Sex Within Marriage Podcast : Exploring Married Sexuality From A Christian Perspective

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Synopsis

Answering questions about married sexuality and intimacy

Episodes

  • SWM 099 – November 2022 Anonymous Questions

    17/02/2023 Duration: 12min

    November 2022 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page.  Check out the show notes here for more details and links.In this episode, we are tackling the subjects:Spouse falls asleep during romantic getawayHusband wants her to wear revealing clothesPublic sexAre we responsible for our dreams?How to encourage your spouse to be healthierHere are the links I mentioned during the podcast:Becoming More Sexually Engaged (course)37 Questions for spouses to ask each other about sexLately our Introduction to Talking Dirty ebook has been very popular. I'm looking to update and expand it this year, which will probably come with a price increase, so if you want to jump in at the current price, it's a good resource for $5.Follow us on Facebook, Instagram and TwitterIf you'd like to discuss the questions as they come in, consider joining our private forum.Thank you to all our faithful champions!If you'd like to support our ministry and see it grow, check out our support page for more info.  Even $5/month makes a dif

  • SWM 098 – October 2022 Anonymous Questions

    20/01/2023 Duration: 09min

    October 2022 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page.  Check out the show notes here for more details and links.In this episode, we are tackling the subjects:Where does the energy come from?Mutual masturbationSharing fantasies and machinesMasturbation due to struggles with orgasmingSpontaneous / Responsive desire quizWhy do married men masturbate?How do you meet other people?Can I use sex to encourage my husband to lose weight?Here are the links I mentioned during the podcast:Becoming More Sexually Engaged (course)Upcoming webinar (Jan 21, 2023) about our BMSE CourseMutual masturbation (post)Mutual masturbation (survey results)SWM 093 - Question 3 - Should you share fantasies with your spouse?Spontaneous / responsive desire quiz (beta)Why do married men masturbate?Can Christians have threesomes?Can Christian couples swing?Sexy coupons (printable)Our Sexploration List (printable)Lately our Introduction to Talking Dirty ebook has been very popular. I'm looking to update and expand it this year, which

  • SWM 097 – September 2022 Anonymous Questions

    07/01/2023 Duration: 19min

    September 2022 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page.  Check out the show notes here for more details and links.In this episode, we are tackling the subjects:Where are you?How to hide bruisesWhat role do I have in God changing my heart?Mother of 3 young kids isn't as interested in sex as husbandHow to recover from faking orgasms?Husband wants to be pursuedWhere do you get your garbage theology?Here are the links I mentioned during the podcast:Becoming More Sexually Engaged (course)Upcoming webinar (Jan 21, 2023) about our BMSE CourseCovenantEyes - Porn and more blocker (software)Where did my sex drive go? (ebook)Marriage coachingSWM 030 - Question #1 about credentialsLately our Introduction to Talking Dirty ebook has been very popular. I'm looking to update and expand it this year, which will probably come with a price increase, so if you want to jump in at the current price, it's a good resource for $5.Follow us on Facebook, Instagram and TwitterIf you'd like to discuss the questions as they com

  • SWM 096 – Why men being submissive is problematic

    18/12/2022 Duration: 12min

    Why men being submissive is problematic. Check out the show notes here for more details and links.A reader posed the following question:Hi. I wanted to know if there is any reason that the man can't be the submissive part sometimes during sex. Because I feel like I want to be submissive from time to time, but I don't want to ask my wife because it's an awkward topic.Here are the links I mentioned during the podcast:Anonymous have a question pageWhat does our physiology say about who should lead?According to the Bible, which gender should lead?TheLionWithin.us - Leadership for Christian menIntimacy Advent CalendarFollow us on Facebook, Instagram and TwitterIf you'd like to discuss the questions as they come in, consider joining our private forum.Thank you to all our faithful supporters!If you'd to support our ministry and see it grow, check out our support page for more info.  Even $5/month makes a difference!Lastly, if you like our podcast, click here to give us a rating, and leave us a review. They help oth

  • SWM 095 – August 2022 Anonymous Questions

    30/11/2022 Duration: 16min

    August 2022 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page.  Check out the show notes here for more details and links.In this episode, we are tackling the subjects:Coming clean about faking orgasmsWanting wife to wear a diaperWet and messy / humiliation fetishIs oral sex a measure of love?Married and lonelyChastity playSex outdoorsPre-orgasmic wifeLast chance to jump in on our Intimacy Advent Calendar - a great way to add some intimacy to the holidays. Interested in learning more? Check it out here and get 25% off with the coupon code BLACKFRIDAYHere are the links I mentioned during the podcast:CoachingMarried Sex - Gary Thomas and Debra Feileta (book)Intimacy Ignited - Dillow, Dillow, Pintus and Pintus (book)Becoming more sexually engaged - For Christian wives (course)Introduction to talking dirty (ebook)Follow us on Facebook, Instagram and TwitterIf you'd like to discuss the questions as they come in, consider joining our private forum.Thank you to all our faithful champions!If you'd to support our minis

  • SWM 094 – Anonymous Question: Who is more righteous?

