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In this episode, we cover How To Work A Program, inspired by quotes from Codepe​ndents’ Guide To The Twelve Steps, Melody Beattie (CODA) Quote #1 - “We do this with the understanding that our parents were probably at least as victimized as we were, perhaps more so, but we temper it with the knowledge that understanding does not mean we have to continue to allow ourselves to be harmed or brainwashed.” (p205 Codependents’ Guide, M. Beattie) Quote #2 - “Codependency can contribute to relapse if it is not addressed.” (p209 Codependents’ Guide, M. Beattie) Quote #3 - “Our sobriety began with abstinence and recovery from our addictions. Our lives began with recovery from codependency.” (p209 Codependents’ Guide, M. Beattie) Quote #4 - “The goal of recovery from codependency…has been to restore us to sanity so we could participate in healthy, loving relationships — if that was our decision and choice.” (p212 Codependents’ Guide, M. Beattie) Quote #5 - “There is a great deal of wisdom inherent in the policy

In this episode, we cover Step Twelve of the Twelve Steps Codependents’ Guide To The Twelve Steps, Melody Beattie (CODA) STEP 12 - Having had a spiritual awakening as a result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to other codependents, and to practice these principals in all our affairs. Quote #1 - “Inviting someone to a meeting is a powerful way to help others. Going to our meetings and sharing how recovery works for us is another way to carry the message.” (p185 Codependents’ Guide, M. Beattie) Quote #2 - “Sometimes we share bits and pieces of our story; other times we tell more. By telling our story, we help others and ourselves. By listening to others talk, we become helped. Talking about ourselves, what we are learning, what we are facing, what we are overcoming, is a powerful way to carry the message.” (p185 Codependents’ Guide, M. Beattie) Quote #3 - “The most powerful form of helping others comes from helping ourselves. When we do our own work, feel our own feelings, change our own bel

In this episode, we cover Step Eleven of the Twelve Steps Codependents’ Guide To The Twelve Steps, Melody Beattie (CODA) STEP 11 - Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood God, praying only for knowledge of God’s will for us and the power to carry that out. Quote #1 - “Going with the flow doesn’t mean we don’t rock the boat. It means we finally can.” (p169) Quote #2 - “There are times to surrender, times to let go, times to give in. There are times to wait and times to take action. There are times to be gentle and nurturing, times to give, and times to receive. There are times to speak up, own our power, and take care of ourselves...”(p169) Quote #3 - “Praying is talking to God. A prayer can be a word or a thought. It can be an expression of joy or sorrow. A prayer can be a letter to God. Or it can be a traditional prayer.”(p171) Quote #4 - “We are free to pray any way we choose: standing, sitting, kneeling, eyes closed, eyes open, lying in bed, or w

In this episode, we cover Step Ten of the Twelve Steps Codepe​ndents’ Guide To The Twelve Steps, Melody Beattie (CODA) STEP 10 - Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong, promptly admitted it Quote #1 - “We want to trust our feelings, but we must also call our intellect into play, so we don’t get lost in the swell of unearned guild and defensiveness.” (p157 Codependents’ Guide, M. Beattie) Quote #2 - Then I would feel confused and guilty when the feelings didn't go away. When the other person's behavior continued, so did my feelings. It took me a long time I'm still learning this lesson — to realize that my feelings are often how my Higher Power speaks to me and tries to get my attention about a lesson I need to learn. That lesson may be setting boundaries, owning my power, or learning something about myself and relationships. My feelings are not incidentals. They are an important part of me, my life, and what I need to be paying attention to.“ (p158 Codependents’ Guide, M. Beattie)

Step Nine of the Twelve Steps Codependents’ Guide To The Twelve Steps, Melody Beattie (CODA) STEP 9 - Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others. Quote #1 - “…allowing other people to have their paths and issues and learning to have our own.”(p134) Quote #2 - “...We must work through, and experience fully, our feelings. We must clearly identify and accept the abuse. We need to figure out what our new behaviors and responses to others need to be, so the abuse or mistreatment doesn't continue. And then we will be led into forgiveness.” (p135) Quote #3 - “Sometimes the lesson is establishing boundaries...learning to say no...learning to own our power and respect and trust our feelings, wants, and needs. Sometimes the lesson isn't clear, and all we can do is accept that the incident happened.” (p135) Quote #4 - “Often, the shorter the amend, the better. The cleaner and clearer, the better. The more direct, the better. The more it comes from the hear

STEP 8 - Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all. Quote #1 - “We have been wronged. We have allowed ourselves to be harmed.” (p117 Codependents’ Guide, M. Beattie) Quote #2 - “Much of what we’re feeling that we call codependency is unearned guilt.” (p119 Codependents’ Guide, M. Beattie) Quote #3 - “In what relationships do we need to be able to hold our heads up and allow our hearts to be open and filled with love even if that love comes from a distance and with detachment?” (p120 Codependents’ Guide, M. Beattie) Quote #4 - “The name that goes on the third list is our own name. We are usually the people we have harmed the most with our codependency. We are the people we most need to become willing to make amends to. By repressing our feelings and thoughts, neglecting ourselves, criticizing ourselves, shaming ourselves, denying reality, being so frightened, holding ourselves down, pushing ourselves back, believing absolutely untrue things about ourselves

