Love Via Hashem

Is your desire for marriage? Or, do you just want a friendship, attachment of sometime, a physical thing, or something else? Casual dating, geared simply for the purpose of dating, may not be the thing that helps you reach your goals. We often have plenty of excuses for why we’re doing the casual dating thing. It gives experience, helps you know others, you get high emotional intelligence the more you do it, you can’t know unless you’ve been around, and the list goes on. The idea of ”growing in self-understanding and knowing what you want ” should not depend on casual dating, but rather your own inner-engineering that comes from critical thinking. Asking yourself crucial questions like - do I want to be married? You should know what you want and by asking yourself hard questions, you can get there. The reason why casual dating may not be a wise idea, is due to one key word - purpose. What is the purpose, and what is the purpose of the other person? In the world of casual dating, people often don’t have goals

TobyMac - Lights Shine Bright ft. Hollyn is the name of the song. Have it a listen, I’m pretty sure you won’t regret it :) And … sure we can do a lot in this universe. It would almost seem like constrictions are being released and that we’re being freed to do as we please. But, are boundaries bad? Are limits and lines to be done away with? Definitely not. As such we should take care to look around an action, to see truly what it’s worth is. This skill is actually one of Critical Thinking. Are we questioning ourselves when we want to do something. Is what you are about to do going to build up, or tear down? You receive the question from your partner whether they look fat. You know they need some more gym time *hint *hint … so what should you say? Truth or Lie … Well, keep this in mind before you answer, sensitivity, consideration, and love need to be part and parcel of every single thing we do. So, stay positive, and stay loving. ;D DONATING or SHARING …. The two biggest things that you can do if you want

Here are some steps on how to support and display that to your partner. Cut each other slack Embrace the differences (and celebrate them) Desire to grow with that person Strive to see the world through their eyes One way of being able to cut another person slack is to get a mashbia (a counselor) - someone who wants the success of your relationship and will give you good advice. When the problem is very serious, that person should be honest, but when you need to cut the person slack, and you’re not doing the right thing - having an honest tongue around you certainly means an outside influence for a change of heart. DONATING or SHARING …. The two biggest things that you can do if you want to support and/or be involved in some way. I want to keep doing this, and with your help, I can keep on keep’n on ;D Here’s the donation link: https://anchor.fm/LoveHaShem/support If you share via Instagram, feel free to tag @flowmindset: Thanks for listening! -------------------- (^_^) Stay connected via Instagram

Yea … in a way, all of our mistakes are our own fault. We can’t say that the devil made me do it, nor can we say that Gd made me do it. Taking thought of how we got into the mess, and prayerfully developing a strategy to get out, we can learn to take responsibility and grow from the experience. G-d always intends that we grow somehow, so this is definitely a way towards that happening. When we share we become one with each other. This is how the communion operates, as well as eating in general. Think of eating like heightening the spiritual connective tissues that bond us to everything involved in that thing. This means a bond with those sharing in that nourishment and our bond to that thing that we’re consuming, as well as with what that thing represents. It’s like how the old saying goes “you are what you eat!” LVH 34, Torah 17, 1 Cor 10 Part 3 DONATING or SHARING …. The two biggest things that you can do if you want to support and/or be involved in some way. I want to keep doing this, and with your he

When you invest in the child, you are giving .... & you start to love the child more and more. When you invest in others, they usually begin to notice and like you, but just the same, you start to like them more. It’s like the person who takes the teacher job because they just want money, and something easy to do. But, as they start to pour love, time, energy into the children, they start to like the the kids more, and their investments turn into their passion, their love grows. In a way, as we pour into our partners, we start to love them in way unimaginable. In fact, we find this even when the love isn’t reciprocated. The second idea is that women need love and men need respect. Take a look at the book - “Love and Respect.” Somehow, if you take a gander at female and male energies, the majority of how humans interact allow for this system to play out nicely. Each of us contain within our neshamas these female and male energies within us, but the ratio / proportions are different depending on what HaSh

