Love Via Hashem

Have a list. Ask yourself some questions. Get to know yourself. What are you looking for? Understand enough to be able to recognize your spouse. Are you comfortable with that person when you do meet them?  Ask them about their father (if they’re male). Ask about their mother (if female). The relationship with their parents could be telling of their personality and how they will be in their relationship with you. Are they preoccupied with that emotion against their parent? That may translate into that person not YET having the emotional resources to be a spouse. They have unresolved feelings which are hampering and they should get that figured out first.  Are there any hot buttons? -- Do they get suddenly angry at the thought of their father? Do you get the feeling that they just want to escape?  -- get married just to get away from it all? If so, watch out.      Usually if the daughter has an issue with her Mom, it usually changes once the daughter has children.  Does t