The Intimate Lifestyle

Every Tuesday on Modern SexTalks we come at you with Just the Tip Tuesday where we offer a 10 minute segment from a previous episode.  Our episodes can be a bit long sometimes, and it can be hard to remember everything, so this is an option to get bite sized bits of information on a weekly basis. Today's episode is a short segment from EP109: Sex, Sin and Zen with Brad Warner. Brad Warner is a Zen Buddhist monk, and his brand is Hardcore Zen. One of his most popular books is Sex, Sin and Zen where he talks about the Zen perspective on sex and sin. Like us on Facebook and Instagram! And help us out by leaving a rating and a review in iTunes.

Do you really want to get your ex back? Why? What is it that they gave you that you need so much that you can't give yourself? Those questions are kind of bullshit. Getting broken up with sucks, and when you become single, you miss that companionship, touch, sex, and all those other things that you can't "give yourself" while you're single. So I get why you'd want your partner back. But there's a healthy way to get them back, and an unhealthy way. One involves changing who you are, and the other one involves changing who you are. (yes you read that correctly) In this episode I explain myself better. (or so I like to think) Like us on Facebook and Instagram! And check out our Resources page for a ton of cool stuff. And lastly, leave us a rating and a review in iTunes. It's a great way to say thank you and give us some support.  

Every Tuesday on Modern SexTalks we come at you with Just the Tip Tuesday where we offer a 10 minute segment from a previous episode.  Our episodes can be a bit long sometimes, and it can be hard to remember everything, so this is an option to get bite sized bits of information on a weekly basis. Today's episode is a short segment from EP106: Male Survivors of Sexual Assault with Don Wright. Don is a pioneer in the men's help realm. He introduced the first business solely focussed on helping men heal from sexual assault. It turns out that nearly 50% of youth victims of sexual assault/abuse are boys, yet there are only 4 small business that's provide help to men specifically across Canada. Like us on Facebook and Instagram! And help us out by leaving a rating and a review in iTunes.

Following up on last week's guest Dana Pharant who is a dominatrix – we dive a little deeper this time with my guest on today’s show – Master Severyn Kain.  Master Severyn is a BDSM Master, alternative lifestyle presenter, and kink event organizer who has been active in the realm of BDSM, kink, and fetishism for the last 10 years (if to include the years he's been lurking and playing spectator on the events – it will total 15 years). Today we discuss the development of his interest in BDSM and kink, events and activities in the community, defining terms used in the lifestyle, the relationship dynamics in BDSM, and integrating healthy power dynamics rooted from BDSM to traditional relationships. Another one of those eye-opening episodes for me, one will certainly learn a lot in this episode and explore a lifestyle often talked about behind closed doors. Some of the specific subjects we’ve discussed are:  How he got into the BDSM scene, his source of information on this lifestyle before the dawn of internet (1

Conflict will show up no matter what. Some people can handle it well. Others, not so much. The biggest issue with conflict, is that people are often afraid of confrontation. As a result, they avoid having the conversations they need to. And where does this lead? Misunderstanding, misinterpretation and feelings of betrayal. The biggest key to resolving conflict is ultimately in your own hands. Listen to this show to find out what you can do. Like us on Facebook and Instagram! Check out our Resources page here. And when you can, leave us a rating a review in iTunes to help support us.

What's the secret to having a good friend with benefits that doesn't end in emotional ruin?   I've personally played with this kind of relationship for several years. Being forced to move constantly and establish myself repeatedly in new cities left me always needing to keep things casual longer than I wanted.   As a result, I've learned what works to keep these kinds of relationships truly healthy. I've made some mistakes, but I've also had incredible connections with some amazing women. And for that, I am truly blessed.   The truth is, there will more often than not be emotions that come up that will interfere with the "casual" nature of it.   Like anything, there is a payoff and a struggle associated with any choice you make. If you choose not to have casual sex, you will have to wait months, if not years, before you have sex with someone you want to date. Be willing to embrace the dry spell!   But, if you want to have a friend with benefits, you need to able to do these 2 t

We've all met some crazy people! And we've all got friends who seem to find themselves dating "crazy" partners.  Why is it that some people are just a big magnet for attracting "crazy" boyfriends/girlfriends? An even more important question is what can we do to stop that "craziness" from interfering with our relationships. There is a common theme in every single "crazy" persons actions. Today I share the theme and it's oriented around needs, and who's responsibility it truly is to dealing with that emotional volatility.  And it's not what you think! Like us on Facebook. Check out our Resources Page.