    14/11/2022 Duration: 07min

    Who is more righteous? Check out the show notes here for more details and links.A reader posed the following question:There are two people. The first person participates in the modern Sexual Marketplace by dating around, having a series of mid-to-long-term relationships that involve sex, and having a few hookups, but ends up in a stable marriage and has children by his mid-to-late twenties. The second person follows Biblical Courtship (or whatever you want to call it), saves sex for marriage, only courts/dates Christians, but never finds a spouse and ends up as a 40-year-old childless virgin.Who was the more righteous of the two?Here are the links I mentioned during the podcast:Anonymous have a question pageSWM 063 - Sermon - It's all worth itFollow us on Facebook, Instagram and TwitterLastly, if you like our podcast, click here to give us a rating, and leave us a review. They help others know this is a good resource to help with their marriage. You managed to find us, help someone else do the same and rece

  • SWM 093 – May, June and July 2022 Anonymous Questions

    04/11/2022 Duration: 30min

    May and June 2022 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page.  Check out the show notes here for more details and links.In this episode, we are tackling the subjects:CrossdressingCounseling not fixing her sex driveShould I keep fantasies to myself?Husband addicted to pornWife has no sex driveFaceTime sexSpouse's facial and body hairDoes Viagra work for women?How do I stop her from seeing me as submissive?No sex due to pregnancy complicationsWife struggles with overeatingHow do I stop masturbating?Anal fistingChristmas is coming up, and that means people are starting to get excited about our Intimacy Advent Calendar - a great way to add some intimacy to the holidays. Interested in learning more? Check it out here.Here are the links I mentioned during the podcast:The Lion Within AMA with Jay Dee - November 22nd, 8pm ESTIs it wrong for Christians to crossdress?Why masturbation is a problem, whether you’re married or singleWhat happened to my sex drive? (ebook)Can you divorce a spouse because of porn use?I

  • SWM 092 – How do you know if you’ve had an orgasm

    08/10/2022 Duration: 11min

    How do you know if you've had an orgasm? Check out the show notes here for more details and links.If the number of women who reach orgasm from penetrative sex is as low as the surveys that you mention say it is, how would a couple know if the woman is one of those that doesn't orgasm with penetration? For context, I have been married to my wife for 13 years and we have 5 children...I would say our sex life isn't dry but we aren't all that creative. There have been things that I have suggested doing and have tried but she has told me that they make her uncomfortable (things like me using my hands to pleasure her or go down on her). I think there may be something connected to past experiences with masturbation and the guilt that came with that as a teen...but I have taken the position of wanting to serve and honor her so I haven't pushed it. So, for the past 13 years, we have kind of been doing the same thing once every other week or so. A part of me wonders if the lack of desire on her part is because she hasn

  • SWM 091 – April 2022 Anonymous Questions

    25/08/2022 Duration: 21min

    April 2022 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page.  Check out the show notes here for more details and links.In this episode, we are tackling the subjects:Is it okay to masturbate as a widow?Explaining romance and foreplayIs it unreasonable to expect both spouses to enjoy sex?Is my wife really having an orgasm?Is it wrong to want to be more adventurous?Wife got upset when asked for more frequent sexIs mutual masturbation wrong in marriage?Nipple orgasmsLast month, our most popular resource was Our Sexploration List - a great way to start a conversation about your sexual preferences with your spouse. Interested in learning more? Check it out here.Here are the links I mentioned during the podcast:Is it sinful for widows to masturbate?Truth or Dare (free game)Sexy Marriage game (printable)Christian Fiendly Sex PositionsIntimacy Ignited (book)Is mutual masturbation okay for married Christians?Mutual Masturbation Survey ResultsFollow us on Facebook, Instagram and TwitterIf you'd like to discuss the ques

  • SWM 090 – March 2022 Anonymous Questions

    31/07/2022 Duration: 19min

    March 2022 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page.  Check out the show notes here for more details and links.In this episode, we are tackling the subjects:Husband who gets defensive about possible porn useDid I change my mind about anal sex?How to I tell my wife that more sex helps with temptation?Is mutual masturbation okay if you're separated due to work?Haven't been able to have sex for 4 years due to vaginismusFriend can't have sex with his wife because of prior porn useIs a panty fetish a problem?Wife hates being pregnant and being a motherLast month, our most popular resource was Our Sexploration List - a great way to start a conversation about your sexual preferences with your spouse. Interested in learning more? Check it out here.Here are the links I mentioned during the podcast:Becoming More Sexually Engaged - for Christian WivesFree webinar - August 5th, 2002, 9 pm EasternIs anal sex a sin?The dual control modelMutual MasturbationMutual Masturbation Survey ResultsFollow us on Facebook, In

