Feminist Wellness

#231: Discover how to remedy the vicious cycle of frustration and resentment around your unmet needs. I’m sharing some of the indirect ways we attempt to get our needs met, why these strategies don’t serve us or those we love, and six ways we can start voicing our needs in loving ways while honoring the other person’s reply.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/231

#230: This week, we explore the beauty of having needs. We will delve into the stories we tell ourselves about our needs, which often make it challenging for us to express them. We will also discuss the common issues of over-giving while neglecting our own needs, why we tend to downplay or apologize for our needs, and how to start understanding and voicing our own needs.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/230

#229: To illuminate the ripple effects that exploring your sexuality can have on your life, I’m sitting down with Danielle Savory and Sonia Wright, MD. Danielle is a sex coach who brings in her background in neuroscience to help her clients understand how their brains impact their bodies, and Sonia is The Midlife Sex Coach for Women who helps women have the best life in and out of the bedroom.    Danielle and Sonia share their insights on the problems that can occur when your sexuality is focused outside of you, why this work is so much more far-reaching than just having more orgasms, and their tips for living a pleasure-first life.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/229

#228: I’m joined by podcast host, coach, writer, and author of Needy: How to Advocate for Your Needs and Claim Your Sovereignty, Mara Glatzel. She works with people to grow from self-abandonment to self-partnership by supporting them in reclaiming their needs, and we’re exploring what it means to be in partnership with our needs and how to start getting accustomed to trusting ourselves and our bodies.   Mara is offering her insights on why we often don’t advocate for our needs, the reason it can feel alarming to wake up to our needs, and how to let your bodily wisdom lead you in championing your needs with grace, ease, and confidence. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/228

#227: Discover how to have your own back when you want to say no, instead of continuing to keep others happy at your expense by abandoning yourself. You’ll hear how to intervene when you notice the self-abandonment cycle playing out, and my favorite ways to recenter and ground myself when I’m in the cycle.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/227

#226: The self-abandonment cycle is a common response for those of us with emotional outsourcing habits. We look to over-give, over-perform, and over-function more than we want or have the capacity to, and it’s leading to a painful cycle that’s no longer serving you in your adult relationships.    It’s a lot to realize we’ve been living in this cycle, often for decades, if not an entire lifetime. That’s why, on this episode, you’ll get a refresher on how the self-abandonment cycle gets activated and how it’s showing up for you before we discuss healing the self-abandonment cycle next week.    Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/226

#225: It’s beautiful to watch the power of coaching in action, and if you’ve ever felt any sense of nervousness or trepidation about getting coached, this is your opportunity to observe and experience a taste of it for yourself. I'm sharing a live coaching call from inside Anchored. The three clients you’re hearing from are vulnerable, open-hearted, direct, and tap into their own lived experiences as they ask for support in coaching. This conversation offers valuable insight into what it’s like in our Anchored family and what it's like to get coached.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/225

#224: If you wear self-sufficiency as a badge of honor, or feel the need to take care of others while denying your own vulnerability and need for support, listen in. The top beliefs that block us from receiving love and care are what leave us in the trap of independence, and you’ll hear why stout independence is actually problematic for you and the world.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/224

#223: If you’re living with codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing tendencies and feel like you’re uniquely terrible or have defects in your character, listen in. Ruth Duren is a phenomenal Master Certified life coach who helps immigrant businesswomen stop working harder than they need to while making more money, and she’s living proof of the power of stepping out of emotional outsourcing.   Ruth shares what life was like for her before Anchored, her experience in our community, and the transformations she’s experienced. She’s offering her insights on the power of being somatically connected with yourself, how she’s making a huge return on her investment, and her advice to anyone who is on the fence about joining.    Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/223

#222: Discover what you can do when you truly love someone whose chronic Eeyore stance on life is leaving you feeling stuck. I’m sharing my insights on why we stay with folks living in a sense of chronic dissatisfaction, important reminders to keep in mind if this is your experience, and my tips for supporting yourself as you consider your future.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/222

