Coaching For Leaders

Jeremie Kubicek 5 Gears: How to Be Present and Productive When There is Never Enough Time* Jeremie Kubicek is co-founder of GiANT Worldwide and the GiANT companies. He is the bestselling author of Making Your Leadership Come Alive and speaker to organizations throughout the world on transformational leadership, emotional intelligence, and personal growth. 5th Gear: Learn to Get "In the Zone" Do you have trouble getting "In The Zone"? This is where 5th gear can help. Time flies by, you get things done, and progress is made. Dave mentioned the book Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience* by Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi. 4th Gear: Leading in a Task World Most adults spend their day multi-tasking with phone calls, emails, chores and more. Learning how to manage 4th gear correctly is key for maximum productivity. 3rd Gear: Why Being Social Matters Third Gear is all about being social and building friendships. It happens in coffee shops, at dinner parties and other social gatherings, and it's the secret ingred

Sharone Bar-David (LinkedIn) Author, Trust Your Canary: Every Leader’s Guide to Taming Workplace Incivility* Six beliefs that cause many of us to tolerate workplace incivility: We’re Like Family Here We Have the Right to Vent I Know My Colleague’s Boundaries You Can’t Change Someone’s Personality The Characteristics of the Group (or Industry) Make it OK People Need to Get Thicker Skins “It’s your responsibility to create a workplace where everyone can perform at their best.” -Sharone Bar-David Feedback Comments, questions, or feedback for future Q&A shows: http://coachingforleaders.com/feedback The next Q&A show is episode 212 Please join my weekly leadership guide. The leadership guide is delivered to your inbox each Wednesday and includes my thoughts and recommendations on the best articles, podcasts, videos, and books, to support your development between shows. It also includes a brief overview and link to the full weekly show notes. As a bonus, when you join the weekly leadership guide, you

John Corcoran Author, How to Increase Your Income Today by Building Relationships with Influencers, Even if you Hate Networking Host, Smart Business Revolution podcast “An interview is just an opportunity for a conversation.” -John Corcoran John recommended the book Give and Take by Adam Grant* as a framework to consider when engaging with professional associations (and any relationship). John and I previously aired episode 123: The Practical Pursuit of Work-Life Balance Feedback Comments, questions, or feedback for future Q&A shows: http://coachingforleaders.com/feedback The next Q&A show is episode 212 Inaugural Mastermind Announcement I’m announcing the inaugural Coaching for Leaders Mastermind. Most leaders are not born. They are made. I've gained the most from: * Practice coaching others * Committed action * Genuine support from others You can learn to lead more effectively. The application for inaugural membership I spoke of on the episode is here: http://coachingforleaders.com/apply If you

Bonni Stachowiak Teaching in Higher Ed Bonni mentioned episode 84: Daniel Pink on To Sell is Human We also mentioned and recommended the book Drive by Daniel Pink* as a great resource on how to motivate people Audio Question from Jenga ”The only way to influence someone is to find out what they want and show them how to get it." -Dale Carnegie Dave mentioned the Carnegie Coach series on “innerviewing:” Carnegie Coach episode 39: Get To Know People Without Being Awkward Carnegie Coach episode 40: Just the Facts, Ma’am Carnegie Coach episode 41: Discovering Another Person’s Motives Caring Coach episode 42: How to Know What People Value Question from Tyler How do you get off the phone with someone who is a long-winded "good ole boy?" My analysts each work with lots of sales reps, and many accounts. We have a few sales reps who like to call every day, and invariably the call ends up being 15-25 minutes. A lot of drawn out, slow responses. Talking about local news, smalltalk before they want to get down

Mark Barden Author, A Beautiful Constraint: How to Transform Your Limitations Into Advantages and Why It’s Everyone’s Business Working with constraints is more and more the norm in today’s organizations. Dr. Seuss was an early example how a constraint helped him develop a style that became uniquely his own. Even if you believe in the potential from constraints, it doesn’t mean you still like them — especially early on. “We are the stories we tell ourselves.” -Mark Barden “As a marketer, you go nowhere if you don’t understand the needs of your audience.” -Mark Barden “Anybody with the right mindset, the right method, and the right motivation, can be better.” -Mark Barden Visit eatbigfish to download a free sample of the book Feedback Comments, questions, or feedback for future Q&A shows: http://coachingforleaders.com/feedback The next Q&A show is episode 208 If you're not already subscribed to this show, please do so and you’ll get new episodes every Monday. Just search for Coaching for Leaders o

