Divorce Talk With Nicola Beer

It's extremely challenging to live with a negative person. They may have depression or they may be habitually negative and cannot see how miserable they are making themselves and the toxic effect they are having on others. They may even mock you for being positive or naive when you see the good in things and others. If you have already tried talking to them, asked if they need support and have been met with more negativity this article is for you. I will share with you my 5 secrets to keep you feeling good and your energy high, when living with a negative person. For more free resources visit www.purepeacecoaching.com Nicola Beer - International Relationship Coach - Marriage I Infidelity I Divorce Support

When couples come to me saying that "we're only together for the children" I can't help but feel concerned for their future happiness and marriage and like to suggest an alternative plan. You see when couples think, say and believe that there is nothing else but their children holding them together, they destroy their connection. As it implies they have willingly agreed to a life of misery, accepting something they wish they could avoid. If you have begun to associate your spouse and the marriage, with being negative, unhappy and trapped, unfortunately that is what you are likely to experience and this will typically grow worse over time not get better unless you change something... In this episode you will learn what to do if you only believe your together for the children. From my heart to yours Nicola Nicola Beer International Relationship Coach www.purepeacecoaching.com

When will I stop feeling guilty? Is a question that comes up frequently in my private online sessions. Typically it's where after much deliberation and consideration someone has decided to leave their marriage and cannot shake off the breakup and divorce guilt. Some worry about how their ex has taken the news, others are consumed with fears about the impact it will have on their children. Then there are those who feel guilty for causing pain, shame and disrespect to their parents and extended family. Often they will say to me: "I know I've done the right thing, it would be far worse for all concerned if I stayed for guilt alone... BUT When will I stop feeling guilty?" Here my reply and the 7 truths you need to know about Guilt to free yourself.

During relationship challenges and divorce it is common to either overeat or not eat and neither aids recovery. To change your life "All It Takes Is Good Habits" - I borrowed this line from Carol Holditch founder of Good Habits UAE, it’s the slogan for her business which has helped hundreds of men and women change their eating and lifestyle habits. Her philosophy is that switching to good habits should be easy, fun and for life. Curious about how she does that, I jumped at the opportunity to interview her and find out more... Listen to the exclusive interview in this episode. P.S Carole knows the struggles of dealing with weight management she lost 42 lbs 25years ago and has maintained that weigh loss. Which is why I wanted us to have access to her wisdom and tips. As to create a new beginning it takes a tremendous amount of energy and energy comes from our food. For more free resources visit www.purepeacecoaching.com

This episode is for single men and women, looking for love. Want to know why so many people struggle with finding incredible relationships? No… it’s not because there aren’t any good women or men left out there, or because they are in the wrong city, profession, or wrong time in their life. And it’s definitely not because the kind of love and relationship they want doesn’t exist. The 3 main reasons people struggle will be explained in this episode...as well as some tips to help you set yourself up to win when it comes to finding love. to read this article visit my blog www.purepeacecoaching.com/blog

What is Your Reason for Being Together? Do you have a Purpose for sharing a Life with one Another? Gottman in his book "The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work" that has sold over a million copies worldwide, states that in order to have a successful marriage we must create a shared meaning. I have found this extremely useful in bringing couples closer together and want to share this principle with you. Even if you are not in a relationship right now you may find it useful, as it helps to be clear on your values, vision, expectations, when considering potential partners. The more aware you are of what matters most to you, the more likely you will be able to attract the right match and quickly filter out those that won't make you happy long-term. For more resources check out www.purepeacecoaching.com Nicola Beer International Relationship Coach

Of all the challenges, change and stress divorce brings, long distance parenting is one of the most painful and difficult to face. And yet, it is a very real experience for countless numbers of divorced families. In this episode I will explore common reasons for long-distance parenting, the changes long-distance children experience and offer 12 tips for successful long -distance parenting. Whilst this is written for those separated and divorced, many expats living apart from their children have found the tips useful. To protect children further get your copy of my free e-books available at www.purepeacecoaching.com

When it comes to teenagers and divorce, many parents can find difficult to know whether teenagers need space or support. In this episode I cover the 3 warning signs to look out for, so you can decide if extra care or additional help is needed. If you like this, you may also like my free e-book Protect Children Through Divorce http://www.purepeacecoaching.com/help-childrenwithdivorce/

