Feminist Wellness

January feels to me like a sacred invitation to go inward, to slow down, do less, and support myself in ways I may not have been allowing myself to. Wintering has been on my mind a lot lately, so this week, I’m giving you permission to pause, breathe, and give yourself the gift of quiet and stillness.   Join me this week for a short and sweet episode as I encourage you to winter and discover what’s possible for you on the other side of rushing and busyness.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/152

Tis the season where, for many of us, our thoughts turn to making wildly perfectionistic and fantastical New Year resolutions. You’ve probably experienced setting these grand goals and giving up shortly after.    This week I offer some remedies to spinning in resolution-setting so you can commit to the changes you want to make this year.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/151

Be they romantic, friendships, work, familial, or otherwise, thinking about your wants and needs in this context matters. This week, I offer five reasons you might have a habit of expecting other people to meet your emotional wants and needs and vice versa.   As always, I’m sharing remedies for this thought error so you can stop turning over your agency to somebody else, and instead, state all of your beautiful wants and needs and meet them yourself.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/150

If like so many humans socialized as women, you’ve been taught to believe having wants and needs makes you a burden or a bother, and that it’s better to pretend you don’t have any, this is your work, and I’m showing you why it matters so deeply.    Tune in this week as I share six reasons why letting your wants guide you is so important, how denying them is eroding your self-trust, and a simple exercise to get you in touch with, own, and go after your desires.    Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/149

I'm offering some common examples of how we confuse our wants and needs, and the forces that play a part in our disconnection from what we truly desire. I’m poking holes in the stories that have you giving your power away to others in this context so that in the coming weeks, you can begin living with more freedom and agency.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/148

Tune in this week for my all-or-nothing thinking remedies! I’m exploring how this pattern developed for us folks with codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing habits, why staying in this framework is such a disservice to you, and the hints to look out for that signal you might need to pause and consider what’s true.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/147

Discover how all-or-nothing thinking is part and parcel of our codependent framework for living, and the most common reasons we develop this habit. I’m showing you the power of learning to see the nuance and complexity of our human experience, and because I know this is a lot, make sure to tune in next week for some practical remedies to begin shifting this kind of thinking for good!   Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/146

Tune in to hear Dana drop some amazing tools that will help you get a headstart on finding peace and calm this time of year. She’s giving us insight on how to plan for the worst-case scenarios, what setting boundaries can look like, and her best tips for supporting yourself in pausing the buffering cycle.      Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/145

Discover why I believe the love languages framework is an amazing tool for examining our internal thought rubrics. I’m offering some common thought patterns we may have around giving and receiving love, and showing you why this can be a super fun tool for opening up communication about your preferences.     Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/144

This week, I'm showing you why letting other people be wrong about you is the magical secret to joy. It’s completely normal for us to want to jump to correct others, but I’m showing you why this is a waste of your precious resources, what is driving this need to be right, and how to start focusing on your own deeply anchored self-worth.     Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/143

This week, I'm sharing the relationship green flags from my own life that I’ve cultivated over the years. I’m inviting you to see what resonates for your mind, body, and spirit, and to not just see if your dates and friends are bringing these energies to your connections, but if you are showing up in this way too, and why or why not.     Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/142

My sister Genie Albina is on the show this week and I could not be more excited! We're discussing what we can do to raise kids towards interdependence and reparent ourselves in this direction. Genie is highlighting some key components of prioritizing interdependence for ourselves and our kids, and sharing her best tips for facilitating radical honesty in your communication.      Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/141

This week, I invite you to not only learn to honor your no but applaud yourself for practicing it. Honoring you is a vital part of healing your mind-body-spirit and a huge thing for us to celebrate. I’m showing you why saying no feels so challenging right now, why putting yourself chronically last is not loving, and how to begin living from integrity.    Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/140

This week, I'm showing you why our romantic relationships are where our codependent habits tend to show up. I’m laying out the top 5 challenges we face in dating as codependent folk, and of course, as always, my best remedies to help you begin seeing that you are 100% worthy of love and care in all of your relationships.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/139

Listen in as Alea and I discuss not only the path to breaking through perfectionism, but also the key feminist principles that guide us, the difference between empathy as a gift versus being problematic, and our thoughts on being in oneness versus the rugged individualism we so often see in modern-day America.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/138

This week, I'm sharing 3 tools I’ve used to manage my inner critic. I’m showing you how your inner critic is just a human part that we all have, why we so often believe what it tells us, and how to begin discerning between your gremlin and your highest, most loving self.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/137

In this replay episode, I’m showing you how a life filled with intention is so gratifying, and yes, it can be yours too. By no means is beginning to live life on your own terms easy, but I’m offering some guiding questions to help you get radically honest about what you want because, my love, you deserve it, and I know you’ve got this.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/136

This week I show you how to begin the practice of nervous system resourcing. This is a process all about learning to have your own back in moments of sympathetic and dorsal shutdown, or where you find your anxious or avoidant attachment systems getting activated, and instead come home to and anchor deeply in you.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/135

One pattern I see in all of my clients (and even myself in those moments where I’m not checking my thoughts) is the tendency to catastrophize. Tune in this week to discover how to reparent yourself with love and compassion, so you can break free from this cycle, find the middle path, and catch yourself when your brain tries to throw you back into catastrophe.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/134

If you currently believe the BS story that self-flagellation is the key to change, listen in. I’m showing you why this only leads to more perfectionism and codependency, and how to begin using “Of Course You Did” to tap into curiosity and compassion for yourself.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/133