Soulfriend Radio

James Nelson and I discuss: James' online dating life. The logistics of winking; whether or not it is always a come on to wink at someone. An anonymous woman asks why men are scared of saying “I love you.” Anonymous asks what to do when you have snooped your boyfriend's Instagram activity and have discovered information you find troubling. Seasons.

Sammy Loren and I discuss: Love Vs. Romance. Nietzsche. Tips for a 32-year-old woman who is entering into an open relationship with her current boyfriend of 2 years. The popularization and normalization of polyamory. Nabokov quotes. The politics of texting when you’re newly dating someone, and what to do when you’re perceiving mixed messages from someone via text. Anonymous asks whether or not it is worth it to speak your true feelings to an ex. Oscar Wilde quotes. Romantic gestures in relationships.

Lorenzo Alvarez, James Nelson and I discuss: Connotations of the words: ‘desire’ and ‘commitment.’ Intermittent texting. Anonymous female 28 is confused by the intermittent text messages from a guy she recently started dating. An anonymous woman is exhausted by the guy she's dating who “wants to joke text all the time.” We separate the top dating apps into the categories of: hookup vrs long term relationship. When desire becomes obsession. An anonymous woman asks about the landscape of modern heterosexual dating. Gaea tells a joke about the wage gap. Anonymous asks for our opinion on what we believe is a normal amount of sex in a relationship of 2+ years.

Pornographer and multidisciplinary artist Margie Schnibbe & I discuss: Her alias Vena Virago. How she got started making adult films. Alt porn. Promoting sex positivity and women embracing sexual pleasure. Margie’s casting process: what types of body shapes and sizes she looks for in her films. Margie’s Documentary: Pornstar Pets. What it was like to have sex on reality TV with a male gigolo. Proposition 60, California's controversial 2016 ballot measure that would have required adult film performers to use condoms. Margie’s audience. What Margie is working on now. Where to find non misogynistic and/or feminist porn.

James Nelson and I discuss: body and pubic hair grooming for men. A woman in her twenties wonders if her boyfriend’s communication will improve, or if she is being overly optimistic about his ability to change. An anonymous female is worried that the guy she just started dating has not had a long relationship in 10 years. Anonymous asks about apologies from her boyfriend. Anonymous is upset because the boyfriend sulks after he apologizes. We explore potential significance and meaning of a man’s recurrent sexual fantasy dreams. James tells us about his dream involving a porn star. A 39 year-old woman has some hang ups about dating a 24 year-old man.

In this "mashup" episode, Amber Sterling and I discuss: How to know if you have found "the one." In laws not getting along with your significant other. Dating someone who "is great" but who doesn't match who you had in mind for your "dream man." Finding closure post breakup. Feeling like you are more in love with your girlfriend than she is with you. Basic tips for conflict resolution. What to do, if anything, when your friends are in unhealthy relationships.

Maxim Ludwig and I discuss: our first breakups. Max tells us about losing his virginity. Getting back together after breaking ups: good idea or, the worst idea. Whether relationships should be mostly laughing, sex and being supportive of one another. A man asks about deciding when to leave a relationship once it becomes “a lot of work to maintain.” Bad sex. Whether or not sex can get better in relationships. A woman asks whether she should break up with a man she’s newly dating if the sex isn’t very good. How to end a casual relationship. Anonymous asks if it is ok to “casually fade away” when you’re dating multiple people; or if you should have a conversation with the person you don’t want to keep dating. A Woman asks our advice on how to handle dating someone who isn’t culturally sensitive.

Sam Johnson and I discuss interpreting signs to gauge someone's level of interest in you after a first date. A man in his twenties asks about dating a woman who he feels is acting hot and cold towards him. First date recaps. Setting monetary limits for dating someone. Dating fatigue. Whether or not it's ok to flirt with your exes friends. If so, how long should you wait?

Kern Haug and I discuss different ways to meet potential loves; how he and I met our past or present loves. Dropping items in grocery stores to meet people. Opening communication opportunities. Kern tells us an adventurous story of meeting friend in a rowboat. I read a listener submitted story by Patrick Lee of Montreal Canada. “Parties & Romance 1973” recalls how he and his male friends met women in Montreal in the 1970’s. How to put yourself in situations where you're at your best. Tips on setting up friends. A man in his late 30’s, just out of a 6 year relationship and used to meeting women at parties, asks for suggestions for meeting women in age appropriate settings. Preferences for being asked out or asking people out. Dating your exes friends.

Vanessa Bellafiore, Lorenzo Alvarez, James Nelson and I discuss their experiences on the dating app Hater. What's the best way to end a casual relationship. How to determine if you're dating someone casually (eg just sleeping together), or if it's more datey. What it's like to be the person who ghosts someone. Navigating the tumultuous waters of being friends with your exes. Transitioning the types of people you're attracted to, and how to know when someone is too vanilla or if it's just a slow roll. Relationships as ice cream flavors.

