Self-mastery: Becoming A Leader Of Light In A Changing World - Co-creator Network

Have you ever worked with someone that (most) everyone sees as a “nudge”? Have you ever been on a team with someone who just drives everyone crazy? Have you ever had to work closely with someone that just, literally, drains your energy? Wonder if that someone is you? It need not be a life-theme of yours. It could just be a “temporary” set back, when you are just not your buoyant self. However, regardless if it is you, someone else, long term or temporary, there is a core reason that creates “isolationism”. Tune in and listen to what you need to know.

We all complain that we are not being “listened” to. It comes from all directions- personally, professionally and one thing we definitely can count on: we cannot take ourselves out of the equation. Believe it or not, any exchange between two parties involves 2 parties! We tend to forget this when we perceive we are being left out of the loop; however, the responsibility for “whole listening” is everyone’s. We will cover what this means and provide you with a few specific actions you can take today to get the “air time” you really need.

It happens to all of us, usually when we least expect it. We are just not on the same page. As a matter of fact, we are not even in the same BOOK…Yes, we are all laughing because we know it to be true, but when you are in the middle of a performance evaluation, an important meeting, a public conversation, or any interaction, sharing the SAME outlook is critical. What is the source? Where does it all begin? You might not be surprised to know it is expectations…Have you shared yours? We will cover how to get the ball rolling and make sure you know the most important points to share with your employee.

Jealousy is a tricky thing- it comes up in the most unpredictable and inconvenient times. Are you jealous of co-workers when you least expect it? Would you know jealousy when you experienced it, or do you suppress it to a more “acceptable” internal emotional state? Just a reminder, when we chose consciously or unconsciously to push down unacceptable feelings, they WILL surface sooner or later. And when they do, they are more “viral” than ever! In this show, we will chat you up on how to manage the situation in a way that can not only relieve the pressure within yourself and help your colleagues transcend one of the more divisive emotions known on the planet!

It is our supreme pleasure to have our guest, Jonas Congelli, join us for this show. He has emerged as a strategic game changer by virtue of his ability and commitment to demonstrate courage, compassion and commitment. Recently surfacing from a 5 month team development experience, Jonas, once a self-declared skeptic to the integrated approach to leadership, now is choosing to embrace its power. Have you ever wondered how a leader can actually take the concepts and make them viable in the “real world”? If you find yourself curious, tune and listen to this conversation to learn how one intrepid leader became a uniquely confident and poised inspiration to his staff.

What you concentrate on, you will create. Thoughts are things, and like all “things” in the physical world, they have a vibratory frequency. Like attracts like, as we experience magnetism in both objects and relating. So, when you desire something and simultaneously fear you will not “get” it, you send mixed messages to the “universe”, as it were. Why would you care? Because if you are creating the possibility of a promotion, the quality of your thoughts as well as your deeds before hand is critical. They must be aligned to be successful. The problem most of us have, but do not realize, is the need to manage our creative mind-set as well as the emotional “fuel” which drives it. This will prove to be a very valuable show, one which will deliver you a new perspective altogetheron upward mobility.

Is it possible to truly forgive someone who has betrayed you? What if that person is just “someone you work with?” And frankly, why do we care to forgive them if they have sold us up the river? Does it really make a difference in the long run? This is a difficult subject and one which is sure to touch off strong opinions on either side of the issue. The important consideration, however, is one that is infinitely bigger than whether or not to let go of a painful betrayal. The bigger issue and your management of it in ANY capacity, has ripple effects that reaches its hand much deeper into the organization. If you are curious what we mean by that, please tune in live or pull up our archived show to hear how three words can change the future of your organization.

Who ever thought that a bully could be a good thing? Do you? What do you do and where do you go when the bully of the department or organization shows up? How do you make the correct choice when the bully pushes your buttons? Bullies are not what they appear to be and the greatest disservice we do for ourselves is relating to them in the same way we did when 8, 9 or 10 years old. When someone in your life takes a “position”, such as bullying, they can be a powerful teacher for you. That positional relating allows you to take a look at where your emotional intelligence gaps are and manage them better. Tune in so we can give you a few ideas that you can use right awa. Dissolve the hold bullies have on you, friends. It's as easy as listening.

There have been millions made on the re-training of individuals to open the doorway to diversity, the reduction of sexual harassment in the workplace and other dysfunctional and even illegal behaviors. The intention of the Human Resource community has been to educate employees in identifying the “ signs” of harassment, etc. What has not been a focus, however, is the underlying message and lesson that stands behind each of these experiences. Victimhood is a disease of great proportion in the human condition and workplace issues such as these are part of the evolution of employees and people, in general away from that mentality. We have a unique take on this issue from the perspective of self reflection. Please join us to see what we have to say.

Struggle is not a way of life if you know where to focus your energy. That means when you are face to face with anyone who is draining your energy you do have a choice. Most people are so involved in the drama, so exhausted by the tug of war that characterizes the day to day exchanges, they do not know where to begin healing the dynamic. In this show we will talk about the cost of the struggle to you physically due to stress as well as the most important thing to know to dismantle the dynamic of struggle in and of itself.

Passive Aggressive behavior and the people that use it are often totally unaware of this fact. Most often, Passive-Aggressive’s (PA’s), think of themselves as the victim in their relationships. They are masters of manipulation, superior at timing, spinning and reweaving what they say to create positional power in their conversations. They create divisiveness, stress and factions everywhere they go. It is their way to gain and hold power without taking responsibility for their own choices. In our radio show this week, we will discuss how to spot a true PA, the difference between aggressive and truly assertive communication and how to spot your own personal triggers

This is a tricky subject no matter whether you find yourself at work or at home. How do you resolve the age-old question, “if only he (or she) would change…” The easy out on this one is assuming everyone “else” is 100% correct or 100% wrong. It is human nature to be defensive and certainly when you get consistent or thematic feedback from 3 or more sources that the issue is “yours”…The truth is somewhere in the middle and that is what we will focus on in this show….How to sort through the defensiveness and determine if your behavior is causing a real business issue or the rumblings of a few disgruntled co-workers. This is a powerful issue for many and will prove to be a powerful show. Tune in.

