The Intimate Lifestyle

Every Tuesday on Modern SexTalks we come at you with Just the Tip Tuesday where we offer a 10 minute segment from a previous episode.  Our episodes can be a bit long sometimes, and it can be hard to remember everything, so this is an option to get bite sized bits of information on a weekly basis. Today's episode is a short segment from EP160: Sex Work Secrets from an ex-Madam | Raven. Raven is a retired sex worker, who went to Japan at a young age to escape a humdrum routine she calls life. There she learned the art and trade of being a modern geisha and a high-end-escort-slash-sex-worker, under the care of a mama-san who ensures the clients treat the women in her club like princesses. Like us on Facebook and Instagram! And help us out by leaving a rating and a review in iTunes.  

When we say addiction, we automatically think drugs. But addiction can be about almost anything – sex addiction, porn, food, literally anything.   Whatever form of addiction one may have, there is one common thing that gets messed up, and that is our relationships. This is what Ben and I wanted to unpack in our conversation.   Ben Goresky is an addiction counselor, helping other men through Evolving Man, where he provides resources on relationships, masculinity, and health. What's interesting with Ben was he suffered from addiction and was sent to rehab when he was just 15 years old. It is this personal experience that allowed him to coach and provide counsel to other addicts effectively and with credibility. And it’s with this experience as an addictions counsellor that he’s able to now coach men with compassion, and without judgement, through the many challenges they’ve been faced with that hold them back in love and life.   In this episode, we discussed:   A brief background of his life, relationship, and

Every Tuesday on Modern SexTalks we come at you with Just the Tip Tuesday where we offer a 10 minute segment from a previous episode.  Our episodes can be a bit long sometimes, and it can be hard to remember everything, so this is an option to get bite sized bits of information on a weekly basis. Today's episode is a short segment from EP158:Hypnosis and Seduction with Ross Jeffries. Ever wondered how you can pick up and seduce women effectively? Ross Jeffries just might help you in this area… and more. Ross is a master hypnotist and NLP practitioner – so I might have been under the power of his hypnosis on this episode.  Ross Jeffries applies and teaches conversational hypnosis to seduce women and this is what we will deep-dive on today. If you perceive that the practice of hypnosis overrides human autonomy and volition, let our conversation guide you on how this seemingly sketchy practice can help people traverse relationships. Like us on Facebook and Instagram! And help us out by leaving a rating and a re

There are few things that are certain in life – and death is one of those.   Death has always been seen as the conclusion of life. But for Stephen Garrett, he sees new beginnings and opportunities in death to cultivate positivity and powerful change. Stephen is a death coach, but it hasn’t always been the case. For some time, he served people as a life coach but noticed that while this enabled people to change their lives, it is often short-lived. He observed, however, that death is a more potent tool to create profound and long-lasting changes.   He believes that we must face and embrace death instead of avoiding it. In this episode, we discussed the emotions that accompany death and share our own experiences dealing with the death of loved ones, and people close to us who have also struggled with grief and loss.   Just some of the things we covered today are:   The deeper purpose of being a death educator and coach, and the process of getting rid of grief which is not done alone, and must be received by an

Every Tuesday on Modern SexTalks we come at you with Just the Tip Tuesday where we offer a 10 minute segment from a previous episode.  Our episodes can be a bit long sometimes, and it can be hard to remember everything, so this is an option to get bite sized bits of information on a weekly basis. Today's episode is a short segment from EP156: Customizing Your Relationship with Amy Gahran. Amy Gahran aka Aggie Sex, is the author of the book Stepping Off the Relationship Escalator which delves into customizing your relationships to fit your needs. Still don't quite understand the relationship escalator from that short description? Amy, who's appeared on CNN.com and Entrepreneur.com, goes deep into this topic and how it relates to how people behave in their relationships.   Like us on Facebook and Instagram! And help us out by leaving a rating and a review in iTunes.  

Every Tuesday on Modern SexTalks we come at you with Just the Tip Tuesday where we offer a 10 minute segment from a previous episode.  Our episodes can be a bit long sometimes, and it can be hard to remember everything, so this is an option to get bite sized bits of information on a weekly basis. Today's episode is a short segment from EP151: No More Mr Nice Guy with Dr Robert Glover.  Today’s guest is Dr. Robert Glover – an internationally recognized authority on the Nice Guy Syndrome. He wrote No More Mr. Nice Guy – a book I have read twice and found to be really insightful in understanding the male psyche. As a result of his work, Dr. Glover has helped thousands of nice guys transform from being passive, resentful victims to empowered, integrated males.  A self-professed recovering nice guy himself, he took the time to chat with me about bad boys and nice guys, and how being nice can cause resentment, anxiety and repressed anger in relation to getting the sex life, relationship, success, among other thing

