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An MIT/Harvard negotiation expert on the two types of "no," the FBI hostage negotiator trick you can use with anyone, and the rhetorical move that improves outcomes for women. John Richardson teaches negotiation at MIT's Sloan School of Management, and previously at Harvard Law, and was an associate at the Harvard Negotiation Project. He was coauthor with Roger Fisher and Alan Sharp of Getting It Done and Negotiation Analysis with Howard Raiffa and David Metcalfe. He is also a graduate of the Massachusetts Firefighting Academy. His latest book is Never Settle, co-written with Attia Qureshi. In this episode we talk about: Why lying in a negotiation is tactically stupid, not just morally wrong The "give them a sandwich" trick FBI hostage negotiators use, and how to steal it for everyday life The difference between healthy manipulation and the harmful kind A simple word that can pull someone's brain out of fight-or-flight mode mid-argument Why knowing your alternative matters more than knowing your ask When say