I used to hate women. I used to really despise them. I thought they were all out to cheat on men, manipulate them, use them for their money, take away their children and generally hurt men in every way possible. I was basically the equivalent of a man hating feminist, but a woman hating "meninist."  My routine thought of "why don't women like me" plagued my mind. I would have women I was highly attracted to tell me "I like you, but just as a friend. I just wish more guys were like you...I keep dating assholes." This fed into my anger. How could women be so stupid as to date guys that would hurt them, when I was such a "nice guy"? But once I realized the biggest factor in my happiness with women, that I started to heal from that anger and hate. And through that healing process, my relationships with women did a complete 180. Although I still get frustrated with women (don't we all get frustrated with each other sometimes though?), I love, admire, respect and trust women in ways I couldn't have even considered

This episode is short and sweet and shares and insight that will change your sex and romantic life: guaranteed.  The book I reference is called The Erotic Mind by Jack Morin.  Enjoy the show!

Every Tuesday we come at you with Just the Tip Tuesday where we offer a 10 minute segment from a previous episode.  Our episodes can be a bit long sometimes, and it can be hard to remember everything, so this is an option to get bite sized bits of information on a weekly basis. Today's episode is a short segment from EP085: 11 Types of Female Orgasm with Devi Ward. Did you know women can have at least 11 types of female orgasm? Devi Ward used to be a stripper in Detroit, who then travelled abroad to learn from the best tantra teachers in the world. And now she's teaching us Westerners how to have more powerful orgasms, and more of them.   

Connor Beaton is back on the show after roughly a year since the last time he was the guest when we talked about something controversial. Connor is the founder of Man Talks, a community designed around building better fathers, husbands, leaders – better men in general.  Connor is a self-proclaimed renaissance guy who likes a range of things from opera and yoga to construction and boxing. Today we talk about all the aspects of masculinity in today's society and how it affects men's personality, emotions, and relationships.    Some of the things we talked about are:  What causes the difficulty of guys to understand women (5:38). The Spartan Warrior’s Goji Training where young boys train to become warriors, where half of the day was spent training for combat, and the other half studying finer arts, music, and dance, and how these are integrated into creating elite warriors (6:34). The definition of femininity and masculinity out of Osho’s description of light and its opposite – darkness (11:07), and how these a

Today, I share the story of when I went to an erotic massage course and got several naked massages in front of around 8 other people. Scary, yet also liberating, it's one spot where I learned the skills I have now to create the product that is currently available at www.theintimatelifestyle.com/amansguide. Enjoy the show!

A few weeks ago, a woman named Elizabeth Morris who works in a Sex Toy Store in the UK, contacted me with a link to an article about anal sex. Elizabeth is a content researcher and company merchandiser for Carvaka Sex Toys – which aims to get more people informed and educated about their sex lives. Elizabeth is a self-acclaimed anal sex fan and describes that it is more physically and mentally pleasurable and fulfilling when done right.  I am personally not as familiar or experienced with anal sex, so I definitely learned a lot on this episode. Elizabeth found herself giggling over my questions while I fumble for words, further highlighting my inexperience and awkwardness on the subject. Some of the subjects we’ve covered are: How Elizabeth (and the Carvaka Sex Toys store) wants to educate people about the full spectrum of sexual activities, including anal sex (3:23), thus the article she wrote. Guidelines on anal sex etiquette, the most basic of which being cleanliness where Elizabeth detailed the hygiene r