Michael Nichols Author, Creating Your Business Vision Guidestone University Realizations Michael had after dealing with his own overwhelm: I could give more I can grow on purpose Every leader needs help “Your employer will soon forget the long hours that you spent at work, but your children will never forget the memory making moments.” -Michael Nichols The Five Phases (video) (PDF) that Michael articulates in this episode to conquer overwhelm: Purpose Path Plan Prepare People The four things leaders are typically interested in getting better at: Improving income/revenue Leadership skills development Becoming more effective/efficient Leading better through change Michael mentioned the Personal Life Plan Guide and The SIMPLE One-Page Business Plan as resources, as well as the Guidestone Executive Retreat Center. Discover More Activate your free membership for full access to the entire library of interviews since 2011, searchable by topic. To accelerate your learning, uncover more inside Coac

Randy Willhite Guitar Instructor The Burbolators (his band) “If people have two weeks to practice, they do less in two weeks than they normally would have in one.” -Randy Willhite Ten ways to learn faster: It’s hard to start, but easier to keep going Memorize first, and then practice You have to practice Schedule time each day to practice You don’t need to master something before you go onto the next thing You don’t have to like something to learn from it Consistency beats clock time Don’t beat yourself up for falling behind Touch the strings Get back on when you fall off the horse Feedback Comments, questions, or feedback for future Q&A shows: http://coachingforleaders.com/feedback The next Q&A show is episode 208 If you're not already subscribed to this show, please do so and you’ll get new episodes every Monday. Just search for Coaching for Leaders on iTunes, Stitcher, or any podcast app you use and subscribe there. Please join my weekly leadership guide. The leadership guide is deliver

Amy Morin Author, 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do* Amy is a licensed clinical social worker, psychotherapist, and the author of the book, 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do.* She dealt with a lot of personal tragedy in her life in a short period of time, and realized that having good habits wasn’t enough. She also had to get rid of bad habits. In 2013, she wrote the list, 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do. It went viral and was read and shared by millions of people in a matter of days. They Don’t Give Away Their Power “While other people can influence you, they can’t make you feel anything.” -Amy Morin They Don’t Resent Other People’s Success “When you want to change how you feel, the two things you need to change are how you think and how you behave.” -Amy Morin They Don’t Give Up After the First Failure They don’t view failure as a reason to give up. Instead, they use failure as an opportunity to grow and improve. They are willing to keep trying until they get it rig

Bonni Stachowiak: Teaching in Higher Ed Bonni is the host of the Teaching in Higher Ed podcast, Dean of Teaching and Learning and Professor of Business and Management at Vanguard University, and my life partner. Prior to her academic career, she was a human resources consultant and executive officer for a publicly traded company. Bonni is the author of The Productive Online and Offline Professor: A Practical Guide*. Question from Nancy I am in a situation myself right now where I was promoted awhile back as it stands right now. I manager a team, but I don't have salary discussions or assessments with them. My manager has said he is willing to give me the mandate I want and to form the role together with me. This is flattering and scary at the same time. My longterm goal is to become a director. Now I am thinking, perhaps I should ask for the responsibility of having the assessments and salary discussions with the team? I am thinking it might be a good step towards my longterm goal. If you have any wise advi

Tim Stringer Technically Simple Tim appeared on two past shows: Episode 151: How to Be More Productive Episode 183: Use Technology To Build and Strengthen Relationships 4 Pillars of Holistic Productivity 1. Inner Reflection Tim recommended The Way We’re Working Isn’t Working* by Tony Schwartz 2. Acceptance “No matter how busy I am, I always have time to talk about how busy I am.” -Tim Stringer (echoing a human truth) “It’s pretty hard to be a victim and be grateful at the same time.” -Tim Stringer 3. Focus 4. Inspired Action Tim mentioned the Day One app. On Thursday, July 30th @ 10am PDT / 1pm EDT, Tim and I will be hosting a How to Step Into Action With Holistic Productivity webinar. You'll get: Identify a strategic area for focus Determine your first actions to create a positive shift Connect and get inspired by other members of the community If you agree to appear on video, reserve your free space at: http://coachingforleaders.com/stepintoaction Feedback Comments, questions, or feedb

