Who Cares? …about Ross & Patrick

Did you know there’s a sex-positive dating app for singles and couples? Well there is and Ross and Patrick have done lots of swiping left and right. In this episode, they talk about digital dating while married and how doing so after 7 years of monogamy is fuckin' scary! Couples therapy has saved R and P more than once and transparency and negotiation are the keys to their open relationship. This one is so fun they sing a song about a herpes infected eagle! You’re definitely gonna want to add it to your Spotify playlist.

This week Patrick and Ross catch up after being separated by The Road for four days. Ross experiences shades of single motherhood while Patrick was out performing at various breweries around the northeast trying to make enough money to feed his dog-ter back home. Listen in as the two share their respective adventures and discuss life ahead.

Ross and Patrick summer in Connecticut now. And yes, they prefer their favorite season in verb form. On this episode join them and Peggy for a ride down I-95 as they chat about family dynamics, son-in-law responsibilities, and bangin' in Ross' childhood bedroom. If that still doesn't sound like enough oversharing, don't worry! They’ll also relive the details of last week's challenging couples therapy session.

It's episode 50!! Can you believe it?? It only took this duo 50 episodes to decide what they really care about (or at least what they actually want to talk about): Sex, love, alternative relationships, and everything in between! This week Ross and Patrick reveal more about their foray into ethical non-monogamy and their plans for sexual world domination (Kidding! They only wanna start a sex cult. Or maybe a commune). Does all this sound scary and confusing and like too much information? Then maybe sit this one out. Or does it sound captivating and titillating and like you’ve always had questions about things like this? Then dive into the warm poly embrace of this week's show. XOXO!

Not these two!

This week Patrick and Ross and their third co-host and dog, Peggy, drive southbound on I-95 and talk about all sorts of things. (Well truthfully, Patrick and Ross do most of the talking while Peggy naps in a donut formation in the back seat). Take a listen as The Family Holbertineau mourns the passing of their dear Aunt Sue, discuss father's day, and share their gratitude for the kind feedback about last week's bombshell episode from supportive listeners. Get Pegged ya'll!

On their most revealing episode yet, Ross & Patrick discuss STI's, non-monogamy, and sex in general. If you thought it was impossible for them to be even more transparent, take a listen as Ross shouts her truth from the rooftop while Patrick skittishly divulges his. With this podcast, they hope that by opening up more, they can promote more positive conversation around sexual health and relationships. Open your mind (and maybe your legs) to this week's show!

Well last week they were being voyeurs at the dog park and now their sitting IN the dog park. Ross’ dreams finally came true... she wore Patrick down and got them a dog!!! Welcome Peggy, the adorable mutt to the Holbertineau family. Peggy came into their life as a foster from In Our Hands Rescue and she’s staying in their lives as their doghter. Ross and Patrick talk about how becoming dog owners has already begun to change their lives for the better and the unexpected. Peggy is a precious little girl who makes people smile wherever she goes. What were they supposed to do, not adopt a living breathing stuffed animal?! What are you, insane???

Join Patrick and Ross on a walkabout in their neighborhood of Bushwick, Brooklyn. They grab a coffee, visit the dog park (where they are creepy dog voyeurs), spy on one of their favorite listeners (Hi, Kiersten!), and process the departure of some of their best friends from New York (farewell, Jen & Bay). Oh and Patrick hops a fence to collect $20 he saw with his eagle eyes from across the park. We hope you enjoy this more experimental episode of Who Cares!

It's time to talk about these god damn abortion bans. Predominantly conservative white male legislators across this country are making decisions about female bodies, and the hypocritical snow ball effect knows no bounds. Ross does some research on exactly what these laws mean and where they’re taking place, all while mocking these men and their terrible southern accents. The Who Cares duo hope that by using the small platform they have, they can at least spark conversation and let people know how they can take action. Ross is not interested in being “ofPatrick” and she hopes you feel the same. We’re in this together! Here are some links to a variety of articles and organizations that will keep you informed and tell you how you can make a difference. We love you, keep going! https://www.thecut.com/2019/05/how-to-help-alabama-6-week-abortion-ban-georgia.html https://www.vox.com/2019/5/16/18628002/abortion-ohio-alabama-georgia-law-bill-details https://abortionfunds.org/ http://www.stopabortionbans.org/ https://

Happy Mother's Day, y’all! This week we take some time to thank all the mamas out there. Mothers can be biological, surrogate, adopted, chosen, or any other way you can think of someone becoming a MOTHER. Ross and Patrick start by celebrating the women who birthed them into existence, Betty Ann and Jane. Listen in as these two moms make guest appearances on this week’s episode as Ross and Patrick make their mother’s day phone calls. Come share in the love! Matriarchy Now!

