-term relationship.  Sure, you can say “I love you” to each other all day long, yet still not FEEL an overwhelming sense of love in the partnership.  For many of us, we have mostly experienced love that is conditional or based on fleeting feelings. So how do you keep the experience of LOVE alive, even during challenging seasons? In this episode you will hear: What love should not be based on The real foundation from where your love comes from How you can keep that experience of love alive, no matter the challenge or season that you are in.   Resources For Your Relationship: You can sign-up for a 2-on-2 Relationship Breakthrough Session here   About Us: We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and acti

We all want to be happy both in our lives and relationships. Yet at a certain point in a relationship it can feel as if your happiness is based more upon your partner. This could be based on their own mood or whether they are “doing the things you want them to do”.  Happiness cannot be a pursuit if it leads you to be conditional to any outside circumstances. It needs to be generated from within first. By doing that, you will automatically influence your partner to be happy just by the nature of your own happiness and joyful way of being!  In this motivational Thursday episode you will hear 3 habits to implement daily, to begin to generate your own happiness first, to create more happiness as a couple!   Resources For Your Relationship: Order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)   About Us: We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the sh

The quality of your conversation comes from the quality of your questions! No matter how much you love each other, your conversations can feel routine if you’re asking the same ol’ questions (especially if you are a ‘busy’ couple or have been together for years).  Truthfully, it’s natural to crave more emotional depth in your relationship, which comes from being able to ask more meaningful questions in a state of curiosity and intention. There is nothing 'wrong' with having this desire!  At times you might not know just what questions to ask, or you fear a negative response from them. So in this episode you’ll hear 6 questions that you can ask to open up more emotional connection.   Resources For Your Relationship: Order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training) * We would so appreciate it if you left a review as a way to indirectly contribute to another couple getting their own copy!    About Us: We’re The Freemans, your go-

There is one big thing in your life that disconnects you and keeps you from fully enjoying your life and relationship, and that is 'suffering'! Though ‘suffering’ sounds like a very strong word, this experience happens whenever something is happening that you do not want to be happening. This leads to moments of discouragement and discontentment, and over time will lead to a feeling of “things not being good”.  In this solo episode today with Aaron, you will hear the one main thing that causes you suffering, and the way to totally be free from it.   Resources For Your Relationship: Order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)   About Us: We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

The most attractive trait in a partner is reliability! So what is reliability really? Well, can your partner count on you to follow through, or do you make promises and then have excuses for why it didn't happen?  The thing is, how reliable you are in your partnership directly impacts how much they can TRUST you. Now you might think we're just speaking about the "big" things...but actually, it's also about the small promises that you make that really add up to their perception of you. In this episode you will hear: The importance of reliability and follow-through in a relationship 5 different areas where you need to be reliable The 3 ways to cultivate these traits in your partnership What do do if your partner hasn’t been following through   Resources For Your Relationship: The In-Person Couples Workshop in Arizona August 22nd is linked here: http://thecouplesworkshop.com/ For the recorded version, you can get 50% off this week only using the code (july2021) here: https://onlinecouplesworkshops.com/recordi

Coming off of last night’s webclass on “Communication Mastery”, many people were intent to bring more empathy into their relationship. The very next feeling however was “being empathetic is not easy when I don’t agree with my partner.”  This most likely is the case for you as well. Though being empathetic to our partner’s experience is a true expression of love, it isn’t easy especially when you haven’t practiced it.  In this one-on-one episode with Jocelyn, you will hear how to bring more empathy to your partner so that you can be that true expression of love and be that example of a truly empowered couple!   Resources For Your Relationship: Order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)

Establishing boundaries as a couple can sometimes be a point of tension. It can feel like a battle between wanting to feel security, but also not feeling controlled by the other. The thing is, boundaries are critical to agree upon, so you both feel respected, loved, and also fulfilled. Most couples discuss boundaries as: expressing commands, arguing repeatedly, a resistance to feeling controlled. Yet, they can be discussed in a loving, respectful way that feels like a win-win agreement for you both to create a more connected and collaborative relationship.  In this episode you will hear some areas in which boundaries are important to establish, plus gain the steps to discuss boundaries in a way that is freeing, not controlling.   Resources For Your Relationship: Make sure you’re registered for the Communication Mastery WebClass on July 20th. Almost 300 of ya’ll are registered already and we can’t wait! After July 20th: Order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like t

