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We have the long-awaited Dr. Jolene Brighten in the studio to break down what’s normal (and not normal) when it comes to birth control and our bodies. We’re covering menstrual cycles, how birth control affects our sex drive and lubrication, the fertility awareness method, Plan B, and even “whisky vagina.” Jolene also explains how to get off the pill and how to optimize your health both on and off the pill. Before she joins us, we discuss our own birth control methods (and Ashley has a big update). Enjoy! Follow Jolene on Instagram @drjolenebrighten, get her latest book Is This Normal?, and find more on her website. Follow us @girlsgottaeatpodcast, Ashley @ashhess, and Rayna @rayna.greenberg. Visit our website for tour dates, merchandise, and more. Shop Vibes Only. Thank you to our partners this week: Nutrafol: Get $10 off your first month’s subscription and free shipping at nutrafol.com when you use promo code GGE.  Buffy: Get $20 off your order visit buffy.co and enter promo code GGE. See Privacy Policy at h

Fire up your phone, it’s an app episode! We’re talking about getting on the apps (the energy to put out and headspace to be in when you’re looking for someone, getting back out there after a breakup and the type of people to look for) and getting OFF the apps (when to pause or delete your account, talking to someone you’re dating about their app status, and more). We’re also discussing whether you’d match with your current partner on an app, and Rayna’s elite Hinge prompt answer. Before we get into the topic, we’re sharing the full update on Rusty (IYKYK), and recapping our Europe trip with a shocking thing Ashley found out about Rayna, plus revealing our new Vibes Only products. Enjoy! Follow us on Instagram @girlsgottaeatpodcast, Ashley @ashhess, and Rayna @rayna.greenberg. Visit our website for tour dates, merchandise, and more. Shop Vibes Only. Thank you to our partners this week: HelloFresh: Get 50% off plus 15% off the next 2 months at hellofresh.com/50gge and use code 50GGE.  AG1: Get a free one-year s

We absolutely loved chatting and laughing with Ciara Miller and Mya Allen of Bravo’s Summer House! We discuss serial cheaters (being cheated on with multiple people, crazy levels of lying and deception, being blindsided, shame around telling your family and friends, being able to trust again), as well as interracial dating and when partners don’t understand your life experience. On the lighter side, we talk about reality TV, not liking your bestie when you first met them, fingering, butt stuff, vibrators in the bedroom, and more. We also play a ridiculous, sex-themed round of Would You Rather? Before our guests join us, we’re popping off about Beyoncé, boxers, and bat mitzvahs. Enjoy! Follow Mya and Ciara on Instagram @myallen and @ciaramiller___ and listen to their podcast Codependents. Follow us @girlsgottaeatpodcast, Ashley @ashhess, and Rayna @rayna.greenberg. Visit our website for tour dates, merchandise, and more. Shop Vibes Only. Thank you to our partners this week: Jenni Kayne: Get 15% off your first

We are SO excited to welcome back the incomparable Matteo Lane! He fills us in on his recent whirlwind romance and wedding (with a special call-in from the new husband himself), gives us all the impressions (Barbara Corcoran, anyone?), and opens up about his insecurities. We also talk/laugh about flying and crying on planes, Selling Sunset, his career taking off, hair implants, and more. Before Matteo joins us, we’re talking about liking/not liking your best friend’s partner, Rayna’s recent dating energy, and Ashley’s airport hookup, plus new recs. Enjoy! Follow Matteo on Instagram @matteolane and visit his website for tour dates and more.  Follow us @girlsgottaeatpodcast, Ashley @ashhess, and Rayna @rayna.greenberg. Visit our website for tour dates, merchandise, and more. Shop Vibes Only. Thank you to our partners this week: Hello Fresh: Get 50% off plus 15% off the next 2 months at hellofresh.com/50gge and use code 50GGE.  Buffy: Get $20 off your order at buffy.co with promo code GGE. Nutrafol: Get $10 off

She’s baaack! We’re so excited to be joined again by therapist and bestselling author Nedra Glover Tawwab to talk about family – identifying and addressing unhealthy relationships, setting boundaries, and being able to live a more drama-free life. We discuss what dysfunction looks like, sibling conflicts, having guilt and shame surrounding unhealthy family relationships, why “just get over it” doesn’t work, when your parents don’t accept your lifestyle, and more. Before Nedra joins us, we’re discussing the topic of talking about exes with your current partner, getting excited about Beyoncé and Blue, and sharing an update on our friend who is battling cancer. Enjoy! Follow Nedra on Instagram @nedratawwab, get her latest book Drama Free, and find more at her website. Follow us @girlsgottaeatpodcast, Ashley @ashhess, and Rayna @rayna.greenberg. Visit our website for tour dates, merchandise, and more. Shop Vibes Only. Thank you to our partners this week: Article: Get $50 off your first purchase of $100 or more at

