The Intimate Lifestyle

Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder or PTSD is a disorder that kicks in after a massively traumatic event. It’s not a nice thing to see happen in anyone, let alone someone you love.  But it does happen. It’s more often viewed as something that soldiers suffer from, but sexual assault victims are also quite susceptible to PTSD.                   In this episode you’ll learn:   -How to spot PTSD in yourself and in others   -What PTSD is and how it affects peoples lives   -Guilt and how it negatively affects sexual assault victims in the court system   -What to NEVER say to someone suffering from a phobia or PTSD                   Thanks for listening and if you have any suggestions of topics of speakers you’d like us to interview, let us know! If you think it’s important for us to have this conversation, then leave us a review on iTunes, because that’s the best way for us to expand our reach. Sign up for our newsletter to get weekly tips and information we don't share on the show by going to our website. And follo

Premature ejaculation. Or involuntary ejaculation in the words of Esther Perel, author Mating in Captivity (and I like that term better...).  It can plague the mind. Many men have dealt with it in the past. Last week was the first of 4 episodes on Premature Ejaculation.  This week we dive into shame and how it relates to sexual stamina. Finishing too quickly can be a way for your unconscious mind to fulfill it's belief that it doesn't deserve the sex you're currently having. Every Wednesday is going to be Humpday Share, where I share something of my own, or something from the team. Enjoy!

Premature ejaculation. Or involuntary ejaculation in the words of Esther Perel, author Mating in Captivity (and I like that term better...).  It can plague the mind. Many men have dealt with it in the past. For those men who still, from time to time have to deal with it, the next 4 Humpday Shares on Premature Ejaculation will shed some light on some solutions. Every Wednesday is going to be Humpday Share, where I share something of my own, or something from the team. Enjoy!

Kinks and Fetishes are a whole other world of sexual expression. For the "vanilla" people out there, 50 Shades of Grey was risque and dirty and wild. Sara Blaze is going to blow your fucking socks off with the REAL world of Kinks and Fetishes. She's going to talk to you about: -pain=pleasure -consent and hard conversations -LOTS of different kinds of kinks (like needle play, cutting off various parts of the body, whipping, nipple play, and a whole lot more) -the unforeseen amazing friendships that arise from this kind of expression -compassion You can reach Sara at www.metrovancouverkink.com, or you can go to www.fetlife.com to get info for your city.

Mel Mariposa explains the polyamorous relationship dynamic. Polyamory is having multiple romantic partners. It can be dangerous if you don't know how. She explains the following: -What doesn't work -What does work -The right kind of conversations needed to make it work -It's not a nice term for "sleeping around" -A concept called "Compersion" which is the opposite of jealousy   Whether you're in a monogamous or non-monogamous relationship, she's got a lot of advice that will build trust and strengthen your relationship.

Ever tried magic mushrooms? The schnozzberries taste like schnozzberries!  But seriously though, if you do them with intention they can leave you with some pretty life changing epiphanies. My first experience was just that. Life changing. And I wanted to share. Trust me, it's relevant to relationships and sex.   We'll be throwing some more episodes each week your way. Our featured guests will still be on Thursdays, so keep up to date for those. And stay tuned for extra episodes like this one each week. As long as I remember...

Karolina Tatarenkova. A Russian Sex Therapist based in Vancouver, BC, Canada loves talking about cock. And confidence. Cockfidence!  So many men derive their confidence from the size or shape of their dick. This stems from pornography and misguided societal influences.  Karolina will tells us about why that happens, why it's bullshit, and how to generate some serious cockfidence. Cockfidence is the recognition that your value as a man, and in the bedroom, is not reliant on your penis. It’s reliant on you as a lover. And yes, those two are mutually exclusive.  If you’d like to reach Karolina, you can find her at www.passioninlove.com.                 Thanks for listening and if you have any suggestions of topics of speakers you’d like us to interview, let us know! If you think it’s important for us to have this conversation, then leave us a review on iTunes, because that’s the best way for us to expand our reach. Remember to follow us on Facebook at www.facebook.com/modernsextalks or on Twitter at @ModernSexT

Dr Duana Welch is back again to destroy some myths around male emotionality. It’s certainly not a fluffy show. She explains that men tend to fall in love faster, and fall out of love longer and harder. Men also experience love at first sight at a much larger rate than women. Essentially, research has shown that when it comes to romantic relationships, men are just as, if not more emotional, than women. This is shown by statistics that men, who typically don’t need marriage, choose to get re-married more often than women, after a divorce. And statistics have shown that men tend to say “I love you” sooner than the woman. All around this is a pretty interesting episode. Duana is the author of Love Factually: 10 Proven Steps from I Wish to I Do (2015)—the first science-based book to take you from before you meet until you commit to The One. Duana launched LoveScience in 2009. Duana is also a contributor at Psychology Today and at eHarmony, taught psychology at Austin, Texas universities, was twice voted Professor