Beth Buelow (Facebook) Author, The Introvert Entrepreneur: Amplify Your Strengths and Create Success on Your Own Terms* Host, The Introvert Entrepreneur podcast There is often an overt expectation of extraversion in the workplace. Extraversion: gain energy from social interaction and external stimuli Introversion: gain energy from quiet and solitude “The goal is not to be the fake extravert. The goal is to be the authentic introvert.” -Beth Buelow Beth mentioned Good to Great* by Jim Collins Dave mentioned How to Win Friends and Influence People* by Dale Carnegie “Please oh please, don’t confuse enthusiasm with noise.” -Beth Buelow Dave mentioned episode #44: Susan Cain on The Power of Introverts Beth mentioned some of the principles from Dale Carnegie that relate directly to introverted energy. Carnegie's principles also demonstrate that introverts make great leaders: Become genuinely interested in other people. Smile. Be a good listener. Encourage other people to talk about themselves. Let t

Bonni Stachowiak: TeachingInHigherEd.com Audio Question from Jignesh Here are the resources we mentioned on how to plan your career: Flow by Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi* What Color Is Your Parachute? by Richard N. Bolles* Carnegie Coach episode #148: How to Determine What’s Next Business Model You by Tim Clark, Alexander Osterwalder, and Yves Pigneur* Business Model Generation by Alexander Osterwalder and Yves Pigneur* Finding the Career That Fits You* The Ultimate Guide to Using Your Strengths to Get Hired* Audio Question from Mia “A lot of times people use humor in an attempt to try avoid having conflict or having a real conversation.” -Bonni Stachowiak Bonni recommended an episode of the This is Your Life podcast by Michael Hyatt called 7 Actions to Take Before You Quit Your Job. Question from Taylor I remember listening to a podcast where you, at least I think it was your podcast, talked about self-development. Specifically you discussed using a task manager to help you achieve your self-dev

Lori Ann Davis Author, Unmasking Secrets to Unstoppable Relationships* Dave mentioned the podcast StartUp A few general patterns of both men and women: Men: More assertive Communication is shorter and more direct Problem solving main goal Goal oriented More independent Women: More tuned into emotions Talk about the problem before acting to fix it Need to be heard Process oriented, ask more questions More collaborative, build relationships “We really would like the other person just to be like us.” -Lori Ann Davis “We show the other person love in the way we want to be loved and the way we feel loved.” -Lori Ann Davis Discover More Activate your free membership for full access to the entire library of interviews since 2011, searchable by topic. To accelerate your learning, uncover more inside Coaching for Leaders Plus.

Andrew Warner Mixergy Andrew’s “shoved fact” technique: Listen carefully for the shoved fact that doesn’t otherwise belong in the conversation naturally Make sure you’re picking the shoved fact that’s the most personal one Ask a question about that shoved fact Shut up “The things you think are tough are where real life exists. That’s where you really get to know people.” -Andrew Warner “Tell a story to illustrate your point and then make your point.” -Andrew Warner We mentioned both of these shows: Mixergy podcast Carnegie Coach podcast Feedback Comments, questions, or feedback for future Q&A shows: http://coachingforleaders.com/feedback The next Q&A show is episode 200 Resources for leaders: http://coachingforleaders.com/resources Please join my weekly leadership guide. The leadership guide is delivered to your inbox each Wednesday and includes my thoughts and recommendations on the best articles, podcasts, videos, and books, to support your development between shows. It also incl

In this episode I respond to a question from Candice that helps me articulate what this show is about. I mentioned episode 186: How to Become a Champion with Dr. Jeff Spencer My job is to be your archeologist. Everyone is your superior is some way. Yes, you can lead. And you can do it, with authenticity and integrity through consistent learning. I mentioned Bird by Bird by Anne Lamott* “The opposite of leadership is not failure, it’s an expectation of perfection.” -Dave Stachowiak I mentioned Outliers by Malcolm Gladwell* Discover More Activate your free membership for full access to the entire library of interviews since 2011, searchable by topic. To accelerate your learning, uncover more inside Coaching for Leaders Plus.