We wanted to give you an update on our pregnancy journey and how we’re preparing for parenthood...intentionally. For us, it’s important to prepare together for a natural birth AND to get our marriage prepared for parenthood. Because we talk to couples all day every day (with many being parents), we get to see the behind the scenes challenges that come up with marriage and parenthood. So we’ve been taking those insights into our conversations and we wanted to share what’s been coming up for us in case it inspires you! Also, make sure you’re registered for the Communication Mastery WebClass on July 20th. Almost 300 of ya’ll are registered already and we can’t wait!   About Us: We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

It can feel frustrating or unsettling when you and your partner disagree on a big decision. For some couples, this can lead to making no decision and staying in a standstill for a while, which is also not ideal for you. For others, it can lead to tense conversations, full blown arguments, and feeling like you’re limited by the other person. But it doesn’t have to go that way… Whether it’s parenting styles, financial decisions, where to move, when to have kids, which job offer to take, etc….you CAN make decisions in a way that feels better and leads to an even better outcome than you imagined. In today’s episode, you’ll hear 6 Key Elements to Making a Big Decision Together. Dive in and you might want to take notes :)   Resources For Your Relationship: Also, make sure you’re registered for the ONE-TIME FREE WEBCLASS on July 20th (next week). It’s called: Communication Mastery--4 Skills You Must Learn to Understand Each Other’s Needs, Create Win-Win Solutions, and Deepen Your Emotional Intimacy. Save your seat h

It’s a great personal trait to be considerate of your partner (especially of their needs from the last episode). However there is a danger of being overly considerate or overly pleasing in your relationship.  You might not have ever considered this or realized that it was happening to you, but the effect can be very disruptive. It can make you feel unhappy, unfulfilled, and even disengaged from your partner.  In this solo episode with Aaron, you will be able to recognize this pattern so you can show up even better for yourself and consequently as an even better partner!   Resources For Your Relationship: Register for the FREE Communication Mastery Webclass on July 20th, 2021 right here. After that date passes, order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)   About Us: We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagra

Of course you know that you and your partner are not exactly the same. Yet, how often do you expect them to fulfill all of your needs? Or even how often you assume that they should just know or desire to meet your needs?  When you get to a place where you have conflicting needs, this can feel as if you have to sacrifice or be discouraged that your needs won’t be met. When we asked on IG what some of the common conflicting needs for you were, we heard back: Togetherness vs separateness  Physical touch vs quality time Time to talk and connect at the end of the day vs quiet time to decompress after working a long day. Working vs leading the kids and home But there are ways, in this case you will hear 5 principles, so that you can work through your conflicting needs together and be sure that you do not have to sacrifice or give up on having your most important needs met in your relationship.   Resources For Your Relationship: Register for the FREE Communication Mastery Webclass on July 20th, 2021 right here. A

We received this question privately after the last podcast: “What is the difference between justifying and explaining, when you feel like your partner misread your intentions? Sometimes I feel like we’re fighting over a version of me that doesn’t feel true, and I can’t tell if that’s just me being defensive.” In this episode you will hear: The subtle difference between justifying and explaining The major difference between Intent vs Impact 4 steps to explain yourself in a way that your partner can receive it   Resources For Your Relationship: 1) Take the Relationship Assessment and do the results call with us. There are 2 spots discounted from the $1000 course to just $147. To snag one of those spots either: Text: 602-321-5652 Email: connect@newpowercouples.com   2) Order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)   About Us: We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us you

Defensiveness is a learned behavior to compensate for something going on beneath the surface.  A few common sources of defensiveness in relationship: A lack of feeling emotionally safe because they often feel invalidated Taking something personally (and making it mean something different than what was said) Fear of being judged, not loved, abandoned, or punished An attachment to a certain perspective about themselves or the situation Here’s the thing...if you and your partner perpetually react with defensiveness, you will leave conversations unresolved, build up more and more tension, and/or get to the point where you feel like you’re walking on eggshells. So today’s podcast episode goes deeper into understanding why defensiveness shows up in your relationship PLUS how to break this pattern, so you communicate openly and constructively.   Resources For Your Relationship: Book a private Couples Session with us. The first one is discounted so you can get a sense that our style WORKS! Read testimonials, detai

