Unlocking Greatness With Charlie Harary

Today, Charlie discusses how important systems are to achieving goals rather than relying solely on goals themselves. He emphasizes that goals are exciting and necessary but often fail to produce results. Harary explains that systems are the functional aspects of everyday life, just like how society operates with interconnected systems. Systems provide reliability and allow growth and progress. To avoid falling into the trap of repeating the same goals year after year, we need systems. He notes that successful individuals follow process-oriented routines, waking up at the same time, dedicating specific periods to certain activities, and structuring their lives meticulously. By creating systems for various aspects of life, such as waking up, food preparation, family interactions, and studying, one can establish a new normal that operates automatically. The goal is for these systems to become ingrained in daily life, so they require less conscious effort. This creates space in the mind to dream, set new goals,

On today’s episode, Charlie explains that when you’re making changes in your life, you must take stock of the environment that brought you to where you are in the first place, and make sure to be around people who are doing what you want to be doing.  The theory of Mimetic desire by Renee Gerard teaches that human beings create their desires based on what they see in the culture around them. Which means our desires may not even be our own! It might be that what we desire is based on something we see in our society, which all of a sudden we want. All of a sudden we find ourselves needing the thing we may not have even known existed before we saw it! Ie- the world of fashion! Therefore, the environment we put ourselves into is critical! Charlie explains: -The importance of being connected to something which creates an environment in which your new habit is normal, like a workout buddy -The danger of falling back into your old neural connections  -Why it might benefit you to make your new habit pub

On today’s episode, Charlie starts putting everything we’ve talked about in the Mind Hacks Series together. Remember the example of radishes and cookies? We learned about ego depletion, how we only have a certain amount of discipline.  If we use up our discipline on insignificant things, we’re out of discipline early in the day.  For instance, this is why Steve Jobs wears the same thing every day. Jeff Bazos is uninvolved in the small problems and decisions at Amazon because he’s busy with the big direction for the company. Big people don’t get stuck in small problems.  Ask yourself if the moments of your life are worth the amount of discipline you’re giving them. Your discipline needs to go to your new ritual. That ritual needs to be repeated over and over to get wired in. So this is where we want to use our discipline muscle, because you know at some point that ritual will stick in your brain and require less discipline, so the return you get on your discipline investment is so worth it.

Join Charlie Harary in this captivating episode as he equips you with practical tools to break free from bad habits and cultivate a life filled with intentional actions and personal growth. In this podcast episode, Charlie delves into the topic of breaking bad habits and provides valuable insights and strategies to overcome them. He emphasizes the importance of understanding and manipulating the cues that trigger these habits. One powerful technique is deferring the cue, allowing you to pause and make a conscious choice instead of succumbing to the habit impulsively. Charlie shares a personal example of identifying a cue that led to unhelpful behaviors during negotiations. By recognizing the trigger, he implemented a simple but effective change of cue: pausing and writing something down instead of reacting emotionally. This shift prevented him from continuing the same pattern and improved his communication in those situations. When it comes to dealing with the routine of a habit, Charlie suggests making it

In this episode, Charlie Harary delves into the triggers behind negative habits and provides practical strategies to redefine them. By understanding the components of the habit loop, you can gain insights into how to disrupt unwanted patterns and replace them with positive behaviors. Charlie emphasizes the importance of identifying cues that lead to negative habits. Whether it's stress, boredom, or specific environments, recognizing these triggers is the first step towards making a change. Charlie discusses: Changing the Cue: By modifying the cue or trigger, you can interrupt the habit loop. For example, creating a pre-cue ritual or reframing your mindset before entering a stressful situation can help you respond differently and break the cycle of negative behavior. Deferring the Routine: If you find it challenging to completely eliminate a negative habit, consider deferring the routine. By delaying the action, you give yourself an opportunity to reflect and make a conscious choice. This simple shift can lead

In Part 13 of the Mind Hacks Series, Charlie teaches how to make our desired new action become so automatic that it requires no mental energy on our part! What we want is for our brain to cover our new routine with myelin which makes the action quicker and more automatic. We want the cue, routine, and reward to be super quick and easy to do. What will get us going with the routine easily? Finding the right cue!   Find a cue you’re already doing Or make a cue that’s super easy and that you don’t mind doing Charlie explains that it is super important to take a moment at the beginning of the routine to visualize the reward. Imagine the feeling of telling your friend you did it, of tasting that smoothie, of having the task checked off… think of the end, what it will feel like when it’s over! Savoring that pleasure up front at the cue stage makes your brain crave the action and want to do the routine! So structuring the routine to have an easy cue accompanied by the anticipation of the pleasure, a