“The world” constitutes the theme that runs throughout our generations. The quests that you see people pursuing. It could be money, it could be sexual conquest, or even the most exotic and delicious cuisine. Gd’s people are influenced by all these things because we are really a part of this society that we dwell in, but our attention and our focus needs to be different. We need to identify where we are in our stance with Gd. By looking within, and checking ourselves with the Torah we can get insight on our relationship status, and find out what can be tweaked. Overly focusing on anything that is not HaShem can lead our hearts to feel that that specific thing is the most important thing in the world. And then our mind and heart is consumed and wrapped up in a single-hearted non-God related thing. That, in turn, becomes like an idol, hence the word “idolatry.” Testing HaShem happens when we continually lust after a thing, e.g. could money and the pursuit of riches, while having in full knowledge that that

Getting the know the other person is so important in dating, relationships, and definitely marriage. Don’t go to a movie while you’re in the beginning stages of dating because you’re not going to be communicating or coming to know the other person. Something like a walk in the park, or benched face-to-face conversation is better. So this brings the question: Why do we date? We date for clarity. So, if you’re involved physically, there’s a good chance that you’re not going to be thinking as clearly. If you’re doing things with the person that doesn’t allow you to receive adequate knowledge of them, it’s not bringing you that clarity. Check out the 36 Questions That Lead to Love when you can. It will certainly bring a better understanding of this other human. Also, wanting marriage is essential. Determine, of course (step one), if that is what you want. And, if so, it is a good idea to bring up that subject to get the clarification from the other person, about their desires in light of the idea of marri

It’s a shame that the Israelites did not have the Emunah to walk into the Promised Land, but in choosing not to, they pointed to a common trait that we all have. We have the inclination, the propensity, the yetzer hara (the flesh) to choose the wrong thing sometimes. And, unfortunately that can be more often than not. What decisions in your life, have had you picking something that was safe and easy, just because the task or the situation appeared daunting. I remember when there was an occasion when I saw a young Asian couple. I am studying Vietnamese, so there was a chance that I could practice my language with them and level up in a way. But, doing so would have made me uncomfortable, and that idea of discomfort kept me from starting that conversation, which in turn, led to me being able to use that story to encourage you …. To not do the same!!! Remember that the opposite of pain is comfort, and pleasure can be obtained... through effort, which often takes the form of pain. So, get uncomfortable, and go ou

Here's a piano piece by my brother and I at my sister's house during the Christmas / Hanukkah holiday Check more of his music out here: @Zechariah Mathz https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCsf1e1EuBQPyYAlo7ZiFcJA DONATING or SHARING …. The two biggest things that you can do if you want to support and/or be involved in some way. I want to keep doing this, and with your help, I can keep on keep’n on ;D Here’s the donation link: https://anchor.fm/LoveHaShem/support If you share via Instagram, feel free to tag @flowmindset: Thanks for listening! -------------------- (^_^)  ------------ DONATING or SHARING …. The two biggest things that you can do if you want to support and/or be involved in some way. I want to keep doing this, and with your help, I can keep on keep’n on ;D Here’s the donation link: https://anchor.fm/LoveHaShem/support  If you share via Instagram, feel free to tag @flowmindset: Thanks for listening! -------------------- (^_^) Stay connected via  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fl

In order to present a nice introduction to this word, I’ve employed the help of some friends: Moment Magazine’s article called Jewish Word | Beshert BY SALA LEVIN August 30, 2013 - Enjoy! A Talmudic Date with Destiny Stroll Manhattan’s Upper West Side on a Saturday night and you’ll find yourself surrounded on all sides by prospective couples trying each other out. The last few years have seen an explosion in the neighborhood’s popularity among Jews in their twenties and thirties. For New York’s young Jewish singles, destiny—or beshert—has an address, and it’s west of Central Park. The term beshert is most often used to mean a soulmate: the one person whom an individual is divinely destined to marry… Though the term beshert can refer to any fortuitous event (“I missed the bus, but it must have been beshert, because I heard it broke down”), it’s most often used to mean a soulmate: the one person whom an individual is divinely destined to marry. The etymology of the Yiddish word—spelled, generally, either bas