Did you have siblings? Brothers, sisters or both? Do you remember when things got the most divisive? Was it in the back of the station wagon on the way to vacation? Could it have been when it was time to set the table or rake the lawn? Perhaps in your house it was when grandparents came by for a birthday or holiday? Do you see the pattern? Backbiting has a history and you have lived its’ painful limitations longer than you will likely remember consciously. If you don’t see the pattern yet, tune in and find out! You will feel a heavy burden lift as you listen to us connect the dots of understanding for you. Once you "get it", you can face backbiting head on and do something constructive about it.

The majority of businesses and the marketplace as a whole are driven by fear. Fear of what, you may ask? FEAR of personal reprisal, of embarrassment, of power diminished. To put it bluntly, business is more often that not run by EGO and the most basic instincts of human interaction….kill or be killed….eat or be eaten…. Fear stops creativity, courage and ultimately limits the productivity of people and processes. FEAR is the single most invasive menace to your workplace, so why do leaders let it transform their lives and teams? How do you know when your employees or co-workers are making decisions rooted in FEAR and not in the freedom that is possible if it is chosen? Tune in and find out!

Have you fallen on your “sword”, taking the fall for those who may not deserve your loyalty? Is it worth it? Have you ever been so disappointed in the leadership of your organization that you considered leaving? When you saw, as Dorothy, Tin Man, Scarecrow and the Lion did, that the Great Wizard was nothing more than a frightened and aging old man? Yes, dissapointment does exist as does your ability to to transcend the temptations to "throw the fight" and lose your integrity does. How do you assess your needs and wants and then put the pieces together in a way that brings some meaning into your leadership role? When temptation is high, your sights can still be clear and your insight accurate and focused. Tune in and find out what we have experienced that might work for you.

It happens to all of us, that moment in time when we come face to face with a stark reality...Our boss is human, and even worse, not necessarily good at being a boss. If this is your circumstance, what do you do? First of all, don’t give up or in- there is hope. You can’t fundamentally change another person- we learned that in psychology 101. However, what most of us have never learned is that you can manage your relationship with your superiors while knowing you can not change their primary style or their core values. Have you reached the end of your rope with this one? Are you contemplating leaving your organization because you can’t work with your director, manager or supervisor? We will cover key points to help you gain perspective, and ultimately, a strategy that can make all the difference for you.

Are you one of those who will occasionally, or more often, double check your conversations, alter what information you might share with your superior, or choose not to pass information along altogether because you don’t know if you can trust what they will do with it? These concerns are real and they affect employees everyday. It is a “taboo” subject in the organization because bringing it up or attempting to work it through can open a can of worms that could make your life even more gruesome. We know we can’t change other people, and so how do we take care of ourselves in the process? How do work for someone who has proven to be untrustworthy? Believe it or not, there are a few things that can help you refocus your attention and even your concerns in a positive direction. Tune in to hear more on the subject that is likely the cause of more people leaving an organization than we would like to admit.

When you are approached by someone, anyone, in your organization, to sort through a round of accusations to find the hidden truth in a situation, you know you have your work cut out for you. Keeping your head clear, your facts straight and STILL attempting to get to the "source" of the conflict can drive you crazy and test your skill as an observer. After all, whoever said one person has a corner on the "truth"...or do they? On today's show, we will reveal what this pattern is really telling you about the employees involved and how you can strengthen your leadership reputation and skill in the midst of chaos. If you are exhausted by the endless list of accusations, undercutting remarks, offhanded barbs in passing or what can look like the tediousness of some folks "mentalities", listen in. Do you know what remedy is really needed? We will help you there too. Do yourself a favor, imagine a world in which you cut your stress in half immediately while teaching others how to resolve He-Said, She-Said dilemmas wi

Resolutions, goals, measurable results, excitement about what we are "finally" going to commit to is what fuels us to step into the unknown, the uncharted territory of ourselves. We sign up for the weight loss plans, vow to quit that unattractive habit and shore ourselves up to begin anew. And what is more, we carry the belief that life is about to change into the workplace, allowing ourselves to dream big! "This department is going to change.", "My relationship with ____ is about to turn the corner.", "I have the ability to get out of this organization and start the business I always wanted.".......... And, two - four weeks later, we more often than not find ourselves right back where we started- frustrated, dissapointed and, in some cases, even desperate for the change we wished for. We give up before we even gave ourselves and each other the chance to make the change. And the cycle begins again. Have you ever asked yourself the REAL reason why these change attempts fail? We will give you a hint- it has t

What a year it has been out there in the world. How has it gone for you, in there, in "your world"? The year end is a time for reflection and a time to project forward into next year, the "next" opportunity to become something that was missing in your life up until now. We believe that through setting goals we will find our way into a better place- emotionally, mentally, physically and spiritually. However, just as soon as those new goals are set, we find a reason to break them, to not "honor" them in some way. And so, the cycle of self blame and judgment and in some cases, despair perpetuate themselves into another "year". We want you to do the opposite of setting goals, in FACT, we do not want you to set any goals at all. In this show, we focus instead, on the process of aligning and allowing as the first and only step you need take to turn your world into what you most truly want. Your answers do not come from pushing harder, they come from listening more closely to the ongoing discussion between "You" an