If you find yourself attracted to/pursuing (and getting hurt by) emotionally unavailable people, this episode is for you. We discuss how to spot an emotionally unavailable person, all the reasons we seek them out, how family upbringing plays into it, and how to break the cycle. We share our own experiences, as well as some personal anecdotes from our listeners. Before we get into the topic, we’re discussing bathtub sex, drinking (and how much) on your wedding day, and our latest face updates. Enjoy! Follow us on Instagram @girlsgottaeatpodcast, Ashley @ashhess, and Rayna @rayna.greenberg. Visit our website for tour dates, merchandise, and more. Shop Vibes Only. Thank you to our partners this week: Hello Fresh: Get 50% off plus free shipping at hellofresh.com/50gge and use code 50GGE. Nutrafol: Get $10 off your first month’s subscription and free shipping at nutrafol.com when you use  promo code GGE. Caraway: Get 10% off your next purchase at carawayhome.com/gge or use code GGE.  See Privacy Policy at https://

The Lord has returned! Our most recurring guest Jared Freid (comedian, podcaster, ick whisperer) joins us to talk about THE ICK. We define what the ick is (and what it isn’t), break down icks vs. turnoffs, share our own icks and Jared’s favorites from around the world, discuss ick appropriation and if icks have gone too far, and Jared explains down why guys don’t get the ick. We also talk about Extension-gate, the main difference between “bad dates” in NYC vs. LA, and airline loyalty, and then we have one of the most awkward moments in Girls Gotta Eat history. Before Jared joins us, we’re catching up on Rayna’s Italy trip and our latest thoughts on solo travel, debate which pizza chain is best, and Ashley shares the psychotic thing she did to her brother’s Barbie when they were kids. AND we have tons of TV and book recs. Enjoy! Watch Jared’s new special “37 & Single” on Netflix, follow him on Instagram @jaredfreid, and visit his website for tour dates and more. Follow us @girlsgottaeatpodcast, Ashley @ash

We are so excited to welcome author/podcaster/Bachelor alum Nick Viall into the GGE studio for some real-talk dating advice. We discuss fuckboys vs. players, how to approach (and not approach) the DTR conversation, the step-by-step process for turning a situationship into a relationship, compatibility vs. chemistry (and what’s more important), why love at first sight isn’t real, and more. We also have Nick translate common things guys say ranging from “I can’t give you what you want” to “I want to lay low tonight.” Before he joins us, we break down the Barbie movie, Ashley’s passion for shopping malls, and Rayna’s date with you-know-who. Enjoy!  Follow Nick on Instagram @nickviall, check out his podcast The Viall Files, and get his book Don’t Text Your Ex Happy Birthday.  Follow us @girlsgottaeatpodcast, Ashley @ashhess, and Rayna @rayna.greenberg. Visit our website for tour dates, merchandise, and more. Shop Vibes Only. Thank you to our partners this week: HelloFresh: Get 50% off plus free shipping at hellof

Grab your Cosmos, we have the woman responsible for Sex and the City, the real-life Carrie Bradshaw – Candace Bushnell! Candace joins us to talk about the show that became the voice of many generations, forging her own path as a successful woman (when it was much harder to do so), the real story behind Mr. Big, how she met her former husband and why they got married so quickly, why girlfriends are so important, dating men from ages 21-91, her feelings on And Just Like That, and more. Before Candace joins us, we talk about Rayna’s upcoming date with DBCG (if you know you know), Ashley’s bf meeting the fam, and a secret Rayna thought Ashley kept from her. Enjoy!  Follow Candace on Instagram @candacebushnell, and find more at her website (including info on her one-woman show). Follow us @girlsgottaeatpodcast, Ashley @ashhess, and Rayna @rayna.greenberg. Visit our website for tour dates, merchandise, and more. Shop Vibes Only. Thank you to our partners this week: Article: Get $50 off your first purchase of $100 o

We’re so happy to welcome back bestselling author Mark Manson to give more life advice that doesn’t suck. We’re discussing the truth about happiness – that there is no “formula” for it, why “getting rid” of your problems isn’t the answer, and recognizing delusional positivity. In terms of relationships, we talk about how you and your partner’s strengths and weaknesses counterbalance each other, how conflict strengthens a healthy relationship, and what you can be doing right now to improve your dating life. Mark also turns the tables on us and asks how the podcast has changed our dating life, and he shares his own wild cheating story, which leads us to our final discussion about post traumatic growth (how a lot of people end up thriving after a traumatic incident). Before Mark joins us, we talk about more changes in Rayna’s life (hint: porn and pedicures), Ashley’s DMV journey, and how we got in trouble in high school. We also spill some tea on someone Rayna ran into and who texted Ashley. Enjoy! Follow Mark o