James and I discuss our post Valentine's Day feelings & Valentine's Day in general. The dating app Hater that matches you with people based on what you hate. James tells us about his experiences on Tinder and Bumble. James tells us about a sexual encounter that landed he and his partner in the ER. Posting photos of your SO on Instagram for Valentine’s Day, when is it too soon / what’s too personal to post. James and I discuss the types of men and women we avoid dating. How long to wait to call someone after getting their number

In a special father daughter edition of SOULFRIEND, my father, Patrick Woods and I discuss: whether my birth was planned. I test Patrick on his knowledge of my love life. We discuss slang that "the kids" are using these days - my father tells us what he thinks the following terms mean: Smashing, Phat, Netflix N Chill, Delfie, Friend Zone, Basic, On Point, On Fleek, Hot Mess, Busted, MILF, Cougar, Amazeballs, Duckface, Bae, YOLO, Resting bitch face, DM, Kicks, Bromance. Patrick weighs in on how to rebuild trust in a relationship once its broken. Patrick talks about getting asked out by women in high school. Staying optimistic when looking for love. Patrick talks about his first kisses & Johnny Mathis parties. First crushes.

Natalie Krim and I discuss: her beautiful, erotic drawings. The boundaries of modern friendships and getting jealous of your SO’s platonic friends. Discussing previous relationships with your current partner. Managing your family's expectations of your love life, when you have a different set of values and / or life priorities. What constitutes love. Keeping people in mind for future potential dating experiences, (in the event that you and your partner break up). Living in a small town and dating your friends exes. Ideas for a woman who has trouble cumming during sex with her bf. How to give a good hand job. We talk to a male caller who keeps getting ghosted by the women he’s seeing. Turn ons for girls (for a guy who is having a hard time dating). How Natalie handles receiving hateful, erotophobic comments on social media. Ideas for how to meet people in a new city.

A festive 'Home For The Holidays' episode, my original SOULFRIEND co-creator and co-host, Emma Barrera and I recap what it’s been like to do the show for the past two years (!!). We also discuss: how sometimes doing your best is good and sometimes it’s shitty. Letting go. Revenge. How life gets easier as you get older. How to get rid of recurring nightmares. Fear and love. Changing belief systems. The holidays. Family. Snuggling with your dog.

Paige Elkington and I discuss what it's like to model for Playboy (she's in the Dec. issue). Seeing people you dated in High School when you go home for the holidays. Gift ideas under $100. for your bf. Puling out. Jealousy in relationships. Deciding who to date when you're interested in multiple people. Best starter sex toys for women. Ideas for meeting people outside of your industry without using online dating. When is it too soon to get a pet with your bf/gf. Whether or not you have a right to be upset if your bf's celebrity crush doesn't look anything like you. What it's like to meet your celebrity crush. First kisses. How many hours/days of no response is considered ghosting. What to do if your husband jerks off to Instagram girls who you both follow and who you find to be the least cute. Getting your partner to be more open to discussing sex.

Cassie Cobb and I discuss gift ideas for someone you have been dating for 4 months. Dumping ppl before the holidays so you don't have to buy them gifts. Instant relationship turnoffs. Common green flags in relationships. Being grumpy in relationships. Managing stress so you don't take out your woes on your partner. What makes a good online dating profile. Increasing your sexual pleasure w/ your partner. How to pick out lingerie for your gf. Getting out of the friend zone without outing itself for having a crush (in case the person doesn't feel the same). Talking about sex with your close friends.

Joey Serxner and I discuss: morning hikes. Instant turnoff animals. Accepting cats on a cat to cat basis. Love languages, (FYI Joey's is French). What does Joey think is yummy for women's fashion. When is it appropriate to invite your significant other home for the holidays...what factors are involved? Sexy movie ideas for dates. Any hard and fast rules for moving in with the person you're dating. The fears associated with getting rid of your tv, bed etc. to merge your items with those of your SO. First & second date ideas. Aphrodisiac foods. Ethics code for discussing STD'S/STI'S with the person you're sleeping with/dating. Tips for giving good blow jobs.

Mells bells and I discuss her written work for a dating website in which she describes her grocery store flirting attempt. Bad online dates. Good music to set the mood. Thoughts about relationships (rebounds) after long term relationships: is it better to feel sad alone or engage in casual relationships? How to be more of an effective communicator in relationships, avoiding destructive blow ups. Tips for a discouraged online dater. Dating people who want to abruptly leave after sex. BDSM basics.

Voice memos of my dreams related to sexual behavior, expression and arousal, love & relationships. A Window into my unconscious mind.

Hadas and I discuss transgender vocabulary. How to talk to women. Getting out of bad dates. When it's ok to follow someone you're dating on Instagram. Dating after breakups/rebounds. Ideas for getting into bdsm & kink. Dating someone who puts a lot of faith into psychics and astrology (when you don't). Dating to not go stale. Determining if you're good in bed. Your partner thinking about other people during sex. Deciding when it's a good idea to move in with your partner. Keeping a positive attitude through the often difficult process of online dating. Loving yourself.