Do you know the most natural-feeling condom brand and type there is out there? Or do you know how a tissue roll can gauge you or your partner’s penis size compared to the rest of the world?   Those are just some of the things you’ll learn on this week’s very informative episode, as Matt Mandell, CEO of Condomania joins me on the show. Condomania is a company that was established in 1991 during the peak of the AIDS crisis and has been America's, if not the world's first condom source. With the dawn of the internet, Condomania created their website as early as 1995 that allows people to shop for their condom needs and more, one of the pioneers of e-commerce.   Matt and I talked about condoms, lubricants, issues, my unusual sexual fear, and other topics not as widely talked about as they are experienced in the real world on this episode with a healthy dose of humor.   Topics we’ve covered are:   Condomania’s product mix and loyal customer base (1:46). The emotional and/or mental issues involved with being on th

Is being a Yes Man (or Woman) getting you in trouble more than good? Then maybe you should learn the art of properly saying “No”.   Little Woo is the founder of the School of Enchantment, where she serves as a mentor and coach, guiding people in their relationships and lives. She teaches a program for those who are going through big changes and wants to transition towards a more magical life through creativity and freedom, so they can walk the enchanted path of compassion, creation, and celebration.    On this episode, we focused on the often seen as difficult practice of saying “No”, dealing with conflicts and the other consequences attributed from saying “No”, as well as our personal experiences in conflicts and rejection.   Some of the points we’ve touched on today are: How cynical she was in the past, and the 7-year journey that prompted her to look inside, learn how to swim instead of drowning, let go of feeling powerless, and eventually helping other people with similar journeys (5:00). How mixed signa

Every Tuesday on Modern SexTalks we come at you with Just the Tip Tuesday where we offer a 10 minute segment from a previous episode.  Our episodes can be a bit long sometimes, and it can be hard to remember everything, so this is an option to get bite sized bits of information on a weekly basis. Today's episode is a short segment from EP145: Master and Slave Relationships and Healthy Power Dynamics with Severyn Kain Master Severyn is a BDSM Master, alternative lifestyle presenter, and kink event organizer who has been active in the realm of BDSM, kink, and fetishism for the last 10 years (if to include the years he's been lurking and playing spectator on the events – it will total 15 years). Today we discuss the development of his interest in BDSM and kink, events and activities in the community, defining terms used in the lifestyle, the relationship dynamics in BDSM, and integrating healthy power dynamics rooted from BDSM to traditional relationships. Like us on Facebook and Instagram! And help us out by l

Sexual shame and performance mindset are just some of issues that have plagued human sexuality. An episode 2 years in the making, today’s guest, Jordan Gray, is someone I’ve known for years – I’ve seen him grow his business revolving around sex and relationship from the ground up.   A sex and relationship coach for 7 and a half years, he started it through offline coaching and expanded online 5 years ago. His business had been growing steadily since, allowing him to reach and help people around the world with their relationships and sexuality.   Today, Jordan Gray joins me on the show to talk about shame, performance mindset, (which he personally experienced), his recommendations to overcome these, and a few social justice rants sprinkled with some movie references.   Listen as we discuss:   How he ended up in the field of sex and relationship coaching which may be traced as early as when he was 15 years old, and a major break-up that drove him to figure out social skills and dating (3:34). The concept of se

One of the social contract theories is that of Thomas Hobbes’ expounded on the book Leviathan where he stated that the nature of man and life is poor, nasty, and brutish – and with how the world is currently, it is easy to think so too.   There are many other social contract theories out there that claim otherwise. John Izzo, the author of the book The Five Thieves of Happiness, debunks this claim saying that happiness is actually human’s natural state. Dr. John Izzo has over two decades worth of credentials in the field of business, leadership, success, social responsibility and happiness where he’s written books, and spoken numerous conferences and summits.   Plenty to learn and realize on this episode where we discussed leadership, happiness and what is it that prevents us from sustaining happiness and success. Specific topics we’ve covered in our conversation includes:   Questions that boggled his mind ever since he was a young boy which served as the precursor to his book The Five Thieves of Happiness (

These are the three things central to this episode and I have Lianna Walden back on the show to talk about these concepts and how they play out in real-life relationships.   Lianna is a sex and relationship coach and sexual energy healer who works on non-traditional relationships including bisexuality and non-monogamy. She connects with people, finds out about what’s happening to them sexually and uses this knowledge to help them get through their relationships and lives.   Some of the areas we’ve discussed today are: What her partner revealed that led into opening up their relationship and exploring non-monogamy (8:37). The phases of jealousy and types of fears that Lianna and her partner went through during this experimentation phase, the relationships they had, and how they worked their way through that experience (11:31). Tackling non-monogamy and the inevitable jealousy in the setup, and how it affects the parties involved in her workshops (19:40). The role threat, insecurity, and low self-esteem plays

If you’re interested in the art of seduction and even sex work, it is known that the allure of the Japanese Geisha is unrivaled in the erotic world. It’s an art and finesse that is not observed in most cultures – especially the Western ones – and this episode will let you have a peek at it.   Raven is a retired sex worker, who went to Japan at a young age to escape a humdrum routine she calls life. There she learned the art and trade of being a modern geisha and a high-end-escort-slash-sex-worker, under the care of a mama-san who ensures the clients treat the women in her club like princesses.   Today, Raven and I talked about the nitty gritty of the adult entertainment, escort service, and sex work. She then provides insights from both provider and client point of view of the industry.   Our conversation took us on her 15-year journey in the sex industry where we discussed:   How she decided to leave school, her job and then partner for a Japan trip and how this supposed 3-month itinerary extended to 3 year

Every Tuesday on Modern SexTalks we come at you with Just the Tip Tuesday where we offer a 10 minute segment from a previous episode.  Our episodes can be a bit long sometimes, and it can be hard to remember everything, so this is an option to get bite sized bits of information on a weekly basis. Today's episode is a short segment from EP127: Men and Masculinity with Connor Beaton. Connor Beaton is the Founder of ManTalks and hosts the ManTalks Podcast.  He is becoming more and more renowned in North America for his work on creating an international men's community.  Like us on Facebook and Instagram! And help us out by leaving a rating and a review in iTunes.