221: Are you tired of feeling stuck in a perpetual state of dissatisfaction? Do you often find yourself irritable or angry at the world around you?   Join me as I guide you through a transformative process of self-discovery and exploration. You'll learn how to get curious about your negative habits, and discover the remedies for living a happier, more joyful life. Don't let chronic dissatisfaction hold you back any longer, my love – tune in now to start your journey towards a more fulfilling life.     Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/221

#220: In this capitalist, white settler colonialist framework we’re living in that teaches us we should compete with each other, my guest and I have both decided to be dedicated to our mutual growth instead. Sara Bybee Fisk is a Master Certified Coach and instructor who teaches women to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from their lives, and she’s here to talk all things somatic healing and platonic love.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/220

#219: There’s a powerful story within most of us that says we’re succeeding when we’re happy, and failing when things feel challenging. If you’re moving your life forward, i.e. doing something that is worthy of a shiny gold star, you’ll get an unequivocal celebration from society. On the other hand, if you’re in a moment of rest and stillness, you’re simply not doing enough.   Hear how you might have learned to push away or fight against the ebbs in favor of energetic flow in your life. I share why it’s vital to honor your ebbs, what becomes available when you do so, and some of my favorite guiding questions to ask yourself when you’re sitting with an ebb.    Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/219

#218: Somatic practices can be incredibly helpful for breaking free from codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing habits; to go from emotionally outsourcing to being the source of your own emotional grounding and centering.    I share what somatic practices involve and how they play a role in stepping out of emotional outsourcing. Hear the vital first kitten step in incorporating somatic practices into your daily life, and some of my favorite simple practices for you to begin with.    Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/218

#217: What thoughts come up for you on the regular? What thoughts make their way into your consciousness without you even realizing it? We are built to believe the things we hear in the world around us, and if we aren’t pausing to be thoughtful about our thinking, we can start to believe negative, painful thoughts about ourselves and others. In this episode, I encourage you to contemplate the idea that you are not your thoughts and show you why doing so can help you live more intentionally.    Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/217

#216: April is Autism Awareness Month, so I thought it only seemed fitting to share my conversation with Anchored member, Lisa Candera. Lisa, a.k.a. The Autism Mom Coach, is the single parent of a child with Autism, a certified life coach, and a lawyer. She helps moms raising kids with Autism show up to their lives as the parent they want to be, even when parenthood looks nothing like they imagined.    Lisa shares the gifts of our Anchored community and the transformations she’s experienced since joining. She’s offering the ways in which she learned to integrate coaching, breathwork, thought work, and somatics into her life, and how her dedication to this work has changed everything.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/216

#215: My favorite little sister, Genie Albina, joins me today to discuss family systems from the perspective of being a change agent. Genie is a certified Parent Coach who works with both teachers and parents, a mom of two kiddos, and is now an official coach inside Anchored.   Making intergenerational change takes a lot of strength, courage, and self-reflection. So, what do you do when you’re the intergenerational trauma bond breaker, or the one doing ancestral healing, and that’s not what’s happening in the rest of your family system? Find out in this episode.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/215

#214: This week, hear a conversation I had recently with Cass and Emma of the Honeydew Me Podcast where I broke down the different attachment styles and explored how we can begin moving towards secure attachment.    Learn how our attachment styles bleed into all of our relationships, what secure attachment looks and feels like, and how to practice inner caretaking as you begin understanding and reframing your attachment style.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/214

#213: If you are ready to see what your life might look like without the substances of your choice, listen in. I’m sharing why I’m no longer available for substances to dysregulate me, the realizations I had when I removed caffeine from my life, and some questions you can ask yourself as you take a step back from substances of dysregulation.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/213

#212: It’s amazing to be able to step out of the life we’ve been living to take time, go on retreat, and step into deep inquiry about the experience of being human. While I love retreats, I also live in this world that includes a shadow side, hard edges, and a tenderoni nervous system. This is where the literal and metaphorical notion of meditating with our eyes open comes into play.   Discover how the concept of meditating with your eyes open is a way to come home to yourself while also being in and receiving the world exactly as it is. You’ll hear how it trains your mind and body to find calm and stillness while meeting the challenges before you, and how it helps you flow with life, instead of against it.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/212