The ‘swinging’ community, better and more properly termed the Lifestyle, has a bit of a bad reputation. People seem to think it’s for horn dogs, or people who aren’t happy in their relationships, or their relationship is missing something. Turns out that their relationships, and their emotional health, is stronger than the majority of people’s “monogamous” relationships. Cindy and James have been in the Lifestyle for over 17 years, and they even have a business and podcast dedicated to helping people enter the Lifestyle, be that kink, fetish, swinging or any form of ‘monoga’mish’ relationship dynamic. They’ve been through the worst of it together, and even went through a separation, only to return even stronger, with all the tools to successfully enter the lifestyle. And they’re going to share that with you. If you’d like to reach out to them, head to our website for their contact information at www.modernsextalks.com Thanks for listening and if you have any suggestions of topics of speakers you’d like us to

Phil “Teertha” Mistlberger is the kind of man who can peer into your soul, and tell you exactly what you need to hear to create positive change in your life. He’s studied transpersonal therapy and counseling for over 37 years, has three books published, Rude Awakening, The Three Dangerous Magi, and The Inner Light and is currently working on two more. We all have insecurities. We all have actions and patterns that show up in our lives that are counter-productive to what we’re trying to accomplish. Phil uncovers why those patterns are there, how they interfere and how you can find a great relationship. This episode is very deep and involves a lot of introspection, so strap in. If you’d like to reach out to Phil, you can do so through his email ptmistlberger@yahoo.com, or at one of his websites www.Crtrainings.com, www.ptmistlberger.com. Thanks for listening and if you have any suggestions of topics of speakers you’d like us to interview, let us know! If you enjoyed this show, leave us a review on iTunes, becau

Ricardo Scipio is a sexual art photographer. Imagine erotic photography, but meant to be actually real, from real couples, all shapes and sizes, in real sex, and focussed on the experience, rather than with the intent to titillate the onlooker. That’s what Ricardo does. After a decade in the fashion industry as a photographer, he realized his true passion was to capture the real passion that occurs in the bedroom between real couples. And in so doing, help them overcome their shame or insecurity around their sexual expression. Ricardo is very well spoken, and has an interesting past, and it’s clear that he has a passion for what he does. You can reach him at www.ricardoscipio.ca. Thanks for listening and if you have any suggestions of topics of speakers you’d like us to interview, let us know! If you enjoyed this show, leave us a review on iTunes, because that’s the best way to say thank you. Remember to follow us on Facebook at www.facebook.com/theintimatelifestyle. If you have any feedback on how we can imp

Please welcome John Zorklunn. He’s been in the BDSM community for nearly two decades, and has been specializing in Rope Play or Rope Bondage. This is a special type of bondage that can involve very intricate knots, tying up people and then suspending them either from the ceiling, rafters or other instruments. It can also be quite aggressive. The main elements behind rope bondage though, are empathy, communication, negotiation and after-care. Without these elements fully respected, the rope play itself can wind up pretty nasty. This show was incredibly interesting. We hope you enjoy it! If you’d like to reach John Zorklunn, you can find him on Facebook or on www.fetlife.com under Zorklunn. Thanks for listening and if you have any suggestions of topics of speakers you’d like us to interview, let us know! If you enjoyed this show, leave us a review on iTunes, because that’s the best way to say thank you. Remember to follow us on Facebook at www.facebook.com/theintimatelifestyle. If you have any feedback on how w

Devon O’Brien Ash has been teaching men, and women, how to identify their bad social habit that interfere with developing better connections with people. He’s been doing this for over a decade and has helped hundreds if not thousands of men and alike. His style is one that brings out a persons genuine self, rather than adding a layer like some “dating coaches” do to their clients. He’s a leader in his field and knows how to lead by example. If you want to improve your dating life, get more promotions at work, or just take your social life to the next level, then listen to this episode. You can reach Devon at http://www.devonobrienash.com/ and learn his Authentic Social Hacking skills. Thanks for listening and if you have any suggestions of topics of speakers you’d like us to interview, let us know! If you enjoyed this show, leave us a review on iTunes, because that’s the best way to say thank you. Remember to follow us on Facebook at www.facebook.com/theintimatelifestyle. If you have any feedback on how we ca

This episode involves some VERY uncomfortable conversation, but also some tips to really nail it when it comes to being an amazing partner, and finding love. We get into why women need to play hard to get, and how to do that properly, and how to “KILL” your way into a great relationship. We also uncover some cringe-worthy truths behind what the sexes find attractive, and the science that backs it up. Our guest, Dr Duana Welch, is the author of Love Factually: 10 Proven Steps from I Wish to I Do (2015)—the first science-based book to take you from before you meet until you commit to The One. Duana launched LoveScience in 2009. Duana is also a contributor at Psychology Today and at eHarmony, taught psychology at Austin, Texas universities, was twice voted Professor of the Year, and received a NISOD Teaching Excellence award in 2012. Thanks for listening and if you have any suggestions of topics of speakers you’d like us to interview, let us know! If you enjoyed this show, leave us a review on iTunes, because th