We have a lot to unpack! Ashley turned 40 and is in a relationship, and Rayna reads fiction now and can’t stop being naked. We recap the best trip of our lives from the laughs to the luxury to the perineum sunning, and also discuss aging and being confident in your looks/body. Then we drag And Just Like That (again), hype Colleen Hoover (again), and deep dive on a listener question – should you date the person you have a better sexual or emotional connection with? Enjoy! Follow us @girlsgottaeatpodcast, Ashley @ashhess, and Rayna @rayna.greenberg. Visit our website for tour dates, merchandise, and more. Shop Vibes Only. Thank you to our partners this week: Skims: Get free shipping on orders over $75 at skims.com. Beis: Get 15% off your first purchase at beistravel.com/gge.  Helix: Get 20% off all mattress orders + two free pillows at helixsleep.com/gge with code HELIXPARTNER. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

We are so honored to welcome back renowned psychotherapist and bestselling author Esther Perel to discuss a variety of topics for both people in relationships and those looking for love. She speaks on the challenge of meeting people today and gives advice for how single people can reframe dating (especially first dates). Moving onto relationships, we discuss how in every relationship someone needs more security and someone needs more freedom, how reactions in relationships are like a figure 8 and how to manage conflicts better, the theory of fundamental attribution error and thinking we are more complex than our partners, when we are most attracted to our partners and why, and the four things you can do in a relationship to keep the desire thriving. Before Esther joins us, we talk about guys having bad fashion on vacations, Rayna’s surgery, Ashley’s pregnancy prevention, and the stark difference in how we do laundry. We also answer a listener’s email about meeting a great guy right before moving and what she

Everyone talks about manifesting, but do they actually know how to do it? We’re so excited to have manifestation expert and 2x bestselling author Roxie Nafousi walk us through the seven steps of manifesting to get what you want in your romantic life, career, friendships, finances, and more. In addition to the actionable steps, we also discuss overcoming tests from the universe (*cough* like your ex reappearing), the importance of gratitude (but why it’s not always the answer), and handling jealousy (both when you feel it and when others are projecting it onto you). Before Roxie joins us, we recap Rayna’s bicoastal birthday parties, our trip with Bill Greenberg, and the new guy in Ashley’s life. Enjoy! Follow Roxie on Instagram @roxienafousi and check out her books Manifest and Manifest: Dive Deeper.  Follow us @girlsgottaeatpodcast, Ashley @ashhess, and Rayna @rayna.greenberg. Visit our website for tour dates, merchandise, and more. Shop Vibes Only. Thank you to our partners this week: Pretty Litter: Get 20%

We’ve all had embarrassing things happen in the bedroom, and we’re breaking them down – from bodily fluids to noises to clothing mishaps to dirty talk gone wrong. We’re sharing our stories and submissions from our listeners and normalizing/laughing about all of it. Before we get into the topic, we’re talking about trusting someone’s attraction to you, Rayna getting another breast surgery, and Ashley falling. Plus, we break down the Kim Cattrall and Sarah Jessica Parker feud (with some surprising revelations). Enjoy! Follow us @girlsgottaeatpodcast, Ashley @ashhess, and Rayna @rayna.greenberg. Visit our website for tour dates, merchandise, and more. Shop Vibes Only. Thank you to our partners this week: Living Proof: Get 15% off your first purchase at livingproof.com/gge + use code GGEHAIR. Daily Harvest: Get up to $65 off your first box at dailyharvest.com/gge. AG1:  Get a free 1-year supply of Vitamin D + 5 free travel packs with your first purchase at athleticgreens.com/gge.  Native: Get 20% off your first o

We are so thrilled to welcome back Dr. Emily Morse, icon in the sexual education and podcasting worlds and author of the new book Smart Sex, to elevate our sex lives. We discuss the five pillars of the “sexual IQ” and how to boost yours, taking a desire inventory to pinpoint your needs and wants, recognizing and combating “pleasure thieves” that prevent you from having your best sex, and the three Ts of communicating with your partner. We also break down the G-spot, the A-spot, and positions for more pleasure. Before Emily joins us, we’re chatting about our new friend group, Rayna’s rendezvous with Dallas Business Card Guy, and Ashley’s mile high encounter. Follow Emily on Instagram @sexwithemily, check out her podcast Sex With Emily, and get her new book Smart Sex. Follow us @girlsgottaeatpodcast, Ashley @ashhess, and Rayna @rayna.greenberg. Visit our website for tour dates, merchandise, and more. Shop Vibes Only. Thank you to our partners this week: Helix: Get 20% off all mattress orders + 2 free pillows at

