Your Mileage May Vary

Keith reveals the details of his condom-discussion strategy during dinner with a new partner. It turns out that you can undertake a discussion that simultaneously conveys that you're a reasonable partner and that subtly asks whether sex is on the table that evening. Also, it becomes evident that very few men have such a conversation or behave in a reasonable way around condom use. A discussion ensues about how exactly (other than the obvious) Keith should react when a woman initiates oral sex on him early in a sexual encounter. He's concerned about her expectations for how far he should let things develop before transitioning to PIV sex. And then we transition into the question of whether society views these things fundamentally through the male gaze. Does society consider submissiveness to be problematic? Is giving oral sex inherently embarrassing? Is the prone-bone sex position athletic for the man? What about other positions? And, what does it mean if your partner offers you "free use" of her body for sex?