Mind-body Stuff

In this episode, Bernice and Kali, revisit the last 2 podcasts with additional thoughts and reflections especially in light of recent current events. They also ask the question - why is it so hard to ask for and accept help - and explore the societal and generational adaptations that have glorified the American ideal of a self-made person.

In this episode, Kali and Bernice talk about their own personal experiences with feeling their light dim, and how easy it is to readjust to feeling less than great. As humans we have a wonderful ability to adapt, which helps in certain cases, but in others allows us to keep living a life less than. They talk about how valuable and impactful the OULA Empowerment Weekend was to remind them of the importance of service and the beauty of lighting our own candles from someone else's flame.

This week, Kali and Bernice discuss the relationship between perspective and perception. Our experiences influence our held beliefs and opinions, and oftentimes we confuse our own personal truths with a fixed reality, but in actuality, it is merely our perception. When we give value to the space between the stimulus and our response to it, we can find the freedom to change our perception of reality. This will then allow us to reprogram our patterns of thought and ask the ego to step aside to make way for understanding and empathy.

In this episode, Bernice and Kali review their struggles and highlights of 2018 and discuss resolutions and intentions for 2019. They reflect on things they've learned, things they still struggle to master and what 2018 brought up in their personal and professional lives. They look forward to 2019 with hopes of balance, joy and meaning.

The holidays can be the most wonderful time of the year, but they can also be challenging and leave us feeling blue. Kali and Bernice talk about where they are at emotionally this holiday season and work through why. They encourage themselves, and their listeners, to have grace when navigating the emotional triggers that this time of year can bring up.

In this special podcast, Kali and Bernice are joined by Frankie Joy! They talk about her birth story, life with 3 kids, and what the "new normal" looks like. As always, it's inappropriate, funny and real. Take a listen and help welcome Frankie into this world!

In this week's podcast, Bernice and Kali talk about the AA concept of being "workers among workers." They talk about how all experiences in life can be seen as opportunities to continue to do the work, to grow and to evolve. They also talk about the danger of putting others on pedestals, because ultimately we are all just workers among workers, and a pedestal is a high place to fall from. They also talk about negative emotions, and how rather than seeking the fastest way to make the feeling go away, to ask what this feeling means and where is it coming from.

With just days to go before Kali delivers her 3rd daughter, she and Bernice have invited B's daughter, Josephine, to the podcast this week! Kali interviews them both about how Jo was raised to be a strong, confident woman and explores their mother-daughter relationship. Kali brings up her concerns and questions about raising daughters and also gets some pretty funny stories out of these two. Take a listen, have a laugh, and learn what to do (and not to do!) when raising children!

In this week's podcast, Bernice and Kali have a heartfelt and tearful conversation on gratitude and ways to drop into it. In the spirit of Thanksgiving, they share personal stories of love and loss, heartache and hope and all of the in between that shape their lives and help lead them towards gratitude. Because really, isn't gratitude the way to compassion and love?

In this week's podcast, Kali and Bernice review their experiences after having done the Let Love In workshop 3 times in the last two months. Some of their revelations are vulnerable and difficult to share, but they are opening up about their personal reflections in hopes that it helps others in their journeys towards letting love in.

In this episode, Bernice and Kali ask the question 'how do we know when to choose the difficult, more challenging path and when to choose the path of least resistance?' The easiest option often tends to feel the best, because it is familiar, but with a little bushwhacking, we often see that the path less traveled opens up worlds within and around us that we didn't even know exist.

This week, Bernice and Kali explore their thoughts around the concept of who is guiding us in our lives, and are these guides helping us live our truths. These guides can be people, expectations, familial pressures, cultural beliefs and can be both inspiring and hindering. Towards the end they talk about what they believe is the root of injustice and intolerance and how doing the "work" can help us understand what our truths are. When these universal truths are recognized within ourselves, injustice and intolerance can not exist.

In this week's podcast, Bernice and Kali talk about how fear and bravery usually always work together in life's greatest adventures. They both tell personal stories about their own interactions with fear and bravery, how we all should consider ourselves leaders and our acts of courage service to our communities. Please find us on our website now at oulafitness.com/mind-body-stuff/

This week, Kali and Bernice reflect on the retreat they had the honor and privilege of hosting in Tulum, Mexico. They talk about the importance of holding space for one another, the benefits of group work, their own personal reflections and revelations from the week and why it is so important to do this type of self work. Tune in and let them take you with them on a journey of self discovery.

This week, Kali and Bernice can barely make it through hysterical laughter, but when they finally recover they dive into the topic of love and boundaries. They talk about a love triad- giving, receiving and love of self and the importance of balance within this triad. They discuss their own personal issues with boundaries and trust and how they struggle with this balance in their own lives. Take a listen, laugh with them, and explore your relationship with love and boundaries.

In today's episode, Kali and Bernice talk about the importance of the story. Cultural healing, societal healing and personal healing come from the courage of those who are willing to share their story. Thus healing themselves, as well as the recipients. As a culture, we have isolated ourselves and are craving connection and community. When we realize that we are not alone, that our stories are shared by many others, and we realize that we have the power to continually revisit and edit our stories, can we truly heal ourselves and our communities.

How many of you have experienced this? You become addicted to OULA and your friendships, partnerships or relationships can't handle it? How do you navigate the conflict that can occur when you have something that your partner doesn't understand or appreciate. I think for those of us who do OULA consistently, we have all experienced this to some degree. Bernice and Kali explore their personal stories around this topic, give their theories as to why OULA can be so triggering, and hopefully provide some guidance on how to minimize the disruption of relationships affected by OULA.

In this podcast, Kali and Bernice discuss the many aspects of women's sexuality. From owning our own sexuality, to being disempowered by the sexualization of the female, they cover this complex topic and ways in which OULA helps us find balance with our own sexuality. Talking about power struggles, aging, fertility and the media, they tackle this topic candidly and go into their own personal journey with being sexual, female beings.

In this week's discussion, Bernice and Kali talk about social media and the effects it has on our sense of self-worth and well-being and the impact it has on real, live human connection. They discuss healthy ways to use social media by asking the questions "why am I posting this" and "who am I following and why?" and also ask us to question how it is either fueling our insecurities or driving us in our personal work. They recognize the power of social media and how it must be harnessed to be beneficial, especially in regards to our children's generation.

In this episode, Kali and Bernice delve into the great influence music has had in their lives. Talking about the power of live music and the memory and energy associated with different types of music, they discuss how they take in and respond to music in the every day. This also translates to the work they do with OULA, choreographing and working with new music regularly.