We absolutely loved having author and professor Marcia Inhorn join us to discuss the “mating gap” between men and women and the real reasons women are freezing their eggs. We talk about misconceptions regarding egg freezing, the stories of women who have chosen to do so, the undersupply of men for educated women who want children, dating up vs. dating down, the empowerment of egg freezing, and more. Before Marcia joins us, we’re chatting about Ashley’s awkward hotel experience, Rayna’s new car, girlfriends as life partners, and one year of Vibes Only! Enjoy! Visit Marcia Inhorn’s website and check out her book Motherhood on Ice.  Follow us @girlsgottaeatpodcast, Ashley @ashhess, and Rayna @rayna.greenberg. Visit our website for tour dates, merchandise, and more. Shop Vibes Only. Thank you to our partners this week: Hello Fresh: Get 16 free meals plus free shipping at hellofresh.com/gge16 and use code GGE16. Buffy: Get $20 off your order at buffy.co with promo code GGE. AG1: Get a free 1 year supply of immune-

Are you ready for FERAL GIRL SUMMER? We’re planning on three months of fun, and setting you up for success so you can start the summer without any negative energy or emotional baggage from a toxic ex, that loser who ghosted you, a friend who fucked you over, or whatever you may be holding on to. We’re also sharing our listeners’ summer goals, and giving you a manifestation assignment. On this episode, we also discuss Scandoval and share thoughts on cheating and how some people can do such hurtful things, plus breaking down Selling Sunset season 6. We’re also spilling all the tea on Ashley’s matchmaker date and Rayna making out with her ex on the road. Enjoy! Follow us @girlsgottaeatpodcast, Ashley @ashhess, and Rayna @rayna.greenberg. Visit our website for tour dates, merchandise, and more. Shop Vibes Only. Thank you to our partners this week: Native: Get 20% off your first order at nativedeo.com/gge or use promo code GGE at checkout. Nutrafol: Get $10 off at nutrafol.com when you use promo code GGE. Article:

*Trigger warning for sexual assault* We are joined by comedian Hanna Dickinson for an open, honest conversation about STIs, sexual assault, addiction to prescription drugs, and more. She shares her story of contracting herpes, how she discloses it when dating, and why it’s actually a positive when it comes to finding a partner. Hanna also shares her story of being sexually assaulted by a rideshare driver and how she has been coping with the trauma. We also discuss body positivity and the pressure/desire to lose weight, Adderall addiction, and (on a lighter note) Hanna’s exclusive interview with Ariana Madix. Before Hanna joins us, we’re chatting about being a great host vs. a person who doesn’t like to host, Ashley’s journey getting off the pill, and Rayna’s high-pressure driving test.  Follow Hanna on Instagram at @hansdickie and visit her website for show dates and more. Follow us @girlsgottaeatpodcast, Ashley @ashhess, and Rayna @rayna.greenberg. Visit our website for tour dates, merchandise, and more. Sho

We’re talking about the struggle of feeling used and/or taken advantage of by friends, partners, co-workers, and family. We discuss how to recognize it and put an end to it, drawing boundaries, redirecting someone, self-talk, and more. Before we get into the topic, we’re sharing the craziness that went down after a recent show, a (just discovered) major difference in how we sleep, and a wild tale of BV. Enjoy!  Follow us @girlsgottaeatpodcast, Ashley @ashhess, and Rayna @rayna.greenberg. Visit our website for tour dates, merchandise, and more. Shop Vibes Only. Thank you to our partners this week: Helix: Get 20% off all mattress orders + 2 free pillows at helixsleep.com/gge with code HELIXPARTNER. Stitch Fix: Get $20 off your first fix at stitchfix.com/gge. AG1: Get a free 1 year supply of immune-supporting Vitamin D + 5 free travel packs with your first purchase at athleticgreens.com/gge. Native: Get 20% off your first order at nativedeo.com/gge or use promo code GGE at checkout. See Privacy Policy at https:/

Let’s talk about money, honey! We have Ramit Sethi, best-selling author and star of the hit Netflix show How to Get Rich, back for another game-changing interview. He’s breaking down renting vs. buying a home (and debunking myths and misconceptions), the four numbers you need to know when it comes to your spending, how to know if you can afford something, and most importantly – figuring out what your rich life is and how to achieve it. Plus, we’re discussing why couples don’t talk to each other about money, and how to talk to your partner about it in various scenarios (you have debt, they have debt, you make more, splitting expenses, etc.). Before Ramit joins us, we’re talking about the theory of which body part you wash first says something about you, and thoughts about going off birth control. Enjoy! Follow Ramit on Instagram @ramit, check out his Netflix show How to Get Rich, and his book I Will Teach You to Be Rich. Visit his website for more. Follow us @girlsgottaeatpodcast, Ashley @ashhess, and Rayna @r