Robot Monk Xian'er

Heart Transformation If we have ever hurt others by what we say, we need to work on saying more words of kindness, words that are encouraging, comforting, and inspiring.Guided by the right view, we need to observe and reflect upon ourselves.Noticing our tendency of belittling others, we immediately remind ourselves that it is not right. When we are about to say hurtful words, we ought to control ourselves and say words of encouragement and praise.  Try to praise others, with sincerity instead of empty and perfunctory words. We need to find out others’ strong points and deeds worthyof praise. Try to figure out three for each and say them out loud. For ourselves, this is a process of heart transformation, a practice of spiritual cultivation. 转心的过程曾经造过口业，以后就要多用语言去说善良的话，给人安慰、给人勇气、启发智慧的话。内心里要有正见做主，用正知见去观察、对照自己的身心。譬如，发现自己起了高己卑人之念，立即反省不该如此。原本可能要说出伤人的话，就控制自己不要这样说，换为鼓励、赞美的话。试着去夸奖对方——当然是真诚的赞美，而非空洞敷衍的语言。这就需要首先去观察对方到底有什么优点，做过什么值得夸奖的事。找出对方的三个优点，三件好事，然后真诚地说出来，这对自己就是一个转心的过程，一个修行的过程。