People have been misunderstanding communion for decades … and centuries really. In this episode I discuss precisely the significance of such an important thing, and the context into which those details were born. Mindfulness and heart play a big part in these books that we’re covering these days, and this chapter really keeps the line of heart and mind connection very well. How should we be thinking when we’re taking communion, and how do we appreciate the gravity of what such an action symbolizes. Remember that meditation runs smoothly throughout the Torah, and whenever you focus in on a certain thing for a length of time - that is meditation. Albeit, meditating on the sacrifice of Jesus, is far more powerful than focusing on the breath - they both have their place and time. As you read and discover more and more (check out the Septuagint http://ccat.sas.upenn.edu/nets/edition/ and the New Testament books) you will no doubt discover Philippians 4:8 King James Version (KJV) 8 Finally, brethren, whatsoever th

Have you ever been infatuated before? Have you somehow taken that emotion and confused it with being IN LOVE? That idea of how dreamy of lovely, perfect, wonderful and this other human being is … and putting on all of your personal virtues is really the sign of infatuation. Knowing how to determine this counterfeit love is crucial to keeping yourself out of trouble - the trouble of wasting a lot of time pursuing someone. This can even be to the point of marrying the person. Realize that when you begin to take apart words like Love and Infatuation, you begin to understand things beyond the surface level. That’s exactly what we intend to do, grow a deeper knowledge of these matters that are of the heart. Jerusalem U Love and Relationships A Brian K. Spector Film Match Maker - Lori Palatnick Love Doctors - Rabbi Raphael and Rebbeca Shore Beauty and the Geek Star - Richard Reubin Notes: Start by the definition (makes you an intellectual) What is Love We know what it’s not - infatuation. When you are inf

1 Corinthians Chapter 11 is a controversial scripture because it surrounds something that doesn’t seem heart-based at all, but rather an awkward outlier that appears out of place. It centers around the head - a very important part of the body. Only certain churches follow the literal meaning of this Word, the majority of churches believe that a woman doesn’t need to cover her hair. They see these descriptions as in a historical context. The order of command - angels subordinate to Jesus, and then He to Gd. So, Paul describes this order in order to tell us that we too should follow this order (Woman to Man, and then Man to God), and that the head covering serves us as a visual cue of this divine order. It’s delightful to read about, and to try and understand, and for sure, if you’re not sure - it’s better to do than not do. When in doubt, follow the mitzvah. Just to be fair, the vast part of Jesus’s teachings are about the heart. Love G-d … and then love others (aka the neighbors). So, when a Christian, who

It’s easy to be about the negative. We need to be about the positive. Tell them what you like about them often, and focus on the good. “Honey, we need to talk” is something that we instinctively know as a troublesome phrase. This human that I married never uses it to talk about the good that I’ve good … or do they? So, how do you keep it positive? By mindful awareness of the previous points - the fact that you must put effort into a relationship in order to make it work. Like a job, you’ve got to show up and put in those hours. Knowing and Being known … they need to know you in various and positive ways, as well as you them. Find out the small details and expand upon it to harness the observables in a beautiful way. For example, you notice a birthmark that you hadn’t seen before…. Wow … complement them on it then, and/or in the future. We need our eyes act as actors of blessing, and not for comparison all the time, or to judge. By thoroughly searching for how we can uplift, edify, and praise the beauty, cha

Spiritual Gifts and Talents...Paul was addressing a divisive idea - that spiritual gifts made you better -- gifts by and of the Spirit should be a blessing for others No one who has the Spirit can curse Jesus, and only with the Spirit can you can Jesus is Lord Everyone has their role, everyone is unique - gifts of healing - working of miracles - prophecy (giving of God's message)- preaching --> edify, exhort, comfort - discerning of spirits (knowing the personality of someone aka true colors) - divers kinds of tongues (tongues = earthly vs ecstatic/heavenly/angelic ... gotta have an interpreter present, so it can't be a heavenly language) - interpretation of tongues - faith - unmeasurable amount of trust in God some have multiple Spiritual gifts are the opposite of self-serving. Like a physical gift, it has to be given of HaShem It's one complete body - like a human body - every part has its use ==> no one is useless ... no one should be too proud/boastful of their gift everyone who has a gift, and those who