What Do Men Need from Relationships? Well certainly the worst advice you can ever receive when it comes to meeting a man's needs is "treat them mean, keep them keen!" According to Dr Harley's research many of us fall in love with our partners partly because of the compliments they give us. Some of us just love to be told we are appreciated. attractive and admired for being a good worker, lover, parent etc. More men than women in his research had admiration as one of their top 5 needs. Listen to the other top 5 needs for men in this episode... From my heart to yours, Nicola P.S If you liked this you might like my FREE E-BOOKS 7 Secrets To Save Your Marriage - http://www.purepeacecoaching.com/services-4/marriagecounseling/ 7 Steps to Create a New Life After Breakup & Divorce - http://www.purepeacecoaching.com/manifesting-a-new-life/

So when does drinking become a problem in a marriage? Is it when the drinker recognizes they have a dependency? Is it when the non-drinker says they have a problem? Is it when the drinking is interfering with the relationship? Alcohol consumption in my coaching has been linked to an increase in angry outbursts, arguments and aggression. It also blamed or used as an excuse for infidelity and being out of control. Others mention how drinking has caused; their sex life to dwindle, a lack of interest in family activities and depression. Is drinking yours or your spouses drinking interfering with your relationship? Or is someone close to you going through this? You may find this episode useful. For more free e-books www.purepeacecoaching.com 7 Secrets to Saving your Marriage 10 steps to Creating a New Life after Divorce Protect Children through Divorce

I don’t believe “Constructive Criticism” works in close relationships, especially between husband and wife. Criticism kill passion, love and closeness Just the same way Self-Criticism diminishes self-esteem, confidence and overall happiness. Even in business surveys and statistical data show that frequent Criticism is responsible for millions of employee sick days, job dissatisfaction and resignations. Which in turn contributes to a decrease in productivity and profits. Ongoing Criticism between parents and children can lead to built up resentment, rebellion, rows, and long-term fall out. Having seen the damaging affect frequent criticism has in a relationship and to a person, where an individual loses their sense of who they are and happiness. I wanted to share some insights and new ways of expressing complaints. Nicola Beer - International Relationship Coach - For your copy of a free e-book 7 Secrets to Save Your Marriage and Post Break Up Support visit www.purepeacecoaching.com

Did you make any New Year resolutions? Perhaps you don’t believe in them but have been wanting to make some positive changes in 2016. Either way, how are the changes going? If you have failed to do what you planned, don’t give up! Set-backs happen, just recommit to your goals and start again if you need to. Those who succeed keep going, they “get back on the horse” and try again. Another powerful method to is to install the changes at the unconscious level using Hypnosis… here I interview Anna Yates, Hypnotherapist who runs a successful practice in Dubai. Tune in to learn how it works and what hypnosis can be used for. Nicola Beer is an International Relationship Coach and Best Selling Author in 3 books. To get more free resources visit www.purepeacecoaching.com

The first conversation and thoughts about ending your marriage often results in numerous questions, doubts and fears come flooding in. If you’re unsure, you may think it’s safer to ignore and bury your feelings but this won’t help you long-term. Fears must be dealt with, addressed or put to rest, in order to gain peace of mind and move forward. Especially if you have made the decision to leave. Many clients share with me that before they booked my programs they were barely functioning, couldn’t eat, sleep their mind was constantly racing with a huge list of what if’s. Many have questions like: Will the children be ok? Will I survive financially? Will anyone ever want to be with me? How will I pay for everything? Will I regret my decision? Will I be ok on my own? Use this 3 step process to deal with separation and anxiety and divorce fears. For more free resources get my FREE e-books: 7 Secrets To Save Your Marriage http://www.purepeacecoaching.com/services-4/marriagecounseling/ 7 Steps to Cre

Face and overcome your fears this year. Whether it’s a fear of loving and trusting again after a break up, a fear of loving fully to your partner after a rough patch, a fear of starting something new. When we address our fears we become powerful. In this episode you will learn a 5 step process to face your fears this year. I will share with you my biggest relationship and personal fears as an example and encourage you to seize back your power and make 2016 your best year yet. If you want more free resources visit my website at www.purepeacecoaching.com and get free relationship and break up support. Nicola Beer #nicola_beer_dxb