Like us on Facebook and Instagram! And check out our growing Resource Page. Women are constantly emasculating men, because they don’t feel appreciated. And men are angry with women, because they don’t feel appreciated either. So neither of us are feeling appreciated, and it’s creating this back and forth separation. A battle of the sexes. How can women learn more about men and encourage them? And how can men learn more about, and encourage women?  The first step comes down to listening. And remaining emotionally steadfast during emotional turbulence, and allowing our partners to be angry, or upset, without judging them.  Our guest, Sheleana Aiyana, has spoken in front of hundreds of people on this topic, and has a company called Rising Woman. This company is designed to empower the feminine, and create more intimacy in their relationships.  You can find her at www.risingwoman.com, or on Facebook at https://www.facebook.com/RisingWomanSisterhood. Thanks for listening and if you have any suggestions of topics o

Like us on Facebook and Instagram! And check out our growing Resource Page. Dr Gayle Friend really believes that personal development and growth is the root of where we start to really have healthy and happy relationships. She goes over her results based, and proven techniques of how to build on the 5 points of intimacy that cultivate healthy relationships. And probably my favourite line throughout this episode, was when Dr Gayle Friend said, “We’re taught to value performance and achievement over connection and intimacy.” It really highlights how we misinterpret intimacy in our relationships. Once we learn how to engage on a mental, emotional, intellectual, physical and spiritual levels, as she explains to us, we can live a truly intimate and loving life. You can reach her at www.drgaylefriend.com/gifts for some tips on how to keep the spark alive, and how to deepen intimacy. Thanks for listening and if you have any suggestions of topics of speakers you’d like us to interview, let us know! If you enjoyed th

Like us on Facebook and Instagram! And check out our growing Resource Page. Today we have the Founder of ManTalks, Connor Beaton. Connor is the leader in a new movement and community centered around opening up the dialogue around men’s challenges in our culture, and what it means to be a modern man. And we can’t think of a better man to be leading this community. Connor is not foreign to challenges. He has openly admitted to struggling with sex addiction, and repeated disloyalty to partners he truly cared for. In this episode, he discusses where that came from, the struggles with guilt and shame, how he’s been able to overcome and integrate that part of who he is, into a healthy, happy relationship. It’s through these challenges that make him a prime candidate to lead men through the challenges they encounter in our modern era. Thanks for listening and if you have any suggestions of topics of speakers you’d like us to interview, let us know! If you enjoyed this show, leave us a review on iTunes, because that’

Like us on Facebook and Instagram! And check out our growing Resource page. Tantra is a lot more than simply breathing techniques and some orgasms. The definition of it is “weaving light and sound through form” as our guest outlines. Jacques Drouin has over 35 years of experience in Tantra and he explains how men can experience non-ejaculatory orgasms. AND he explains how men can experience up to 8 different types of orgasms, women 11, and how women’s sexual energy is more powerful than men’s. He also dives into some more spiritual takes on tantra, orgasm, energy, and human connection. This show offers primarily mental shifts and explanations of what tantra is, and some new perspectives on how to view sex, intimacy and pleasure. In the second half, he gives some basic useful tools that you can use at home. If you want to learn more about tantra, he can be reached at www.tantricartsoflove.com or www.tibetantantra.com. Thanks for listening and if you have any suggestions of topics of speakers you’d like us to i

Like us on Facebook and Instagram! And check out our growing Resource page. This is a very interesting show. Enter into the world of sensual ‘erotic’ massage. Ki has been doing whole body, genitals included, massage for over 10 years. He and his partner, Aurora, have an exceptional amount of experience in sensual massage, and even give regular live demonstrations of G-spot massage, squirting orgasm, vulva massage and cock massage. They also get into their profession, the legalities of it in Canada, and why some people would want to go for a sensual massage. Such as after a hard breakup, and wanting some physical touch, but not ready to date or sleep with someone new. This is a very interesting episode with a ton of useful tips for single people and couples who want to spark even more desire in their bedroom, and improve their own, and their partner’s sexual experience. If you want to reach Ki and Aurora, you can contact them on www.massagebyki.com and www.erosha.com. Thanks for listening and if you have any s

Like us on Facebook and Instagram! And check out our growing Resource page. As a heads up, this episode is primarily focussed on men finding the right partner. Myke has a really interesting story. He came to Canada from the Phillipines as a teenager in high school, having never seen a microwave or white people. He couldn’t speak English, was overweight, and was incredibly shy. After years of loneliness, he dove into the world of Pick-up Artists and started to learn how to be a social, confident man. After doing that for years, he decided to move away from the Pick-Up Artist world, and started his own business as a dating coach. In his own brand, he focusses on helping men find the confidence, and social skills to overcome social anxieties and bad habits, and he does so with integrity. His motto is to always leave women (and men) better then when you found them. Myke can be reached at www.socialmanproject.com, and he has free webinars for you to listen in on, and get some tips to find your ideal partner, build