Ever wondered how you can pick up and seduce women effectively? Ross Jeffries just might help you in this area… and more.   Ross is a master hypnotist and NLP practitioner – so I might have been under the power of his hypnosis on this episode.   Ross Jeffries applies and teaches conversational hypnosis to seduce women and this is what we will deep-dive on today. If you perceive that the practice of hypnosis overrides human autonomy and volition, let our conversation guide you on how this seemingly sketchy practice can help people traverse relationships.   A controversial subject, I suggest you hold your judgments and listen as we delve into it. If you're really interested in his character and intentions, fast forward to 53:58 to understand his relationship to women and his mother.   Today, we discussed:   His background, Tom Cruise’s role in the movie Magnolia as inspired by his practice, and creating a deviant sex subculture (3:22). How copywriting and social engineering led to his business that provoked th

Every Tuesday on Modern SexTalks we come at you with Just the Tip Tuesday where we offer a 10 minute segment from a previous episode.  Our episodes can be a bit long sometimes, and it can be hard to remember everything, so this is an option to get bite sized bits of information on a weekly basis. Today's episode is a short segment from EP121: How to Beat Porn Addiction with Kel Good. Kel Good is a relationship consultant, an IT guy, entrepreneur, and author of the book 5 Keys to Successfully Beat Porn Addiction; he was also a pastor and suffered porn addiction in the past.  I think the perfect word to describe this episode, the concepts and the stories we’ve talked about is enthralling. We chatted about his personal experience and the process of beating addiction which involved acknowledging it, and facing the addiction head on instead of avoiding it. Like us on Facebook and Instagram! And help us out by leaving a rating and a review in iTunes.

Amy Gahran aka Aggie Sex, is the author of the book Stepping Off the Relationship Escalator which delves into customizing your relationships to fit your needs. Still don't quite understand the relationship escalator from that short description? Amy, who's appeared on CNN.com and Entrepreneur.com, goes deep into this topic and how it relates to how people behave in their relationships.    This conversation will make some people rethink their relationships and how society shaped the norms revolving around it. Some of the topics we touched on are:   Amy’s background and how this factored into doing a research that delves into the different forms of relationships that became the basis of the book (3:37). The concept of relationship anarchy and how it is juxtaposed to the relationship escalator (7:25). How relationship anarchy is a philosophy that promotes not taking anything for granted, and everything is negotiated and consent-based (7:25), and the different forms of relationship anarchy (12:42). How social nor

Sometimes our lovely lady partners can act a little "crazy." How you handle that says a lot about you. It also tells her how much she can trust you.  The truth is, she's not actually being "crazy" (unless she's hitting you, or throwing knives, or deliberately doing things to hurt you). Her "craziness" is actually just emotional repression finding it's way out. Here's how you can handle it like a champ.

Every Tuesday on Modern SexTalks we come at you with Just the Tip Tuesday where we offer a 10 minute segment from a previous episode.  Our episodes can be a bit long sometimes, and it can be hard to remember everything, so this is an option to get bite sized bits of information on a weekly basis. Today's episode is a short segment from EP112: Decoding Your Kink with Galen Fous. Galen Fous is the author of Decoding Your Kink and is the pioneer of the Personal Erotic Myth. Unlike most sex psychologist and therapists who believe that alternative sexuality is often brought about by childhood trauma, Galen proposed a different view to deal with kinks, BDSM and other sexual behavior considered taboo by general society. Today he explains what's really happening behind your erotic mind. Like us on Facebook and Instagram! And help us out by leaving a rating and a review in iTunes.

  Today’s guest is Dr. Robert Glover – an internationally recognized authority on the Nice Guy Syndrome. He wrote No More Mr. Nice Guy – a book I have read twice and found to be really insightful in understanding the male psyche. As a result of his work, Dr. Glover has helped thousands of nice guys transform from being passive, resentful victims to empowered, integrated males.   A self-professed recovering nice guy himself, he took the time to chat with me about bad boys and nice guys, and how being nice can cause resentment, anxiety and repressed anger in relation to getting the sex life, relationship, success, among other things that they think they deserve.   Specific areas we discussed are:   His background as a psychotherapist on marriage and family therapy, and even earlier as a minister for a fundamentalist church (1:40). His current life living in a place where the sun always shines, with his amazing wife, and the ‘complications’ of having grandkids and kids of e’ (0). The events precedent to writin