Marshall Goldsmith: Triggers Marshall says that a key factor is the environment around us in whether or not we are successful. Environmental triggers constantly take us off track. “A trigger is any stimulus that influences our behavior.” -Marshall Goldsmith Trigger —> Impulse —> Behavior Marshall says we have the chance to have a second of awareness on how we behave after the impulse. “Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.” -Viktor Frankl Marshall says that the biggest problem with successful people is they’ve gotten very used to winning. Marshall recalled five questions that Peter Drucker said we should all ask ourselves: What’s my mission? Who’s the customer? What does the customer consider value? What’s the goal? What’s the plan? If you want a copy of the article that Marshall mentioned, Leadership is a contact sport, send him an email to marshall@marshallgoldsmith.com Marshall’s

Bonni Stachowiak: Teaching in Higher Ed Bonni is the host of the Teaching in Higher Ed podcast, Dean of Teaching and Learning and Professor of Business and Management at Vanguard University, and my life partner. Prior to her academic career, she was a human resources consultant and executive officer for a publicly traded company. Bonni is the author of The Productive Online and Offline Professor: A Practical Guide*. Question from Brian How do you battle being unmotivated? You're boss doesn't acknowledge your work, doesn't acknowledge your time with the company. You feel unmotivated, unappreciated, and undervalued. You think its a personal issue that you need to fix, but you come to find out that your co-worker feels the same way, and they’ve been with the company for 20 years! How do you get out of that, or is it just a personal issue we need to get over, or do you just start looking for a new job? At what point is enough enough. I love my job, what i'm doing and the company I’m doing it for, but I feel that

Christina Kull Martens Author, Bring Your D.O.G. to Work: A (Green) Person’s Best Friend* Christina also appeared on episode 96: How To Get Buy-In For A New Initiative D.O.G. = doing our greenest! We don’t tend to have as much ownership in the workplace as we do at home on sustainability and waste reduction. “If you’re not measuring it, it doesn’t get done.” -Christina Kull Martens Change your conversation to what the other party would find of value. The business case is what will get movement from senior leaders. “Try honestly to see things from the other person’s point of view.” -Dale Carnegie Greenwashing is when you’re telling people that the organization is green (or has taken one green action) without really making it a sustainable project. Get employee buy-in on green programs first before you start marketing to others. Pick one thing you can get traction on first and do that well, before you try to do other projects. Here are some of the obvious actions that leaders can take: Office supply

Bob Burg Co-Author, The Go-Giver: A Little Story About a Powerful Business Idea* 1. The Law of Value You true worth is determined by how much more you give in value than you take in payment. 2. The Law of Compensation Your income is determined by how many people you serve and how well you serve them. Dave mentioned How to Win Friends & Influence People* by Dale Carnegie 3. The Law of Influence Your influence is determined by how abundantly you place other people’s interests first. 4. The Law of Authenticity The most valuable gift you have to offer is yourself. 5. The Law of Receptivity. The key to effective giving is to stay open to receiving. Bob mentioned Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion* by Robert Cialdini Discover More Activate your free membership for full access to the entire library of interviews since 2011, searchable by topic. To accelerate your learning, uncover more inside Coaching for Leaders Plus.

Susan Gerke Go Team Resources Susan was last appeared on three prior shows: 21: Your Strengths and Blind Spots 138: The Four Unique Types of Teams 139: How To Maximize Team Performance On a true team, the work is all integrated. Don’t create guidelines yourself and give them to the team. A starting point for how to create team guidelines is what did not work well on a previous team. “The dialogue that happens while team guidelines are being created is almost the highest value thing that happens.” -Susan Gerke It’s important to have everyone present at a team meeting. Creating operating guidelines is really foundational work for a team. If you don’t do these kinds of things for your team, where do you go when you’re struggling? How to keep it visible: Don’t go past 8 guidelines for a team Have a team rate themselves on each item immediately Assess the same number a regular meetings (monthly and then quarterly) Make changes along the way, but use a structured process Disagreement is