Do you and your partner feel perfectly aligned and on the same page? Do you ever feel caught off guard by a comment your partner makes about being dissatisfied somewhere in your relationship? If so, it's time for a Family Meeting Check-in!  We define a"Family Meeting" as: a designated time to have an intentional, judgment-free conversation together as you discuss your relationship + life. You each get to share your satisfaction in the 9 core areas of your relationship/life, and openly listen to each other. A few critical benefits of these "Family Meetings": it eliminates that frustrating moments where you blindside each other throughout the week to discuss things when it's not the best time you can address challenges or areas of lower satisfaction before it BUILDS up into resentment you ensure you're on the same page as a couple and feel like a team it creates emotional safety and intimacy But here's what a weekly Family Meeting is NOT: a time to defend yourselves, point fingers, complain, or start a figh

No matter the stage of relationship you are in, it can seem like you and your partner have different sex drives. Often we think this means frequency, but in this episode we interview Vanessa Marin, a sex therapist, and her husband Xander who collaborates with her on content, to discover just what sex drive and compatability means.  In this episode you will realize the different forms and types of intimacy, how to raise your satisfaction in your sex life, and most imprtantly how to bring up this conversation with your partner. No matter where your satisfaction is now or how compatibility you feel, you will be able to take the steps to having a more open and pleasurable sex life and drive together.   Questions Asked in this Interview:  It would be easy to assume that “sex drive” is just the level of desire and freqency for sex. But what does it really mean?  Do you see that most couple of the same or different sex drives? Is it biologically true that your sex drive diminishes with age (for women)? Or what are

What’s the main difference between being just “roommates” with someone vs romantic partners? The answer: the depth of emotional intimacy. Of course you’ve heard us say that a relationship requires all the functional things (the to-do list, things around the house, errands, etc)...but that can easily consume your attention and diminish your emotional intimacy.  In fact, we received a private message yesterday saying, “how do I create more emotional intimacy with my wife?” Which shows that many people don’t know what actually builds emotional intimacy. So we’re answering that question in today’s podcast episode. Tune in to hear 4 Keys to Unlock Emotional Intimacy...that can be implemented no matter how busy you two are in life (or the current level of relationship you are at)!   Resources For Your Relationship: The 5 discounted spots to take the Relationship Assessment and do the call with us went SO fast last episode, that we decided to offer 5 more. Why? Because this assessment (paired with the call with us)

Are you working to rebuild trust in your relationship? Perhaps a lie was told, or a boundary was crossed….but you’re committed to repairing it and not ending the relationship. Today you’ll meet Joy and Peter Harrington who share very candidly about repairing broken trust after his long term use of porn. They share some radically true things about whether porn use is healthy in a relationship and what to do if your partner denies crossing a boundary.   Resources For Your Relationship: You can connect with Joy and Peter Harrington here on Instagram   To schedule a private coaching session to rebuild trust, go here   Order our newest book, The Argument Hangover, and get over $200 of free bonus gifts (like the mini course and a 90 minute training)   About Us: We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

A male client was vulnerable last week and said, "we've been together 10 years, have 3 beautiful children, and have great careers. And while I think we should be closer than ever, I feel more distant than ever." This powerfully shows that being emotionally connected does not have to do with time or reaching life milestones together. In fact, couples grow apart emotionally from 4 subtle behaviors that build up over time. We go into these deeper reasons, as well as the 4 levels of a relationship so you can start to notice which level you are at, and how to progress to the next within your own relationship!   Resources For Your Relationship: This month we are giving 5 spots to do Relationship assessment + call with us. Normally you can only take the assessment in our $1000 program. We’re opening up these 5 spots for only $147. To snag one of those spots, either: Text us: 602-321-5652 Message us on IG: @meet_thefreemans Email us at: connect@newpowercouples.com   After June 2021: Order our newest book, The Argum