Ladies and gentlemen put your hands up and your dollars down for Nefertiti!!! She is a fellow wardrobe stylist and a good “Judy” of Ross.' Take a listen as she explains her love for beauty, makeup, and glamour. And boy bands. And Selena. And RuPaul’s Drag Race. And Motley Crue, and Red Hot Chili Peppers, and Tupac, and Murder She Wrote, and Columbo. She’s a complicated woman, ok? She’s got taste and opinions and she’s not afraid to tell you all about it. Nef has come to the Who Cares recording studio to spill the T, and throw the shade (when warranted). Enjoy!

Ross and Patrick are recording in bisolation again! Do you wish they had a guest? Well they don’t, so get over it. Separated for a week, they're using this episode to hear about each other’s respective adventures. Patrick was on the road in New England and Ross was hard at work in Bushwick. Join the gruesome twosome in the "studio" and find out how their doing post “Argument” Episode Heard 'Round The World.

This episode starts in the thick of an awkward relationship conversation. A bit of a tiff. Ross and Patrick are cranky and tired and on different emotional pages so they decided to bring the listener with them on this uncomfortable journey of challenging communication. It's an inside peak into the highs and lows of marriage. Sometimes couples have to hash some shit out while they podcast because there’s no time like the present, right? RIGHT?! Also, they were too busy to record any other time, sooooooo... Wanna hear what 8 years of commitment and knowing everything about each other sounds like? Have a listen!

We totally and absolutely care about Justin and Caitlin. This hilarious couple met in the comedy rooms of NYC and fell for each other while doing karaoke. They've lived in Queens and Brooklyn and over the last couple years have dealt with some real “Life on Life’s Terms” shit, writing material about it and supporting each other all the while. They’re intelligent, incredibly funny, emotionally open, and they're devoted fans of 90 Day Fiancé. What more could you want?! Follow Caitlin on Instagram - @caitlinmcares to enjoy the "Real Housewives of Bad Teeth" Justin's Instagram is @justinangermeyer

Finally! Danielle, a virgo, promptly arrives on the podcast and spills all the T. She is not only a teacher, wife, and mother, but she’s also a well read pop culture queen. Join Ross, Patrick, and Danielle as they take a walk down memory lane and discuss how this chosen family truly began and withstood early sobriety in the hipster capital of the world, Williamsburg, Brooklyn. Despite Ross’ hatred for pop punk, love still thrived.

We met Giorgia Lupi at an upstate NY yoga retreat two summers ago and we've been fans ever since! She's a talented artist, designer, dancer, and conversationalist. In this episode we hear all about how her mind for beautiful order took her from making sense of her grandmother's cluttered tailor shop to having her work featured in the NY Times and the permanent collection at The Museum of Modern Art. Check out Giorgia's amazing TED Talk here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sFIDCtRX_-o

To say that this woman is inspiring is an understatement! Maryam Ajayi is a trailblazer in the wellness world. Specializing in reiki and breath work, she's working hard to make healing and self care inclusionary and accessible. Never shying away from challenging conversation, she has written thought provoking pieces for medium.com and has begun holding monthly salons to discuss diversity in wellness. Maryam also spills the “T” on her former life as a republican and how she plans to bring about change in the business world through intuitive energy work. Ross and Patrick thought about asking Maryam to create a thrupple but instead just decided to have an incredibly interesting chat. Join them, won’t you?

Soul Cycle Instructor, Comedienne, Actress, International Icon. Ross Days is serving "Rihanna At The Airport" meets the Olsen twins and he’s here to talk about it. That’s right, TWO ROSSES!!! Can you believe it? How will Patrick fair? Have no idea what any of this means? Well tune in and unpack the mythical ADHD creature that is Ross....

Hi, can we steal you for a sec?? Ultimately, we knew from the moment we started watching the bachelor that it was going to be an experience that changed us for the rest of our lives. This journey has taught us so much about ourselves and that love isn’t something you can force, you know? We really hope you’re here for the right reasons because otherwise we’re going to throw you under the bus! This is quite possibly our most obnoxious episode yet. If you're passionate about the American institution of BACHELOR NATION, then this episode is for you! If you think The Bachelor is a shameful trash fest and that it'd be enjoyable to watch Chris Harrison dragged across a field of thorned roses, then this convo is also for you. We love it, we hate it, it's the glue that keeps our marriage together. So come huff on these fumes and enjoy the ride to where the mountains meet the ocean!