The Loveable Podcast

“True intimacy is not the absence of privacy or the absence of boundaries or the absence of a separate self—in fact, we need to have our own spaces and limits and identity. True intimacy is the absence of secrets.” The quality of your belonging will be inversely correlated with the size of your secrets. The more […] The post Week 33: The Healing Is in the Emptying [Loveable 034] appeared first on Dr. Kelly Flanagan.

“Relationships can grow stale and stuck. Perhaps that’s just the way life goes and the way love ages. But maybe, just maybe, we can fall into love again by learning how to pay attention again—by giving up all of our judgment and assessment and critique and meeting our people in the field of awareness, instead of upon the […] The post Week 32: Becoming Students of the People We Belong To [Loveable 033] appeared first on Dr. Kelly Flanagan.

“You have a relationship gift. Something you are naturally good at. A way of loving that no one else can do in exactly the way you do it…You can stop being humble about it. You can stop suppressing it and burying it. You can stop being an amateur at it. Own it. Claim it. Inhabit it. […] The post Week 31: Turning Pro at the Art of Loving [Loveable 032] appeared first on Dr. Kelly Flanagan.

“Relationships do not thrive on big things; they thrive upon small things done every day. They don’t thrive necessarily on doing new things; they thrive upon doing old things we used to do and quit doing somewhere along the way. And, if we can set aside our ego for a little while, we don’t need […] The post Week 30: Letting Grace Show Us How to Love [Loveable 031] appeared first on Dr. Kelly Flanagan.

“To live from our soul—the great, powerful, divine thing at the center of us—is, paradoxically, to become aware of our dependence on other souls. When the bad stuff happens, it’s a chance to rely on the good stuff in other people. And the people who bring the good stuff are the people we belong to.” […] The post Week 29: Embracing Your Limitations and Being Embraced by Your People [Loveable 030] appeared first on Dr. Kelly Flanagan.

“Once upon a time, before our wounds and our world made us forget, we knew the good things about us were true. We believed them so thoroughly it didn’t hurt to hear them spoken to us.” In Episode 29 of The Loveable Podcast, we focus on the art of receiving compliments. You see, for most of us, […] The post Week 28: Learning How to Take a Compliment [Loveable 029] appeared first on Dr. Kelly Flanagan.

“When our egos lose, our hearts win.” In Episode 28 of The Loveable Podcast, we dive deep into the topic of empathy, including how essential it is for true belonging, and the five barriers to cultivating it and communicating it. It’s time to exchange protection for connection. It’s time to quit living from your ego and […] The post Week 27: The Essential Building Block of Belonging [Loveable 028] appeared first on Dr. Kelly Flanagan.

“The world we live in is aching with loneliness. Yet, we are rarely aware of it, because in a loud and crowded world, loneliness has a thousand busy disguises.” In Episode 27 of The Loveable Podcast, we discuss how our mass connection culture produces fake news and fake belonging, we explore the necessary requirements for true belonging, […] The post Week 26: The Opposite of Loneliness [Loveable 027] appeared first on Dr. Kelly Flanagan.

“I’m not going to worry very much about offending people anymore, which means I need you to tell me when I do, so I can think about it and decide if I need to apologize.” This is the one sentence that can change the way you love and live. In Episode 26 of The Loveable […] The post Week 25: The One Sentence That Can Change Your Love and Life [Loveable 026] appeared first on Dr. Kelly Flanagan.

“Your time on this big rock is limited, so it is probably a waste of your time to spend it trying to convince people who cannot see the goodness of your heart that it is, indeed, good.” Finding true belonging is not just about finding people, it is also about letting some people go. In Episode […] The post Week 24: The Other Most Important Thing to Look for in a Best Friend [Loveable 025] appeared first on Dr. Kelly Flanagan.

