Men's Journey Today

Today I am going to talk about the nice guy syndrome, a concept introduced by Dr. Robert Glover in his best-selling book, No More Mr. Nice Guy. You heard me ask the guests on this podcast about finding the balance between being a “macho jerk” and a “nice guy“. So let’s find out what’s wrong with being a “nice guy” and how we can show up in the world as gentlemen. Well, “nice guys” believe that if they are “good” and do everything right, they will be accepted, loved and get their needs met. That is why they are givers – they fix and caretake. The problem is that they are constantly seeking approval from others, they believe they must hide their perceived flaws and mistakes in order to avoid conflicts, they repress their feelings and have difficulty making their needs a priority. And that is why “nice guys” usually end up feeling extremely frustrated. They cannot see that the reason why their needs remain unmet is precisely the way they show up