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There are genocides in the world happening and of course, one has to be on Oprah, speaking of how unfair her life is. WAIT.. racism & bullying are not at all okay, but can't you be more privileged? How many beings have dies due to the injustice of racism or bullying? What are your plans to lessen the injustice for yourself and every one after telling your story? Call to action? Also, in one of the questionnaires I have in my IG, I talked about heartaches. And one of the inputs were "Having a Toxic Mum", which is heartbreaking. Talked about it with a friend and here I am, unpacking it from my own experience. But, isn't it a bit unfair to blame it on only Mothers? At the end of the day, it hurts and we have to do something about it (case to case), but when either one of the party passes away, none of the arguments or material things is gonna matter. Our lesson & challenge here is: Forgiveness.   PS: Everyone makes horrible or great decisions when in love. 

Come hug.  Was feeling a little bit sappy, so.. one of my favorite love songs from one of my fave underrated English rock bands, Nothing But Thieves. Enjoy! 

ADOSSIER X THIS.CONNECT When was the last time you live your life courageously? Or, did something courageous? In the 2nd episode of this collaboration, MK & me unpack the meaning to live your life with courage. We discuss admitting to needing help, fear vs. courage, and steps to start living your life without regrets. Don't forget to check out THIS.CONNECT latest art installation at Tzu Chi Humanistic Youth Centre from 7th March 2021 - 6th June 2021. Check out THIS.CONNECT: Click here for Website IG: @thisconnect.today ADS: For colored contact lenses & perfumes without alcohol, head to IG, @amglitz

ADS: For colored contact lenses and perfumes or colognes with zero alcohol in it (suitable for praying), head to @amglitz on IG. I dreamt of a toilet bowl and peed on my ex's mattress. I also had knee jerk movements when I was falling from a tree in my sleep. So, what's yours? Also, New Amsterdam & Marvelous Mrs Maisel. 

ADOSSIER X THIS.CONNECT: SELF-LOVE If we can forgive other people, why can’t we forgive ourselves? Is the validation from society, hindering you from being the better you? What do you do to love or recharge yourself? Self-Love Vs. Narcissism In Part Two, we round up the importance of self-love, ways to practice self-love and the thin line between self-love vs. narcissism.  Check out THIS.CONNECT: Click here for Website IG: @thisconnect.today

ADOSSIER X THIS.CONNECT  Where did we learn to love?  Why do we have an “ideal partner” list?  The different types of love.  How do we know we are in a toxic relationship? In Part One, in conjunction to Valentine’s Day, MK (This.Connect) and me uncover all the answers to the questions above and the number one hack of making a healthy relationship, possible: Self-Awareness. We zoom into sensory influences that sways our decisions in choosing our life partners or their lack thereof from elements such as, movies, social circle etc.  Check out THIS.CONNECT: Click here for Website IG: @thisconnect.today

I remember crying myself to sleep because of the itch that Eczema brought me when I was younger. But, thank god, with YEARS of researching and split tests, I have it under control now. I share with you what are the products that you can use if you do have Eczema and the food that you should stay the hell away from. 

Here's one to prepare you for Valentine's Day. Also because I have a crazy crush on James Arthur. Sorry if I murdered this song, of course he sings it better. HAPPY VALENTINE'S! 

ADS: @adosejewellery on IG This one's for the beings suffering in friendships, relationships, marriage, jobs or any kind of "ships". I gotchu. Here's my proposition on why people should walk away more, IF there is no love. The universe really has better plans for you.  You plan, but you also have to deal with it as it comes. That way you won't have a heart attack.  There is a reason why former addicts go to rehab. To get BETTER. Surround yourself with better people. 

ADS: Videography & photography services, shahrulazmi.com Guess what? Oliver Twist (he was Oliver in the popular movie, 'Call Me By Your Name'). I always believe, things that happen behind closed doors, should remain behind closed doors. Just like food, everybody has preferences. Some are adventurous with their food, some can eat the same dish every single day. Some share the same favorite food, while others don't.  Hence, like every other sex associated topic, I question the psychology and probabilities behind Armie's DMs.  Also, I share some of my honest mistakes that was painfully embarrassing. 

ADS: Videography & photography services, shahrulazmi.com While the world is falling apart, let's think of happier times: CHILDHOOD.  Did you know that our Singaporean childhood game, "Chapteh" has many different names and is known around the South East Asia region? Jianzi, Da Cau, Jegichagi, Sipa and more? The beauty of South East Asia, we're all interconnected. We can stop fighting about Nasi Lemak now. Well, except the claim for Nasi Ambeng or Kerabu. That one? Must fight. 