  • SWM 089 – February 2022 Anonymous Questions

    10/06/2022 Duration: 20min

    February 2022 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page.  Check out the show notes here for more details and links.In this episode, we are tackling the subjects:Fix the alcohol abuse before trying to fix your sex lifeWife who has hourly mood swings and is disrespectfulWife who engages in sex, but isn't sexualOxytocin and porn and masturbationWife wants husband to get a vasectomyClone-a-willy questionLast month, our most popular resource was Our Sexploration List - a great way to start a conversation about your sexual preferences with your spouse. Interested in learning more? Check it out here.Here are the links I mentioned during the podcast:How does porn use harm a marriageThe effect of oxytocin on the anthropomorphism of touchQuestion 9 - Wife who is not attacted to her husbandQuestion 5 - Clone-a-willyBuy your own clone-a-willyFollow us on Facebook, Instagram and TwitterIf you'd like to discuss the questions as they come in, consider joining our private forum.Thank you to all our faithful champions

  • SWM 088 – My Vasectomy Experience

    15/04/2022 Duration: 16min

    My Vasectomy Experience. Check out the show notes here for more details and links.Last month someone emailed me telling me just how amazing they were doing after going through our Sexploration List.  I posted some of their testimonial on social media (with permission).  You may have seen it.During their email, they also asked some questions, which I wanted to pick up here.  Here’s the continuation of that testimonial:But as we chuckled about 9 consecutive days of sex... we both paused...We are 42 and 43 yrs young...  Having another child is not something we feel God is prompting us to do.  We very clearly felt His timing for all 4 kids.  We do not feel any direction that way right now. And so... the V-word crossed both our lips. At the same time. Vasectomy. And I'm not sure what to do… Natural Family Planning is hard when we are keeping each other aroused daily, lol.Your post about your surgery is 5+ years old.... any updates, additional thoughts, additional things to research?  Is there a certain "technique"

  • SWM 087 – January 2022 Anonymous Questions

    20/03/2022 Duration: 18min

    January 2022 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page.  Check out the show notes here for more details and links.In this episode, we are tackling the subjects:Low Drive / Low T HusbandWife won't talk about sexNot attracted to my husbandWife against spicing up sexIs there a difference between having sex and making love?Last month, our most popular resource was Our Sexploration List - a great way to start a conversation about your sexual preferences with your spouse. Interested in learning more? Check it out here.Here are the links I mentioned during the podcast:Free ebook - Where did my sex drive go?Becoming More Sexually Engaged - A Course for Christian WivesBook - Intimacy IgnitedForum Discussion - What is sex?Follow us on Facebook, Instagram and TwitterIf you'd like to discuss the questions as they come in, consider joining our private forum.Thank you to all our faithful champions!If you'd to support our ministry and see it grow, check out our support page for more info.  Even $5/month makes a diff

  • SWM 086 – Sex with a well endowed husband

    11/02/2022 Duration: 15min

    How do you have sex with a well-endowed husband? Check out the show notes here for more details and links.Here's the question I'm answering:I’ve been married for a few years now, and before I got married I was a virgin as was my wife. Before getting married I thought that my penis size was going to be a huge asset. I’m fairly large in both length and girth. Unfortunately, my size seems to be more of a hindrance than a benefit. Even with lots of foreplay and lube my wife is often sore afterwards, so even if she is in the mood, we have to wait until she’s no longer sore. Some positions have become off-limits for fear of hitting her cervix. She is usually unable to have an orgasm with me inside even if I primarily am just providing manual stimulation. It doesn’t feel good to be told to pull out and only use my hand, but I do want her to feel good so I gladly do it. Oral sex rarely happens because her jaw is often sore later. In general, I’m very satisfied with our sex life, but I often feel bad about my size, th

  • SWM 085 – December 2021 Anonymous Questions

    02/02/2022 Duration: 39min

    December 2021 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page.  Check out the show notes here for more details and links.In this episode, we are tackling the subjects:Wet DreamsMoney and MarriageHandjobs and controlIs my dead husband still with me?Are dreams sinful?How do I take control of my marriage?Sex once a yearIs it wrong for a widow to have desires?Unsatisfied with little sexWife suddenly changed oral skillsBest position for first timeIs oral sex a sin?Husband has a lot more experienceMovies to get in the moodPrepping for anal sexHow can I get my wife to show more passion?Issues with wife's self-esteemQuestions about lubeRealistic toysLast month, our most popular resource was Our Sexploration List - a great way to start a conversation about your sexual preferences with your spouse. Interested in learning more? Check it out here.Here are the links I mentioned during the podcast:Becoming More Sexually Engaged - A Course for Christian WivesBook a free discovery call with Jay DeeSWM082 - Question 3 - Con