In part 12 of the Mind Hacks Series, Charlie continues the conversation about rewarding ourselves for our new habits in order to keep the motivation strong. He explains that step one is a fast and easy reward, like we discussed in the last episode. But to truly hack your brain, there are two kinds of inspiration that are important to know about: internal and external inspiration. When we combine them, we get the most benefit! Charlie explains:  How we are internally motivated by the progress we make. Movement feels good. When we’re making progress inside, it makes us feel good and makes us want to do more. Keeping score and making that check each day is a reward in itself! How social acceptance is such a powerful external motivator. It is such a basic human need, that the lack of social acceptance can cause a fight or flight response! So using the power of social acceptance in the form of an accountability partner who recognizes our progress can make a huge difference in keeping our new routine going.&

In this thought-provoking episode, Rabbi Wildes is joined by Charlie Harary to delve into the power of Torah wisdom to help us unlock our best selves. Charlie shares his personal journey of discovering the Torah and how it has helped him initiate personal growth, find meaning, and discover his identity and purpose.We explore the spiritual and physical aspects of our selves and how they interact in our daily lives. Charlie shares insights on achieving lasting happiness by aligning our actions with our spiritual values and prioritizing our inner growth over external validation.We also discuss the rise of Artificial Intelligence and its potential impact on spirituality. Can AI genuinely threaten our spiritual growth and connection to a higher power? Or can it enhance our spiritual experience and connection?Tune in to this enlightening episode to gain a deeper understanding of how Torah wisdom can help unlock your best self and navigate the challenges of the modern world.Charles Harary is an American investor, st

What reward should we use? What is the ideal reward?1) Small reward- don't overdo it.2) Find something you enjoy or want to do.3) Maybe it's something you do every day anyway, but now hold back and only do itafter the routine. le- I won't drink my coffee until I do the routine.4) Reward must be immediately after the action at firstSoon, your brain has you WANTING to do the routine! This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

Show notes for youtube and podcast publishers and torah anytime: Title: Part 10: The Secret Hack to Strong New Habits In part 10 of Mind Hacks, Charlie teaches a huge brain hack that will shortcut your routine building: visualization! Creativity, imagination, and dreaming are seen as children’s play. But when used properly, visualization is the secret to getting the best results. Charlie tells the story of Charlie Wolfson, one of the greatest neurosurgeons in the country, who uses visualization before every surgery. In an instance when the surgery doesn’t go properly, he knows right away, because it differed from how he’d visualized it! Charlie discusses: How visualizing causes new connections in the brain. This is the secret that so many great people use- creating neural connections BEFORE even doing the action! This makes doing it easier, your brain already knows how to do it! How the brain doesn’t know if what we’re imagining is real or not!  How to use process visualization to visualize th

Welcome back to part 9 of Mind Hacks!Now that we’ve -written our eulogy,-written our ideal day,-identified who we want to BE, our identity, It’s time to make our routine!Charlie tells the story of David Brailsford, British cycling coach, who turned a defeated, hopeless team into a gold medal team. How? The Theory of Aggregation of Marginal Gains posits: whatever you’re doing in life, you could do 1% better. And it’s not that hard to do, and doesn’t take much discipline. The aggregate gains are massive. No radical changes. Charlie walks us through exactly how to define the new behavior, how to add it to our cue, and how often to practice. Once you do this tiny 1% behavior time after time connected to the cue, the brain starts to automatically add it.You’re now on your way to hacking your brain to create a new, lasting ritual that supports your goals!For your downloadable workbook, email UG@charlieharary.com__________Thanks for listening, sharing, tagging, and reviewing! Share your comments with us on our socia

On today’s episode, Charley leads us through a second exercise to help us shut down the survival mode rut we’ve been existing in, and get into the future to figure out who you really are. We generally operate out of the amygdala in the back of the brain, which keeps us in survival mode and always stressed.  Today’s exercise takes us into the front of our brain, and our promising future! By articulating where we want to be, our ideal, we will be able to start creating new habits that will get us there.  With both exercises complete, we will be able to identify our true BE! For your downloadable workbook, email UG@charlieharary.com This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