Are you too or your partner too busy with work for your marriage? Does your profession own you? Does work keep you away from quality time – or any time from your relationship and family? Do the demands of errands, meetings and emergencies keep you from catching your breath? If you answered yes to this you could be suffering from workaholism. In this episode I cover 7 tips to stop work from interfering with your marriage and family time. Nicola Beer – International Relationship & Divorce Coach nicola@purepeacecoaching.com www.purepeacecoaching.com

Like many of the individuals I work with, when I went through a break up 6 years ago, I felt lost, alone, confused and exhausted. I was stuck with no peace. Stuck with the same disempowering questions going round and round my in head: Why did they do that? Why me? Why now? What’s wrong with me? Will I ever be happy? Will I ever meet someone that loves me again? Will I survive financially? Then there are the questions about who, what and where you should be. Where the confusion over who you are and what makes you happy plays on your mind You get frustrated with yourself because you’re so unsure of what to do next. Sometimes you’re confused over whether the relationship ending was good or bad, confused over who you really are now, confused over what your place should be in the world. Lesson 5: When going through a break up and divorce you need to Rediscover your place in the world You do this by embarking on a journey of self-discovery and taking action. Through my experience stumbling along the hard way, I cre

Since working with individuals over the years to heal from infidelity and multiple marriages, I have learnt what successful rebuilders do compared to those unsuccessful in repairing their relationships after affairs. Whilst there is no denying that affairs can destroy love, relationships and self-confidence, they don’t have to. As long as the betrayer follows some crucial steps to help their spouse heal and together the couple look at ways to improve and strengthen their marriage. in this episode I cover 6 things that are vital in recovery after affairs, my lessons from the 12 years I have been working with individuals with emotional distress and couples. I hope they are useful, from my heart to yours Nicola www.purepeacecoaching.com - Nicola Beer - International Relationship & Divorce Coach

During the training I learnt about the different types of relationship needs individuals have. I became aware that many individuals like I did, focused on giving their partner more of what they want and not what their partner needs. The problem with this was clear. When you do this you IGNORE your lover’s needs. Men and Women would find despite all their best efforts their partner failed to respond, reciprocate or appreciate. I noticed couples where it was obvious that they deeply loved and cared for one another just weren’t connecting. In training I became familiar with the work of many famous marriage counselors and their application of the 10 needs in marriage counseling. These 10 needs are pretty much universal. Typically Men’s top 5 needs are different to Women’s top 5. Although every couple has a unique blend of their needs and how they want the need to be met. In this episode discover Women’s top two needs and men’s top two needs and why this is important to know… Nicola Beer International Relation

Lesson 1 of 7 – Emotional Honesty & Expression Is Key – Overcoming Gridlock - - Before, I never use to say when I was upset or share my feelings. Mainly because I didn’t know how to share my feelings and bring up topics. During studying more about relationships I realized that successful couples in marriages, express themselves and that a solid relationship is based on emotional honesty. Working with couples, I recognized that not sharing is unhealthy as unresolved annoyances, anger, doubts, hurts, fester and leave you to build up resentment and frustration, which can lead to explosion, angry outbursts or further withdrawal and shut down. The shut down and emotional dishonesty leaves a couple grid locked unable to solve problems which can lead to separate lives and affairs. Here I explain what you can do if this is resonating with you and your partner. It’s from our lessons we can get true peace. Peace with the past, peace in the now and peace for our futures. Nicola Beer – Pure Peace – www.

The Love You Have is Determined By YOU Before… Before I became UK certified in grief and loss, studied relationship coaching and emotional healing techniques - I didn’t love myself enough, or really at all for that matter… I rarely took time for me, it was work, work, work or running round after others. Often I would find it hard to accept compliments and gifts. Somehow I felt I don’t deserve it… All of this is blocking love from coming in. During… the training I learnt that loving yourself is only the first step. The second step is growing and nurturing the love you have so it can flourish. The third is letting go of things in the way of you experiencing true love. Inside this episode you will get my 3 STEP PROCESS which have been described as Transformational. These 3 steps are part of my exclusive VIP program GET THE LOVE YOU WANT! and for the first time I am sharing them with you. Nicola Beer International Relationship & Divorce Coach www.purepeacecoaching.com