“Belonging is built on bravery.”   Most of us, when we are looking for someone to belong to—whether in marriage or friendship or anywhere else—look for someone who seems either perfect, or a perfect fit. Neither exist. In Episode 24 of The Loveable Podcast we explore what else we might look for in our relationships. Hint: it […] The post Week 23: The Most Important Thing to Look for in a Best Friend [Loveable 024] appeared first on Dr. Kelly Flanagan.

“Every opinion is a story in disguise…Every belief is a story fashioned into a worldview.”   Episode 23 of The Loveable Podcast is all about opinions, opinionated people, and how to go deeper than our opinions in order to form true belonging. We wear our opinions like armor, and this week we’re going to talk about how […] The post Week 22: Putting Stories Before Opinions [Loveable 023] appeared first on Dr. Kelly Flanagan.

“Anger isn’t an inherently bad thing. Anger becomes a destructive thing when we allow it to become a reactive thing instead of harnessing it as a guiding thing.”   In Episode 21 of The Loveable Podcast, we focus on what to do with the anger around us and the anger within us. How do we know when […] The post Week 21: Finding the Fear Underneath All the Fury [Loveable 022] appeared first on Dr. Kelly Flanagan.

“Walls are everywhere in our world…We build them so big they are the only things we create that can be seen from space. It’s like we’re advertising to the universe, ‘Walls matter on this big, spinning rock!’ But perhaps the biggest walls, the most important walls, are the ones that cannot be seen at all…the […] The post Week 20: What to Do with Your Walls [Loveable 021] appeared first on Dr. Kelly Flanagan.

There are two kinds of loneliness. The first kind is a natural and inevitable part of being human—it exists because you exist. The second kind of loneliness, however, is a loneliness of our own creation. And that’s good news, because if we can create it, we can also uncreate it.  In Episode 20 of The […] The post Week 19: From Limping Lonely to Loving Together [Loveable 020] appeared first on Dr. Kelly Flanagan.

“Places of belonging are not meant to be places where our loneliness is taken away. They are meant to be places where we reveal our loneliness to one another…Once you have made your loneliness available to one of your people, you will no longer need to eradicate it. You will be able to touch it without fear and […] The post Week 18: A Kid Named Lonely [Loveable 019] appeared first on Dr. Kelly Flanagan.

“Experiencing our worthiness does not lead us to believe we are self-sufficient; it helps us to be at peace with the knowledge that we are insufficient. We are interconnected. Interdependent. As big as a limitless soul, but as small and as fragile as a human body.” In Episode 18 of The Loveable Podcast, we focus […] The post Week 17: The One Illusion We Cannot Afford to Believe In [Loveable 018] appeared first on Dr. Kelly Flanagan.

“Grace is what happens when someone or Someone sees through our many masks, recognizing and celebrating the innocent little one that still resides beneath all of our disguises…Grace is the assurance that everyone is of equal value and equally worthy, so all you have to do to be loved is show up.” In Episode 17 […] The post Week 16: The Fear (and Joy) of Removing the Masks We Wear [Loveable 017] appeared first on Dr. Kelly Flanagan.

“Ann Lamott once wrote, ‘The grace of age is radical self-acceptance.’ Life is messy and we human creatures are messy. Life isn’t about eliminating the mess; it’s about embracing the mess.” In Episode 16 of The Loveable Podcast, we focus on accepting our messy selves by first accepting the chaos of everyday living. It’s fun […] The post Week 15: The Mess Will Set You Free! [Loveable 016] appeared first on Dr. Kelly Flanagan.

“Guilt is shame redeemed by grace. Shame tells us we are lousy; guilt tells us we did something lousy. Shame whispers, “Your mistakes define you,” but guilt proclaims, “We are defined by redemption, not by transgression.” In Episode 15 of The Loveable Podcast, we are focusing on clarifying the difference between shame and guilt, because it is the difference between […] The post Week 14: The Life-Changing Difference Between Shame and Guilt [Loveable 015] appeared first on Dr. Kelly Flanagan.