ADS: Videography & photography services, shahrulazmi.com In Singapore, men account for more than 66% of all suicides in 2019. Not only women experience domestic violence.  In this episode, we debunk the irregularities of Amber Heard’s deposition that might possibly show gaslighting signs towards Johnny Depp. Are men really suppose to just take it in and not seek help just because they’re “men”?  These are the numbers to call if you are experiencing domestic violence, spread the word:  ComCare Call
: 1800-222-0000 , SOS (24 hours daily)
1800-221-4444  MSF Child Protective Service :1800-777-0000  Care Corner Project Start: 
6476 1482  PAVE Integrated Services for Individual and Family Protection Specialist Centre (ISIFPSC)
:6555 0390  TRANS SAFE Centre
: 6449 9088

ADS: @adosejewellery on IG Singaporean social artist duo Hunny & Lummy, presents its multidisciplinary exhibition, ThisConnect: Threading Worlds, which aims to encourage masses to experience and converse their truths. The exhibition was first launched, in conjunction with Suicide Prevention Awareness Month in September 2020. In Part 1, we unpack the different elements that lead to mental distress in Singapore, especially with Covid, internally and externally.  I personally have been to the full exhibition at 1 Neil Road. The raw and honest documentations and audio-video artworks have touched, moved, and created greater awareness for people to re-examine fundamentally what it means to be a human being; from various dimensions of human connections and relationships, from oneself to other(s) to our natural world encapsulated via their participatory-instructional art coupled with conscious conversations, that shines through.  One of the works, I Feel You portrays 2 complete strangers, holding hands,

ADS: @adosejewellery on IG Singaporean social artist duo Hunny & Lummy, presents its multidisciplinary exhibition, ThisConnect: Threading Worlds, which aims to encourage masses to experience and converse their truths. The exhibition was first launched, in conjunction with Suicide Prevention Awareness Month in September 2020. In Part 2, MK shares the tools needed, to take care of our mental health and some of the works in the exhibition. Below are the dates and venues for the exhibition, all are open to public. Full Exhibition: (17 Dec 20’ - 30 Jan 21’) 1 Neil Road, #03-02 (Main Entrance), S088804 Satellite Venues: (17 Dec 20’ - 17 Jan 21’) Temasek Shophouse (2 Jan 21’ - 8 Feb 21’) Library @ orchard (2 Jan 21’ - 8 Feb 21’) Tzu Chi Humanistic Youth Centre For more information, head to https://www.thisconnect.today https://www.facebook.com/thisconnect.today https://www.instagram.com/thisconnect.today

I had to put up a picture of Jung Woo Sung to get the feel for this. HAHA! Also, ARCTIC MONKEYS LIVE IN ROYAL ALBERT HALL IS OUT YALL! I miss live music. I miss concerts. Come, let's sing our hearts out.

In Singapore, it is common that you live with your immediate family until you get married and can buy a house. But not many people can bear or want to do the heavy lifting of living with aging parents when their senses are deteriorating as we speak. It is not easy, trust me. You argue over the slightest things. You barely sleep because you are worried that they might fall or die in their sleep.  But, I also realize it is not the time to pick our wounds over what they did and what they didn't. It is a privilege if we did that.   One advice: They only have so much time and despite the silly times that they might have put us through, look at their great sacrifices as well. Fear of regretting is forever.  Also, parents listening, be easy on your kids. They're still trying to figure it out as much as you are (yes, Mama & Papa). But, I'm sure they love you with all their hearts. 

Sometimes, you just want to look at pretty things just as it is. James Marsden & Monica Bellucci is at the top of my list. Did you get to go to Baybeats 2020 this year? I'm not a Baybeat go-er but, I'd have to say, it looks interesting this year. Still prefer crowded live music festival. And the only reason why I brought up ScottyLum is because, it's just interesting to watch how people actually get heated discussing different faiths. When are people gonna realize that, none is wrong, it is just to learn, right? No validation needed. We should learn from each other. But also, I think there is no moderator.  Join me and share your opinions. You know where to find me. 

Has always been one of my favorite songs, will always stay one of my favorite songs. Sara always writes her songs full of body, edge and then a twist. I miss her music.  Enjoy and sing along, if you want to. =)

Over Scallops, I caught up with a previous co-worker & we were connecting the dots over what unfolded in our previous employment in 2018 which left us with red flags & a few scabs. Sure, call us weak, call us not cut for it. But, how is it that everybody knows so much on how to perform in interviews but so little about exiting? Countless of us, leave a company or are dismissed, second-guessing ourselves & to begin with, we don't even have low self-esteem.  Especially during Covid, this needs addressing because, you should know, if you get dismissed or retrenched(for reasons that are unknown), there are other means to earn a sincere salary. This is just a bump. You are no lesser a person. You are worth it! So, sharpen those skills! =) Thanksgiving is coming too, so if you need affordable Stainless Steel jewelry for gifts, head to @adosejewellery on IG. 

One of the reasons why, sometimes I get exhausted of taking care and understanding people. Hence, now, just at the smell of suspicion, I walk away.  It took me 3 years to get back up on my feet, to be mentally healthy again, after this incident, after the first breakup and after a second different toxic breakup.   I hope to share this hardship of mine of becoming a 3rd owner of my house, partially reluctant because it is someone's else baggage, might be of takeaway for you. You can try to hate a person for their mistakes, but you can't, so the pain stays.  This was also the cause of my first panic attack. Really thought I was going to die.