In this episode, we cover Step Seven of the Twelve Steps Codependents’ Guide To The Twelve Steps, Melody Beattie STEP 7 - Humbly asked God to remove our shortcomings Quote #1 - “I’ve learned that letting go of my defects does not eliminate my personality. It allows it to come through and shine for the first time since I was a very young child.”(p108 Codependents’ Guide, M. Beattie) Quote #2 - “I still don't fully understand it but I’ve learned to trust it. It is a gradual process, a healing process, and a spiritual process. It doesn't hurt, at least not any more than necessary to heal us from past hurts or to get our attention. It is a palatable process, and even the pain becomes palatable, once we become willing to feel instead of resist, once we become willing to surrender. It is not, I learned, an instantaneous process. And there is nothing to fear. Over the years, we become changed. I did not have to change myself. I was not instantly revolutionized…(p109 Codependents’ Guide, M. Beattie) Quote #3

In this episode, we cover Step Six of the Twelve Steps Codependents’ Guide To The Twelve Steps, Melody Beattie STEP 6 - Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character (Our Protective Devices) Quote #1 - “ “I hate the language ‘defects of character,’” said Beth… “I believe we act codependently because we’re wounded. And telling someone who’s wounded he or she is defective or that they’ve sinned or that they fall short of the mark is abusive.” ”(p98 Codependents’ Guide, M. Beattie) Quote #2 - “We become ready to let go of our fear of being controlled- -which for many of us is as great as, or greater than, our desire to control or manipulate another. We let go of allowing others to control us, our lives, or our happiness. We become ready to let go of our caretaking our tendency to focus on the problems, issues, feelings, needs, choices, and lives of an-other; the underlying belief that we are responsible for others. We become willing to be healed from the issues underlying care-taking

In this episode, we cover Step Five of the Twelve Steps Codependents’ Guide To The Twelve Steps, Melody Beattie STEP 5 - Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs Quote #1 - “To begin that process, it is imperative that we unearth, release, get rid of, and be done with shame, fear, guilt, secrets, and anything else inside us that bothers us, causes us to feel less than, weighted down by burdened by, and bad about ourselves. The way to do that is by opening our mouths and getting it out. It is a simple but effective way to begin healing ourselves. We simply tell the truth about ourselves to ourselves, to another person, and to God in an attitude of self-responsibility, acceptance, and forgiveness. There is something magical, but frightening, about opening our mouths and telling the truth. There is also something healing about it. An important part of this healing process we're going through is reconnecting to ourselves, our Higher Power, and other people. Being

In this episode, we cover Step Four of the Twelve Steps Codependents’ Guide To The Twelve Steps, Melody Beattie STEP 4 - Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves Quote #1 - “... We may leave one person because of their particular problem, only to find ourselves in another relationship with someone who has a similar, or perhaps identical, problem.”(p61) Quote #2 - “... What do I need to learn about taking care of myself? And what’s stopping me from doing that?”(p61) Quote #3 - “We are taking this Step to get to the core of recovery: self-responsibility. ... We are responsible for what we have created in our lives and what we will create. We are responsible for our feelings. They are ours.”(p62) Quote #4 - “The great codependency delusion is this: We would be feeling different if someone else would just do something, if we were someone else, if we had something we wanted. Not true...”(p62) Quote #5 - “This Step is the beginning of our own housecleaning. It is where we begin looking wit

In this episode, we cover Step Three of the Twelve Steps Codependents’ Guide To The Twelve Steps, Melody Beattie STEP 3 - Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood God Quote #1 - “Many of us have confused ideas about what it means to surrender to the care of God. Anyone who has battled with control issues may have a hard time giving up, giving in, and letting go. Sometimes we surrender too much. We become victimized, we refuse to take care of ourselves, and we blame that on God.”(p46 Codependents’ Guide, M. Beattie) Quote #2 - “Before I began recovery, I was convinced my life was a mistake. Not only did I believe that I had little business being here, I didn’t believe there was any purpose for my life.”(p47 Codependents’ Guide, M. Beattie) Quote #3 - “We turn ourselves over to God’s care. Then we do our part by learning to take care of ourselves.”(p47 Codependents’ Guide, M. Beattie) Quote #4 - “If I am working my program, then I take the time to ask myse

In this episode, we cover Step Two of the Twelve Steps Codependents’ Guide To The Twelve Steps, Melody Beattie STEP 2 - Came to believe that a power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity Quote #1 - “I don’t have to force or control my recovery. I can do my best to work the Steps and peacefully allow change to happen.”(p40 Codependents’ Guide, M. Beattie) Quote #2 - “A tremendous battle takes place within me on a regular basis. That battle is between the part of me that insists that if I try harder, I can control things and extricate myself from any mess, and the part of me that knows there is a Higher Way, a Way that will lift me to levels of thinking, feeling, and behaving beyond what I could accomplish on my own.”(p43 Codependents’ Guide, M. Beattie) Quote #3 - “Breathe deeply. Believe that a Power greater than ourselves can restore us to sanity. Be grounded on that new level. By believing, we can create the space for that to happen. We stop empowering the problem and begin to empower t

In this episode, we cover Step One of the Twelve Steps Codependents’ Guide To The Twelve Steps, Melody Beattie STEP 1 - We admitted we were powerless over others — that our lives had become unmanageable. Quote #1 “Many of us grew up believing it wasn’t okay to have feelings. That was part of the control we were taught to have - repression of our emotions. Now we are learning that whatever we try to control gains control over us.” (p20 Codependents’ Guide, M. Beattie) Quote #2 “What I did was focus on others: caretaking, controlling, and obsessing about them. What I didn’t do was take care of myself in a loving manner.”(p21 Codependents’ Guide, M. Beattie) Quote #3 “When we love others too much, when we do so desperately want and need what they have — whether that is acceptance, approval, love, or friendship — we may forfeit our ability to take care of ourselves with them, out of fear that we may not get what we need. We may hope that if we hold things in place by willpower, we will finally be safe an

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