Did you know that in order for women to truly want to open up sexually, they need to feel connected emotionally? Did you know that men are the complete opposite? This is why relationships can fail. Both partners are stuck thinking the other person isn't holding up their end of their bargain. My guest and I dive into this in this episode. Enjoy! Our product is launching today! Pre-sales have started, and they last only 1 week. Details are here: www.theintimatelifestyle.com/amansguide

Every Tuesday we come at you with Just the Tip Tuesday where we offer a 10 minute segment from a previous episode.  Our episodes can be a bit long sometimes, and it can be hard to remember everything, so this is an option to get bite sized bits of information on a weekly basis. Today's episode is a short segment from EP079: Forgiving a Murderer with Dean Smith.  Normally these Tuesday tips are only 10 minutes, but Dean's story lasts about 20 minutes and I was not about cut it short. Dean's story will rock your world. His mother was murdered. 15 years later, he hugged his mother's murderer. Fucking incredible. Listen in, and get a tissue.

EP 121: How to Beat Porn Addiction We have another interesting episode for this week with our guest Kel Good. He is a relationship consultant, an IT guy, entrepreneur, and author of the book 5 Keys to Successfully Beat Porn Addiction; he was also a pastor and suffered porn addiction in the past.  I think the perfect word to describe this episode, the concepts and the stories we’ve talked about is enthralling. We chatted about his personal experience and the process of beating addiction which involved acknowledging it, and facing the addiction head on instead of avoiding it. Truly an insightful conversation, some of the topics we’ve covered are:  How working as a relationship consultant, he noticed porn addiction is one of the recurrent themes, and how he made the correlation between addictions and lack of connection (2:20). The process of writing the book, how he managed to write the initial draft in a day – going to sleep with an interest in Kindle publishing and waking up inspired and passionate to write t

Check out A Man's Guide to Female Orgasm here: www.theintimatelifestyle.com/amansguide             The second you need your parter(s) to reach orgasm, or the second you feel like you need to perform and give her great sex, you’ve lost. Exchange that need for approval, for appreciation. Appreciation for the fact that you’re having sex, that she’s with you, that you’re feeling pleasure, that her orgasm says nothing about your manhood, and that your sexual performance says nothing about your manhood and masculinity.             Sexual performance is meant to be FUN, not an arbitrary and subjective measurement of your value as a human fucking being. Once you realize this, you’re no longer bound to your thoughts or fears or insecurities. It is a counter-intuitive power to stop caring about the results. But once you find that power, and you start appreciating, all the mental and emotional blocks fall away and results start to come very easily. Understand this concept, and your life will be so much happier.      

Every Tuesday we come at you with Just the Tip Tuesday where we offer a 10 minute segment from a previous episode.  Our episodes can be a bit long sometimes, and it can be hard to remember everything, so this is an option to get bite sized bits of information on a weekly basis. Today's episode is a short segment from EP061: Male Multiple Orgasm with Steven Seva. In today's segment, Steven clarifies that if a man can't not have sex or masturbate without reaching an ejaculatory orgasm, then he is in fact, unknowingly addicted to his ejaculation. Interesting frame of mind, but it will take you very far in your sexual enlightenment.

This is not a claim. I am not perfect. But given what I do, and from personal experience while intensely and very deliberately studying this topic, I have learned a few things.  Today's episode is something that I wish I new when I was younger. But if I'm being honest, this is not an episode for the young man.  This is an episode for a young man who's transitioning into full manhood. A man who's ready to question his manhood and admit that maybe he's not a man; that he has more to learn. A man who only knows how to fight, is only half a man.  A man who's too passive and is afraid of confrontation, cannot penetrate to the heart and deepest depths of a woman. He is the nice guy and will always finish last. Enjoy.

Every Tuesday we come at you with Just the Tip Tuesday where we offer a 10 minute segment from a previous episode.  Our episodes can be a bit long sometimes, and it can be hard to remember everything, so this is an option to get bite sized bits of information on a weekly basis. Today's episode is a short segment from EP058 - Deliberate Touch with Robert Kandell. Today Robert shares with us the power of touch and coming from the wrong mindset can really screw with the experience of the recipient. Enjoy the show!