  • SWM 084 – November 2021 Anonymous Questions – Last post of the year

    31/12/2021 Duration: 33min

    November 2021 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page.  Check out the show notes here for more details and links.In this episode, we are tackling the subjects:Wife becoming less adventurousHow long before porn memories fade?What counts as premature ejaculation?Is getting a vasectomy a sin?Husband isn't acting like a believerIs it okay to talk about sex?Are we going too far?Sex frequency has gone downCrossdressing menRimmingSex once or twice per year since kids were bornConflict over anal playCBD LubeSpankingMasturbation for medical reasonsIs masturbation okay if your spouse can't participate?Will masturbation keep me out of heaven?This year, our most popular resource is Our Sexploration List - a great way to start a conversation about your sexual preferences with your spouse. Interested in learning more? Check it out here.Here are the links I mentioned during the podcast:Premature EjaculationKeep Your Love On - Danny SilkIntroduction to talking dirtyIs it wrong for Christians to crossdress?Is it oka

  • SWM 083 – What is “feeling naughty”?

    16/12/2021 Duration: 07min

    What is feeling naughty? Check out the show notes here for more details and links.Here's the question I'm answering:Hi Jay,Just a general question, what is the feeling of "feeling naughty"? And I guess there are other questions attached, is it sin? Are we describing something that’s simply "different" as "naughty" as maybe we don’t have another reference point in our vocabulary? There’s no great issue in our marriage or anything around the topic, just curious for your thoughts. But as a little context that got me thinking - my wife and I had a night in a hotel recently to celebrate our anniversary (which was actually 6 months ago, better late than never). As a treat and for fun, I bought her some lingerie that had a hole in the crotch area. It was very sexy and she loved them and we made love while she wore them. To which she exclaimed, "It feels so naughty!"…which I had to agree with, but I’d probably describe more like lots of "fun" whether naughtiness was an element or not. Thanks for your good work! Here

  • SWM 082 – October 2021 Questions – Consensual adultery, caught masturbating, handjobs with condoms and more

    30/11/2021 Duration: 14min

    October 2021 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page.  Check out the show notes here for more details and links.In this episode, we are tackling the subjects:Why do people think it's okay to commit adultery if their spouse is okay with it?Caught son masturbating with his mom's underwear - what do I do?Handjobs with condoms on?Guilt about bachelorette partyIs crossdressing normal?The TENUTOHow do I get my wife to come to bed?This month our most popular resource is Our Intimacy Advent Calendar - a fun way to inject some intimacy into the holiday season. Interested in learning more? Check it out here.Here are the links I mentioned during the podcast:Why masturbation is a problem whether you are married or singleIs it wrong for Christians to crossdress?The TENUTO by MysteryVibeTOR 2 by LELOMelt - Couples massage coursesFollow us on Facebook, Instagram and TwitterIf you'd like to discuss the questions as they come in, consider joining our private forum.Thank you to all our faithful champions!If you'd to

  • SWM 081 – The Limon by Minna – Product Review

    16/11/2021 Duration: 11min

    The Limon by Minna - Product Review. Check out the show notes here for more details and links.Get $50 off the Limon by by clicking here and using the coupon code UIBLACKFRIDAY.This month our most popular resource is Our Intimacy Advent Calendar - a fun way to inject some intimacy into the holiday season. Interested in learning more? Check it out here.Here are the links I mentioned during the podcast:The Ola by MinnaLearn how to give a great massageBook - ADHD After DarkFollow us on Facebook, Instagram and TwitterLastly, if you like our podcast, click here to give us a rating, and leave us a review. They help others know this is a good resource to help with their marriage. You managed to find us, help someone else do the same and receive the same benefits to their relationship.

  • SWM 080 – Is premature orgasm a thing for women? How do you last longer?

    11/11/2021 Duration: 20min

    Is premature orgasm a thing for women? How do you last longer? Check out the show notes here for more details and links.The question we're answering today is:Hi Jay,I have a question for you / your podcast.So my husband and I have been married for about 8 months now. It seems like every time he gives me oral sex, I end up orgasming within just a few minutes. Now, as great as orgasming is, I feel like after I orgasm so quickly, I am not as stimulated by penetration. Also, I really enjoy oral sex and I wish the experience could last longer. My husband and I waited until marriage to have sex. But before I was following Christ and before I met my husband, I was sexually active, including oral sex, and this never happened. So my questions are: 1) is this normal? is "premature ejaculation" a thing in women? 2) are there any ways to fix this and/or last longer? and 3) in women, if you orgasm once, is there a "come down" period? How is it possible to have multiple orgasms in one "sex session"?Sorry for all of the que

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