In part 7 of the Mind Hacks Series, Charlie Harary discusses the importance of getting in touch with your true identity in order to create new habits and make lasting changes. He explains that the more connected you are with your soul or essence, the more it drives your brain and motivates you to make positive changes. On the other hand, when you are not in touch with your true self, and focus on the reality around you, your brain tends to play the same old program and resist change. Charlie discusses: -What is needed to make lasting changes and create new habits -Tapping  into the essence of who you are  -The difference between living your essence and living based on actions -How most people make changes out of guilt instead of from their essence  -How to start shutting off the DOING and start BEING  Harary suggests a eulogy writing homework exercise to trigger your BEING state and help you get in touch with your true identity and essence. This will allow you to make lasting changes that are driven by your t

Welcome to part 6 of the Mind Hacks to Actually Reach your Goals.  Why aren’t we already where we want to be? Why aren’t we healthier? More giving? Some part of who us is blocking us from that thing. We don’t really believe in the thing we say we want!  We fail because we change our hands not our heart-we don’t REALLY want to do it for some reason. Something inside of our brain, in how we perceive ourselves, is holding us back. We haven’t changed our identity.  Charlie discusses: -Why we revert to our old ways -Why we must identify the root of who we want to be -Who you really are at a soul level vs. who you’re programmed to be  -Do-Have-Be vs. Be-Do-Have -Change can happen in a split second! So how do we figure out who we want to be and how to change our identity? Let’s discuss it next time! __________ Thanks for listening, sharing, tagging, and reviewing! Share your comments with us on our social platforms- we love hearing your feedback. Join our Insider’s Community today by go

Welcome to part 5 of our Mind Hacks Series, where Charlie shares how to begin designing effective rituals to help you achieve your goals. Charlie explains that rituals train the brain to allow the action to become conditioned into your brain so it becomes automatic- so automatic so it takes no energy, and you don’t have to exert discipline to do it. Charlie emphasizes the importance of understanding the cue, which is the most critical piece to understanding habits. He explains that when the cue gets triggered, it automatically cues the next behavior, and the next- it’s all one network.  Charlie discusses: -Habits have three components: the cue, the routine, and the reward. -By controlling the trigger, (or the cue,) you can change your life. -How to design effective cues by identifying a structured action you already do all the time and use it as a trigger to the new habit.  -How to do the routine next to the thing that will trigger it it because then your brain will start to associate the two. -Tha

Today is Day 4 of Mind Hacks to Actually Reach Your Goals, and Charlie continues yesterday’s conversation about why we are the way we are.  Our brain is like a computer. It has been practicing specific habits throughout our lifetime (without us even realizing it) until the brain created shortcuts for them, “programming” our knowledge or habits into us until they get easier, and become subconscious. The more you are consistent, repeat the (negative) habit or knowledge, the more your mind gets it and makes it quicker and easier! Charlie discusses: Synaptic pruning- how our brain works is that the more information/behavior is used, the stronger it gets. The less it’s used, it gets weaker and the brain lets it go.  2) Your mind is a computer. But you are not your mind. You are so much bigger than your mind.  3) The things that were hard for you as a child (like brushing teeth) are so second nature to you now- you don’t have to use any of your brain to think about brushing! That’s because of the r

If you want to hack your mind, you MUST understand how it works! Ever feel stuck in your life, and you keep trying and trying but it doesn’t change? It’s so easy to look at how much you know, how you act and feel, what results you have in your life, and think it’s you. It’s not you! These are all a result of how you’ve been using your brain! We’re on day 3, so catch up if you’re behind, because we’re about to discover how to actually reach our goals! (Link in podcast show notes to full series) What is the next big goal for you? Thanks as always for your comments and shares with friends, statuses, it means the world! Let’s grow together. This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

On today’s episode, Charlie clarifies why making resolutions practically guarantees failure.  Listen as Charlie quotes a study by Roy Baumeister, a researcher at Florida State University. Roy tested student’s discipline muscle by tempting them with fresh baked chocolate chip cookies and radishes- the results were fascinating.  Charlie discusses how: -If your brain would have known how to reach the goal, it would have done so already -Creating a resolution forces you to rely heavily on your discipline muscle, but what happens when the discipline is used up? -Setting a resolution forces you to shut down who you really are  -Adopting the behaviors of who you want to be is like a ticking time bomb So what are we supposed to do? Join us in the next episode to find out! ______ Thanks for listening, sharing, tagging, and reviewing! Share your comments with us on our social platforms- we love hearing your feedback. To join our Insider’s Community, go to charlieharary.com/insiders To get this full

Join us for this special project during the Omer, the weeks between Passover and the holiday of Shavuot that are designated for personal growth. Together we will set and reach our next big goal!

realizing who we are  This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate