Social Confidence For Life

Are you too nice that you tend to go out of your way to please people? Do you tend to do what others want, secretly resenting not doing what you want to do? Being too nice causes resentment, stress, body pain, and being in the friend zone with those we are attracted to. Being less nice and more you means you get to enjoy life more, stay on point with your purpose, passions, and mission in life, and others will find you more interesting because you’ll have more personality. Wasted My Time Being Too Nice Some time around senior year in college, I came home for some vacation and found myself playing games with some friends, but I was too nice to voice that I didn’t want to play with them. I actually wanted to go outside and play some basketball. I was afraid of offending them and so I just stayed put and secretly became resentful of the situation. As a result, I stayed stuck in a situation that wasn’t serving me, and I wasted time I could have spent contributing toward something more fulfilling. How to Be Less

Do you struggle to hold eye contact with someone attractive walking passed you? What about with someone you find popular or maybe intimidating or otherwise just powerful? When we master eye contact, we are able to become more engaging and interesting in conversations since eye contact is essential to gain peoples’ attention. Furthermore, people will love your confident and relaxed gaze. Today, I’ll be sharing 3 majorly powerful shifts you can apply today to start feeling way more relaxed and confident holding eye contact with people- no matter how attractive or popular. How to Instantly Improve Your Eye Contact 1. Practice looking in the mirror at your eyes. If we don’t like how we look due to thinking we’re unattractive, not liking certain emotions our facial expression shows like sadness or anxiety, or maybe we just think we look awkward, then we won’t want to hold eye contact with others to hide the way we look. By letting all negative self-critical thoughts come up while looking in the mirror at our eye

Do you ever see someone attractive and immediately feel like it’s all or nothing – “if I don’t get into a relationship with that person, then it’s all over! I have to be with that person!” And then, does it feel like you put yourself out there too much to try to impress him or her to the point that it probably repels that person from liking you? When we come from a place of needing someone, we become repelling to the people we find attractive because they’ll see us as taking more value than we give. By needing someone, we show that we want to take value. What we want to do instead is be okay as we are no matter the outcome and constantly give value to those we find attractive. So how do we appear and feel more confident and less needy? I’m not talking about apply pick-up artist techniques of faking confidence to improve attraction. I’m talking about truly feeling confident and completely okay with yourself even if the person you like doesn’t like you back. The over-arching approach to being more confident and

How scary or uncomfortable would it be to go start a conversation with a stranger? For most people, starting conversations with strangers, especially with someone they find attractive is pretty anxiety provoking. That’s why so many of us tend to avoid doing it. And what if there was a person close enough to hear your conversation with a stranger? That would turn up the anxiety dial because they might judge how you interact. And what if there was a group of people who could hear your conversation with a stranger? That would be even scarier! More people could judge you. What if you are single and looking to go on dates and get into a relationship, or make more friends while stuck worrying about what others think of you? That would impede your ability to date and make friends. So what do we do? How can we overcome our fear of what others might think of us so we can just jump at opportunities to talk to someone attractive and make friends? Introducing, “If…then…” Statements. The way “if…then…” statements work is

Have you seen people who are totally relaxed and comfortable walking up to people they don’t know and starting a conversation with them? Have you ever wondered how they do that? Today, I’ll be sharing a powerful conversation secret that you can apply immediately to drastically improve your ability to talk to anyone, even people you don’t know. Having conversations is actually easier than many of us think. We don’t need “magic phrases” or get advice from “pick-up” artists who tell you to say things to manipulate people into liking you. Nope. That’s unnatural, flawed, and people can pick up on it when you are saying things just to look good or buy their interest. Instead, the most powerful way to have conversations is always to be the real you. To talk from your natural energy and curiosity. And, before we can get to a relaxed, engaging, and fun conversation with someone after greeting someone, we need a bridge. Otherwise, we’ll fumble for words and enter that awkward silence. Or, without a bridge, we can go