“When I appreciate the good in my life, the good appreciates” Knowledge brings intimacy. Confess, talk, speak … know God -- HaShem wants you to know Him. Learn about His deeds, his creations, look and spend time in His nature. In this same way we should come to know our partners in the relationships. Our spouses, husbands, and wives, need accept, see, feel and bring into meld their consciousness into the other person, so that a positive outlook can be build. Then, focus on the good. Having a positive outlook is so crucial to building a healthy and long-lasting relationship. It’s easy to look at the negative in someone. “Oh look, you left your shoes out in the hallway …. Like ALWAYS!!!” …. How negative - and as science now shows, it is positive reinforcement that brings about positive change. Checking the words that we use also comes into play. Words like “always ” e.g. you always forget to turn off the lights downstairs …. Or “never” … e.g. You never seem to clean up after yourself do you? … ARE VERY HAR

1 Corinthians 13 Part 5, ending of the 1st Corinthians and certainly a hot chapter regarding love: what it is and what it is not. We often talk about 613 mitzvos (commandments) and how intense and high calling these mitzvos is, and perhaps the joy that we derive for it. However, there are even more! Look into these chapters http://ccat.sas.upenn.edu/nets/edition/ See for yourself, the amount of extra mitzvos and understand that these callings into the truth. Love / ahava / agape is not easy - at least not without the help of HaShem . We frequently box up the idea of love, and it becomes a thing heavily influenced by popular media, movies, TV, podcasts ;D , friends, and even family, but do we have these scriptural definitions down pack? If not, go back over these points of what a Agape is and isn’t through the link above, as well as listen over again to this podcast episode. 1 Corinthians 13 King James Version (KJV)13 Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, and have not charity, I am become a

This is the Psychology of Relationships part 6 by Jerusalem U. Knowing and Being Known, Expressing (Real and Authentic) personal thoughts and emotions … This vulnerability is so important for being real and authentic. Let your true desires be known, and then your partner should be accepting of them, and if not - talk, and talk about it some more. There is always a compromise, agreement, or shalom (peace) that can be reached if your release of information isn’t taken well. Working through the problem comes back to the idea of spending time and EFFORT, to make things work out. --- Remember --- what is good chemistry? ……. Answer?…. Feeling comfortable with the other person. When you are yourself, and you be so with this other person, that is a really good chemistry. In life we have many masks. Some of the masks are for our work, others are for our friends, and yet some for our family. But, with our partners we MUST be able to allow our thoughts and true opinions - in a healthy manner, be expressed. No one shou

Do you really know what love is? We hear it all the time. “I’m in love,” “I’m not in love with him anymore.” “Love is in the air!” But what does this all really mean? Do we have the guts and the heart to find out? As we have a listen to 1 Corinthians 13 part 4, we can catch a glimpse at the answers to these questions. 1 Corinthians 13 King James Version (KJV) 13 Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, and have not charity, I am become as sounding brass, or a tinkling cymbal. 2 And though I have the gift of prophecy, and understand all mysteries, and all knowledge; and though I have all faith, so that I could remove mountains, and have not charity, I am nothing. 3 And though I bestow all my goods to feed the poor, and though I give my body to be burned, and have not charity, it profiteth me nothing. 4 Charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up, 5 Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no

I hope you enjoy this piano piece that I played. Hopefully, it can bring you a degree of relaxation and #chill. ;D ------------  DONATING or SHARING …. The two biggest things that you can do if you want to support and/or be involved in some way. I want to keep doing this, and with your help, I can keep on keep’n on ;D Here’s the donation link: https://anchor.fm/LoveHaShem/support  If you share via Instagram, feel free to tag @flowmindset: Thanks for listening! -------------------- (^_^) Stay connected via  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/flowmindset/ YouTube: www.youtube.com/user/TheLinguisticFight Twitter: https://twitter.com/LinguisticFight Tumblr: linguisticfight.tumblr.com/ Duolingo TinyCards Flashcards - tinycards.duolingo.com/users/Icystrider  My Blog - http://flowmindset.wordpress.com --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/lovehashem/support